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Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Busybody2(f): 7:56pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
naijababe: Having used all my brain cells finish to read and assimilate all these ogbonge big big English words, na to siddon look remain or go practise my a,b,d so I go fit reply in Yoruba language shoot, procastination will not kill me. First thing tomorrow morning I promise biko, dang, I'm sowwy |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by freecocoa(f): 7:56pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Joavid:Polygyny is when a man is married to more than one wife, polygamy is a state of being married to more than one spouse. Both a man and woman can be polygamous but when a woman is married to more than one man its called polyandry. 1 Like |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by bukatyne(f): 7:57pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
netotse: I will stick to equality What can men do that women can't if they put their minds to it? What can women do that men can't if they put their mind to it apart from clearly defones biological roles? What is that characteristics that is common to all men and all women? When you want to deal with people deeply, you do so on a personal level and not all men/women are the same 3 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by bukatyne(f): 8:00pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
SirShymex: And ladies don't banter? Or when guys are rude to themselves and ladies it is banter but when ladies do same it is been crass? 9 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by RedArrow: 8:00pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Lovely post. I guess we shlould try to know the difference btw being Firm and affirmative to being rude and disrespective. Most men have problem of insecurity. The main reason they see firm and affirmative women as being rude and disrespective. 5 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:01pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
A woman who disrespects her hubby under the pretense of feminism should be smacked. People are just misusing the 'word' sef. I don't think feminism means the same thing everywhere. It's beginning to be used selfishly and it's losing its true essence. Come on!!! I don't get arguments, really?! In that babe3's video, the woman was mouthing off so much that I also felt like slapping her. Just for embarrassing me. Because i'll be so shamed, raised voices just doesn't settle anything. 6 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by freecocoa(f): 8:01pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
bukatyne:The hypocrisy, smh. 3 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by troy20(m): 8:03pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
the unavailability of "true" male role models have done no small damage to those "true nigerian men" 4 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:03pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
bukatyne: No it is not, netotse post succinctly explain the difference. Equality is me changing the tire of the car just because my husband changed it the last time. Equity is me pointing out the flat tires and him changing it even if he changed it the last hundred times. We can agree to disagree. @ Busybody2, na me you dey yawa so! God dey!!! |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by kaboninc(m): 8:08pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
BABE3: Now for this, I love you! 1 Like |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:11pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Majority are busy chasing money. Yahoo Yahoo, ritualists, boko haram, 419ners, in jail overseas, abusing their wives , sowing seeds every where, running away from child support, sitting at home waiting to sell their daughters as bride price, kidnappers, bribe takers etc. Very very few have their heads screwed tight. Nigerian men don spoil Nigeria finish, dem go wait at embassy, Morocco route, just to have a taste of life in the west where people are treated as human regardLess of gender. Make una dey dia dey find better Nigerian men, una go old. Kikikik. 8 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
AjanleKoko: The end of the matter |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by 19naia(m): 8:13pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
There is always the issue of not being able to really know someone until you have walked in their shoes or lived in their dreams in their mind and feelings.. Then there is also the issue of Men and Women being on different biological stations even though we are all human beings the same.. So its easier for men to understand men and women to understand women.. That rift will always be a hurdle for generations... Men will never have to face or experience some major things about being a woman, the same goes that women will never face or experience some of the major things about being a man.. This makes connecting and perceiving reality a bit different among each side of the gender gap.. As women seek equality, many women get caught in the trappings of trying to compete against men in a mans game, rather than bring what they are as women to the table and change the game entirely.. Certain roles are more naturally geared to men and others more naturally geared towards women.. We know all men would be cowards to give birth to a child... And we know women would be un able to keep up with mens physical strength.. A woman can become stronger in muscle than many men if she works hard, but if a man puts in as much work as the strongest woman, he will naturally have strength beyond the strongest woman and thats why muscled women register in a different strength category than men in fields of proffesional competition.. Even in Fighting sports.. Different organs, different hormones and different metabolic functions exist between men and women... The Idea of equality is not exactly fitting the idea of identical measure and makeup... The same goes with determining real men or women, or strong men or women.. What is real? what is meant by strength? Is it wisdom, kindness and forgiveness? Is it ability to endure hard times while working towards better days? Is it a fighter who will dominate in bloody Quarrel to acheive their rampant desires? Some people believe real and strength are soft kindness that understands and forgives when people are wrong or falling short of acheiving expectations in life... Other people believe real and strong is being hardened and pushing relentlessly to get what they want from whoever they decide without restraint because they are convinced the world is a hard and wicked place that only the ruthless can survive or prosper in... All ambition and search in life reveals its true nature when one becomes old and grey in the last years -able to honestly look back and honestly ask, "what was it all about and was it really worth all the stress caused along the way?".. What is real and what is illusion? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by MichaelSokoto(m): 8:13pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
naijababe:Eh, now dat u mentioned it, lemme expantiate a bit. Dat woman Turai use Jonaboy clean ground, aaaaswear |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by kaboninc(m): 8:16pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
naijababe: That's not equality my dear. That can be a sense of taking responsibilities. We talk about equality in terms of access to opportunities such as education, career, etc. But when it comes to the home, we're not equal. The man is just simply the head. 2 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:16pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
50calibre: Yes, she did raise a few points, and she's definitely one of respectable heads here, with a lot of experience. And she understands life and the world better, than a lot of these other empty noisemakers. I don't even think the legend of King Sango ever walked this planet. I believe he was an allegory. Even at that, legends have it that he had many wives, and his favourite wife was an independent and strong black woman. And that shows African men have always adored strong black men. So, why do these African women need feminism, when independent women have always been the pride of African men? That's what I keep saying all the time. I still don't know any guy who wants a docile slave for a wife, in today's world. Marriage/relationship is more like a support system these days, and you need your other half than ever before. Hence it's just natural to be supportive of whatever she does, and be a catalyst to push her to achieve greatness. And vice versa. Folks just love conflating issues when it comes to the type of competitiveness required in marriage/relationship. Yes, you can challenge the head/authority. However, you can't be rebellious, insolent, and disrespectful while doing it. Once you become a rebel, then there'll be a break-down in the union, and that's what most men don't like cos there can't be two captains in one ship. Those women of yore understood that perfectly. Thanks, man. These women aren't loyal. More time, it's because they're in it to gain something. And once that thing isn't there anymore, they'll blow with the wind. Yet they're questioning men who are just trying to outsmart them, and not become victims. They need to get back to the basics, and do away with the counter-productive propaganda that's more or less the bane of the black family structure today. Ask these folks about what feminism has added to the life of the average black woman, and I'm sure none of them would be able to answer the question. Hence why I call them airheads cos not everything in fashion, is worth emulating, from a cultural perspective, which is how most folks have been programmed, from birth. Also, one thing most of them don't understand is that: most guys are subconscious programmed from young age with the image /virtues of their mothers, as what the average woman should be. Then the environment/society at large also plays a role in shaping up everything. Hence most folks will always marry folks from the same group/background. It's just the subconscious aspect of life. And once you can't find that woman you saw/see in your mum, you'll settle for the anything. That's where the clash comes in - and the need to always adapt to the new space you're in. Evidently, as you adapt, you'll move away from your "comfort zone" in order to deal with the new situation you're in. 3 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Shirley07: 8:17pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
freshdude2:Busy in my search for a shrink for your prob. |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by bukatyne(f): 8:18pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
naijababe: Lol! Even if you cannot change it? No problem, I get where you are coming from 1 Like |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:19pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
BananaBender: How does it reflects poorly on me? Am I their mum? It's either they weren't raised right, or they just got caught in the matrix of trying to act like a man. 3 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:21pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
destante: These women are utterly disrespectful! Women need to start acting like women, not trannys with willies. 1 Like |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:26pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
naijababe:Let me break this down for you. Equity, involves trying to understand and give people what they need to be the best. Equality, in contrast, aims to ensure that everyone gets the same things in order to be the best. I most times do agree with a more capitalistic concept, where everyone is given what they need tailored to their strength but the problem with gender equity is who are those in charge of deciding what my strengths are or what I have to be the best in. How do we weigh strength, characteristics or properties? Gender equity is a fallacy because it disregards individuality and feeds on gender roles. Gender equity tells me, this is your characteristic, this is your strength and properties; take this things and go work on it. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by honeric01(m): 8:27pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Observing... Naijababe, i am observing.. |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by CHoccolaTE: 8:27pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Why are men so scared of gender equality? What are you scared of? If you truly don't believe that women are equal to men you won't spend hours and hours trying to beat down the claims of women that believe in equality. I wouldn't spend hours arguing with a person that claims the sun doesn't exist because his claims are too ridiculous to take seriously or bother about. You people live in fear of losing your unfair privileges so you keep reiterating your caveman claims of how gender equality cannot exist. If you don't believe in equality then you believe in inequality, there are no two ways about it. Don't hide under the ridiculous notion of 'equity' and not 'equality' because it makes no sense at all. once you don't agree that both genders are equal then you have agreed that they are unequal meaning that you think one gender is superior to another, which is a stjupid thing to do because superiority in people can come in very many forms. Of course we cannot all be equal as humans, if you take both genders aside you find that differences exist in individual males and females, do we now set about creating different 'equity' laws for each and every person on earth? Gender equality is not even about turning men to women or women to men. It is providing fair and equal opportunities for both genders and realizing that both males and females are equally important in the scheme of things and deserve equal respect. I think society as a whole will progress faster if both males and females are given opportunities to develop their potentials instead of forcing an entire gender into a box of stereotypes because of how they were born. You lot complain that women are dependent, gold diggers, lazy, do not strive to attain great heights in life etc etc. Do you not realize that stereotypes is a great part of what keeps them that way? Do you not realize that many of them even though they have the ability to do great things will not bother trying because they have been brainwashed to believe they are less intelligent or less capable than men? Or that they should live their lives in the hopes of becoming nothing but their husband's helper in future? If you remove all these nonsense stereotypes people will start to look inwards and see that they can actually do great things and break grounds that can move society forward............... but then unfair privilege is more enticing to many men than the progress of society. 17 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:28pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
SirShymex: It says a lot that to them, acting like men means being disrespectful. If y'all stop being so darn rude, maybe you can set an example for the women you claim to 'lead/head'. 6 Likes |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:29pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
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Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by CHoccolaTE: 8:30pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
bukatyne: No oo, when guys insult ladies (like they are wont to do because of insecurites) its ego and macho pride and god knows what else. When women do it, it means they are badly brought up and ghetto and rude and that all the respectable women have gone extinct. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
bukatyne: A very shocking definition, I have to say. |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by tellwisdom: 8:31pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Please, what does the Op want??...She wan marry me?? 1 Like |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Nobody: 8:32pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
BananaBender: Some folks are just not coachable, and in team sports, they're called a cancer in the dressing room. That's the belligerent/rebellious nature of a lot of black women these days. Hence the term "angry black woman" was coined. 1 Like |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by bukatyne(f): 8:34pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
ileobatojo: I guess we all have our outlook about stuffs |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by Emmaomotob(m): 8:35pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
naijababe:What is this one saying? 1 Like |
Re: Where Are The Majority Of True Nigerian Men? by bukatyne(f): 8:35pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
CHoccolaTE: I am waiting for him to clear it up |
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