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Re: My Father Hates Me! by Abbey2sam(m): 9:10am On Nov 16, 2014 |
flickers72: this dude is funny sha |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by holatin(m): 9:18am On Nov 16, 2014 |
Abbey2sam: k come to my room upstairs, come alone ! |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by flickers72(m): 9:23am On Nov 16, 2014 |
Abbey2sam:[quote you might think you're civilised or on top of the world,call me dude,I'm funny,not sure you call your dad dude,you are just 26 we see how it goes when you're 50,got better things to do,ok?Keep living the dream |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by debonairprinx(m): 9:44am On Nov 16, 2014 |
waleyp:You said it all. Maybe he should ask his mum what happened on his birth day. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by TDstarr: 9:54am On Nov 16, 2014 |
He doesn't pay your feees , get a job and move out of the house, GET some BALLS and be a man. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by janejive(f): 9:57am On Nov 16, 2014 |
Pls leave his house for good, as u are now an adult and ur mom is the one taking care of u financially asides from you eating in his house. Please go look for somewhere else to stay, or better still go meet ur mom in Eygpt. Pls remove ur mind from commiting sucide and concerntrate more on suceeding in life. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Abbey2sam(m): 9:59am On Nov 16, 2014 |
flickers72: I was under the impression that our age is not suppose to come into play on social forums like this |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by flickers72(m): 10:04am On Nov 16, 2014 |
[quote author=Abbey2sam post=28059812][/quote] Just as I was under the impression swear words are unacceptable on here,yeah? |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by gorgeousnogo(f): 10:08am On Nov 16, 2014 |
elwire:my dear, why dont you try and get admission in a university that is very far from your father's house. My coz left after 200level to start 100level again in another state just because he doesnt want to continue going to school from home. U can do it dear, your life is so precious 4 that abuse. You really need to man-up, read hard, get another admission in another state and start working to support urself. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by ccnation(m): 10:33am On Nov 16, 2014 |
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Re: My Father Hates Me! by waleyp(m): 11:41am On Nov 16, 2014 |
Lol over power who? |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by waleyp(m): 11:46am On Nov 16, 2014 |
Lmao... I dont even know how cultists talk.... Pls can you teach me? Cultists who know how cultists talk..... Bro am just here giving out a piece of advise.... Am just doing me ok? |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 11:54am On Nov 16, 2014 |
so sad |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 12:19pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
I knw watz wrng wit ur dad,..ur step mum z controling ur dad,eida spiritualy or seductivly,ders only a solution ask GOD 2 destroy her power ova ur dad...bestluck 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Mujinho4b(m): 12:21pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
Dude... Just b patient.. It won't last 4Eva... If u hia my own u go cry... |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by dahmie2013: 12:40pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
OP, please just be careful&dont engage in any fight with him. Just pray 4 him&ask God 2 give u d wisdom&strength 2 go thru this. Its just a phase, it will pass. I'm a little worried cos, I remember d redeemers student dat killed his fada in cold blood, all because he hated d man&he was angry. So please, if d man provokes u 2 much, just act a fool&God will see u thru. It is well. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by francizy(m): 12:50pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
ccnation: So this is how a native doctor spoilt the life and happiness of a poor innocent child! Why on earth will your parents believe that nonsense!? Even if Pastor Oyedepo tells me my child is a witch and I and my wife never visited a native doctor to have the baby, I won't believe the pastor! Chai! I so feel for that your sis, to think of the fact that she got paid back with hatred for what she never knew of is painful.. Thank God they didn't even take her life self.. 3 Likes |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Adminisher: 1:00pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
He does not hate you but your mum. Sometimes, he sees her traits in you and gets really angry. Pray about it and you will be surprised. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by faithbibi(f): 1:06pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
I guess The new wife Has turned his heart against u. It's Not natural For a father To dislike his own son. You Can also Work On Your character. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Onegai(f): 3:40pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
ccnation: This is so awful. An innocent child's happiness was ruined because some stranger told her parents she was the cause of her sibling's death. And even worse, her parents believed it and punished her for it. Honestly, there should be some kind of monumental exam before they let people have kids. It shouldn't be for everyone. 2 Likes |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 4:01pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
A father's love is not automatic. I came to that realization painfully. Mothers love their children unconditionally (maybe it's a bond established in the 9 months of gestation and the bitter/ sweet birthing process), but it takes divine grace for fathers to feel that connected to their offspring. That's why they say it's easy to be a father.....hard to be a dad. You're not alone dear friend, my younger brother is in a similar situation with my father as you are in with yours, and it pains the rest of us to see him suffer that kind of abuse. My father considers my brother less intelligent than the rest of his children and believes he won't amount to much. I can only imagine the damage this has done to the poor boy's psyche. It's important that you know: this kind of maltreatment is NEVER deserved- it is not your fault that your father cannot live up to his responsibility - so stop looking for reasons/excuses for your father's actions and stop trying to understand him. Stop trying to please him with hope that you might somehow win his affection because you shouldn't have to. Concentrate on yourself. Use this as driving force to make a success of yourself. Surround yourself with positive energy, I hope you get the support you need from your siblings. Above all, trust that God will deliver you from all oppression. There will be time to mend fences with your father but for now his negative energy is detrimental to your development. You would not be able to build confidence and a healthy self esteem in that environment. Suicide is never the answer. There are people who love you, there are people who are waiting on a chance to love you, and God loves you - please don't break His heart. I wish you well. 4 Likes |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by favouryemmy: 4:45pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
Please my brother, don't commit suicide. If you're not born again give your life to Jesus Christ and commit your life to Him. Also make it a point of duty to pray for your dad daily. Ask God to save his soul and also ask God to restore the love he had for you. God will do it. Always obey him and God will use it work it out for you. God's grace! |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Faraidi(m): 5:07pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
elwire:before I advice you I will like to know are you a male or female? And which state do you reside? |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by ccnation(m): 5:43pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
francizy: Quite pathetic! It started in the seventies, and lingered till about 2007. Just when they were beginning to get along, my Dad passed on. Even though my mum was always trying to be on her side, my Dad denied her a lot of opportunities that would have made her better. Till this day she still behaves differently from the rest of us, its so glaring that someone meeting the whole family for the first time would notice. I don't know how long she has known about the reason behind her predicament, but i got to know the truth from her less than two weeks ago during a heart to heart talk with her, and i doubt any other of our siblings knows about it. .....If only my father had been more enlightened in the 70's as much as i am now....... |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by francizy(m): 6:32pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
RaggedyAnn: Not all mothers tho.. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by francizy(m): 6:40pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
ccnation: Wow! That's quit a long time ago! I believe if it was in the nineties he dare not believe such nonsense! I feel for her.. Really sad even tho I have my own issues but I feel like her's was worse since she was the only one that suffered the treatment In my case, it was like a hatred passed down on us from every member of my mum's family (especially I and my sis, probably because we look like our dad).. It wasn't funny tho, that is why I always envy people when they brag about how lovely their mums are.. Why I see it like her's was worse is that, nobody was with her, she just suffered and bared the pains all alone, but in my case, my sis and bros all felt the same thing so we have people we could talk to when anything happens.. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nmeri17: 8:58pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
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Re: My Father Hates Me! by nellyshasha(f): 8:35am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Chiefpriest1:. Chiefpriest I salute u,at op got lil to say but sometimes this things can be spiritual,but neva d less find things dat motivate and dat make u happy |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Mawson: 8:36am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Boy, life is worth living. Life is sweet, for you to make it worthy for your living, read hard and gained successes. Those that hate you will rejoice with you later. You mother might have offended your father and what you are facing is the transfer of agression. Pray and work hard. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by alpontif(m): 11:22am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Listen well, and good. You are 18. LEGALLY YOU CAN GO TO JAIL. Therefore, try to become independent. Totally ignore him. Move out of the house. Do not be intimidated. Never ever ever allow him raise his hand at you again, ever. More importantly, make sure you are focused. Do not lead a disgraceful life. Become somebody. Be focused . Be successful. In Academics, bethere. In Business, Start Hustling. In politics, Join the SUG.. In Church..be a strong member/worker. Join a Club like the Jaycees or Rotary club. Do not compare yourself to your peers, remember that they are not experiencing what you are facing. Minimise clubbing and all sorts of activities that might lead you astray. You can do it. Achieve and become great. He will come, and beg. More importantly, try not to hate him, or become envious or jealous of your siblings. Believe me, I know. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by peren: 12:53pm On Nov 17, 2014 |
Turn all that negativity to your strength, your goal should be to become the best person you can be, one day he will come back to beg for your forgivness. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Cwaya(m): 2:45pm On Nov 17, 2014 |
VenusBetty: Hmmmm.. Hello Miss, Good day to you, i'm cwaya and i come in peace . I just need your vote in Mr. Nairaland Contest. Voting takes place in Romance Section. Please Vote Cwaya Tomorrow from 10 am to 5pm. Thanks !! |
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