carefreewannabe:


Really?

What did you get your pay raise for? For your absence?

naijababe:


Lol...........yes really! My pay raise was for the work I did while I was pregnant, my pay raise was effective on the first day of my return.

carefreewannabe:


So you worked when you were pregnant and you got more money for the work you did and not because you were pregnant, right or wrong?

ochon:


I'm at Sambisa forest.

SirShymex:


Stop the madness!

If "a patriarchal society is unjust, and males have an unfair privilege" - can we also say Western Civilisation is also unjust because of white privilege?

Gender equity is the process of being fair to women and men. To ensure fairness, strategies and measures must often be available to compensate for women’s historical and social disadvantages that prevent women and men from otherwise operating on a level playing field.

Equity leads to equality. Gender equality requires equal enjoyment by women and men of socially-valued goods, opportunities, resources and rewards. Where gender inequality exists, it is generally women who are excluded or disadvantaged in relation to decision-making and access to economic and social resources. Therefore a critical aspect of promoting gender equality is the empowerment of women, with a focus on identifying and redressing power imbalances and giving women more autonomy to manage their own lives. Gender equality does not mean that men and women become the same; only that access to opportunities and life changes is neither dependent on, nor constrained by, their sex.
http://www.unfpa.org/gender/resources_faq.htm

"Gender equality" means equality between men and women; the freedom to develop and make choices unhindered by gender stereotypes, roles and prejudices; that the different behaviours, aspirations and needs of women and men are considered, valued and favoured equally. It does not mean that women and men have to become the same, but that their rights, responsibilities and opportunities do not depend on whether they are born male or female.

"Gender equity": According to the Concise Oxford Dictionary (7th ed., 1982) equity means fairness and it is also a recourse to principles of justice to correct or supplement law. It is in this sense that specific measures must be designed to eliminate inequalities between women and men, discrimination and to ensure equal opportunities. Gender equity leads to equality.
http://portal.unesco.org/ci/en/ev.php-URL_ID=3443&URL_DO=DO_TOPIC&URL_SECTION=201.html

BananaBender:


What is Western Civilization? And how does it to tie to white privilege in America or the west. The latter wasn't even a known concept until the 20th century. Just answer my question first.

SirShymex:

Heck, I'm trying to think of any black woman that has broken new grounds by achieving something ground-breaking in the last 20 years - can you please help me out cos I can't remember any?

birdman:


its your fault if you cant think of any. you need to broaden your horizon some more . But I agree with some of your main points though. Embracing an euro-centric view of equality has cost a lot of fine, accomplished black women big time. Being headstrong and self centered appears glamorous on tv and magazines. In real life, its a setup for wasted potential. And unfortunately, in real life, there is no do over .

I wonder how it came to be that men equate strong women with disrespectful women. Or that women think that in order to be strong, you must be cantankerous and headstrong. I suspect both black men and women have imbibed more european values than we care to admit.

BABE3:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Czb4rImsph0

Yes, the world has changed. Every one has started growing wings. Oba, oya and Osun were strong and respectful to their husband Sango; so were the other women you mentioned. Strong in today's world has a new meaning entirely.

Any normal man will be satisfied with a strong and respectful woman. But what do we have nowadays? Obnoxious ídiots growing wings and using feminism as a mask to cover their crassness. That's why it seems like men want a "yes" woman. Men can't even be men again. You want men to be men? then give them a chance to be men.

"I'm strong and independent. .I am a grown woman I can do whatever". yeye people.

Using the video i posted as an example; this is what we now considered as strong. Don't be surprised if the girl doesn't get charged with assault and the guy does.

freshdude2:
Good post, that is, until you attempted to sneak this in. We know strong women when we see strong women. Strong no be for mouth. No be person wey shout pass na im strong pass. I grew up around strong women, in th home, school, church, etc. We also grew up seeing rude, disrespectful, cantankerous women and we can tell the difference. Your post seeks to equate strong to disrespectful, sorry, that aint gon fly. We love strong women, how else would we have strong families. Strong women can be rude and disrespectful but those are not requirements of being a strong woman.

SirShymex:


Lol, trail-blazing black women these days, in terms of ground breaking achievements, not fake heroes created by the media, are a rare breed, hence it's difficult to even name one off the top.

CityNG:


My Wife is very soft spoken, 22 years younger than me

birdman:


22 ke? how did you pull it off?

naijababe:


I agree completely, I just wish the ones who can't will readily admit it so we can move on to the ones who have the wherewithal.

Gender equality is the worst thing that has happened to the human race

ileobatojo:





Gender equity can never be divorced from gender equality. It is really pointless to claim to support one but not the other because they are both closely intertwined. Gender equity is like the 'affirmative action' through which true gender equality is achieved. It simply gives women extra benefits to help them achieve equality. Levels the playing field. So thanks to all the "anti gender equality" people who support gender equity. More benefits for disadvantaged women? We'll take it.

BABE3:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Czb4rImsph0

Yes, the world has changed. Every one has started growing wings. Oba, oya and Osun were strong and respectful to their husband Sango; so were the other women you mentioned. Strong in today's world has a new meaning entirely.

Any normal man will be satisfied with a strong and respectful woman. But what do we have nowadays? Obnoxious ídiots growing wings and using feminism as a mask to cover their crassness. That's why it seems like men want a "yes" woman. Men can't even be men again. You want men to be men? then give them a chance to be men.

"I'm strong and independent. .I am a grown woman I can do whatever". yeye people.

Using the video i posted as an example; this is what we now considered as strong. Don't be surprised if the girl doesn't get charged with assault and the guy does.

pashaun:



Bullsh*t

thorpido:
There's nothing wrong with strong independent women.The examples you gave were strong women.
However,did you look beyond just the public image they exhibited?
These women worked WITH their husbands.They organised their programmes along with their husbands.
The problem with the ladies of nowadays claiming to be strong,independent women is that they come off more as rude and obnoxious and selfish just to prove they can do their own thing.

back2sender:

Wetin you learn. So you can't google to find out the meaning if dictionary had you to read.
The kind of laziness displayed on NL is alarming.

CityNG:


Thank you of this wonderful response.

My Wife is very soft spoken, 22 years younger than me. 4 weeks after she had a C section she sent me off to Nigeria for 3 weeks. Now that's a strong Woman considering also that she's only been in the US for 10 months.

Being disrespectful, arrogant, pompous, spoilt brat, unappreciative, loud does not equate to a strong Woman.

freecocoa:
What about it?

Lilimax:
A woman marrying more than one husband.
I can't imagine it

freecocoa:
If you can imagine a man marrying more than one wife, you should be able to imagine it.

Mondisweets:
let me come and rescue you.

Arsenate:
if you are honest with yourself you'll know that more two women can be pregnant for one man at a time while a woman can only be pregnant for one man at a time.
the truth is men and women are different
hey...not like I condone polygamy

freecocoa:
And how does that prove that women can't marry two husbands?

freecocoa:
If you can imagine a man marrying more than one wife, you should be able to imagine it.