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Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 2:54pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
good.. so who determines when there should be a compromise EnlightenedSoul: |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 3:01pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: The situation determines it. If we both feel strongly about something, we'd obviously need to come to a compromise. However, one should also learn when to give way to the other. You should try to make each other happy whenever possible, give and take. The last thing you need is a power struggle. 2 Likes |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 3:14pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: So the views are not so vastly different after all? |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 3:17pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: From what I gathered, there is neither compromise nor give and take in your model. It's all take? Correct me if I'm wrong... 1 Like |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 3:22pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: why did u think that..i never said so See my post below pickabeau1: |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 3:29pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Because you said: pickabeau1: Although I agree with the importance of compatibility/commonality, the bolded is him going solo every time a disagreement occurs. There is neither compromise, nor is there any give or take. What's the point of having an opinion? Your opinion matters only so long as you agree? 3 Likes |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by coogar: 3:44pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: what kinda question is this? who else should head the home? the kids? the pet animals? of course, the man is the head of his home irrespective of his class, status, IQ or whatever. if the wife doesn't feel so then she shouldn't have married him in the first place. 2 Likes |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 4:03pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: I guess you missed this We are talking of a small bunch here...she may be the best person to make the call then coogar: lol... |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 4:10pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
LOL...Coogar has come again |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 4:12pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: I noticed it, but I also noticed the nuances in the two statements. And btw, I don't believe all decisions need to be made jointly. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 4:12pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: ok.. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 4:15pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Do you believe every decision has to be made jointly? |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 4:17pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: i thought we thrashed this already My earlier post pickabeau1: |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 4:22pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Yes, but I'm asking you. Do you believe as husband, you have to discuss every little decision with your wife? Curious. I think it depends on impact, but that's just me. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 4:27pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: I agree with this I said earlier...90 percent of decisions in my opinion need no discussion as values are expected to be compatible if courting is done right |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 4:37pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1: Fair enough. I think I would die if every little thing had to be 'discussed'. Although I would highlight and underline the importance of communication. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 4:48pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by coogar: 4:49pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Kayworld26: what's your opinion? do you want to be the head in your house? |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by r231(m): 5:32pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
coogar: simple as ABC |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by shizzleStar: 6:36pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1 why is Enlightenedsoul drilling you like this? she will be like...'na me send you open thread?' |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 6:37pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
The drilling was major..lol But shes not into the wars which happen here so i answered her shizzleStar: |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by shizzleStar: 6:45pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
pickabeau1:lol...you right... i noticed too, she isnt like the annoyingly aggressive and 'toutish' type 1 Like |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 6:45pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
1 Like |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 9:24pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
shizzleStar: Lol you've obviously never been drilled. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by thorpido(m): 9:46pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Lol at ladies who are avoiding the word headship but still implying it. What's wrong with headship?It doesn't mean someone who makes all the decisions in a family or lords it over the other partner.A good head obviously allows others to make contributions and even take responsibilities. There can't be a vacancy of a head in a home so someone is the head definitely. I understand some women have decided to wear the shoes and keep their men under them. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by pickabeau1: 9:53pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
So you noticed? Lol thorpido: |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by lilmax(m): 10:05pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
Where is vicky |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by shizzleStar: 10:23pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul:have been but not on this your level...'class drilling' Hope you not planning to drill me?...lol |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by CAMNEWTON4PRES: 10:45pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
I'm the head, I lead she follows |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Nobody: 11:59pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
shizzleStar: I just wanted to see where he was coming from, and what the point of this whole 'headship' thing was to him. |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by shizzleStar: 8:18am On Nov 08, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul:ok |
Re: Views: Headship Of The Family by Kimoni: 10:47am On Nov 08, 2014 |
thorpido: Same goes for a lot of argument in this section, both sides implying the same thing but calling it different names, yet this arguments can go on for ever and get really bloody. It amazes me Maybe if these arguments starts with personal definition and objectivity from both sides, Family section would be devoid of senseless arguments and fightings. |
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