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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by cococandy(f): 1:34am On Nov 17, 2014 |
MojAyo:you're not ready yet. |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by toyemz(f): 2:50am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Hi why dont you do the same job ( plaiting and painting nails ) that you were doing in South Africa. back home in Nigeria? The type of hair is the same and the kind of nail colors will surely be the same fashion. so why dont you start from somewhere? surely you dont have to know what ever system works in Nigeria to start that! It is all about looking at what reality is staring you in the face and dealing with it.The sooner the better. you really cant blame your mum she is really disappointed in the setback you have brought. your mum is hurting kos as her first born you should be helping to help reduce the stress she has( considering that all your siblings stayed with your mum and not followed your dad) look at this and maybe you will understand the presence of her new man friend in her life. Instead of moping turn the situation around.Get one of your sisters to care for your baby and go and prove to your mum that it was a mistake and you are all set to make things right. Don't sit at home wallowing in self pity, there is no time for that, your child is growing by the day and as she grows her needs become bigger and more expensive.Now is the time you can perfect any skill you need .pls make haste in doing this. Thank God you have a free roof over your head for now .Many in your situation dont . Ignore whatever insult you get, turn a deaf ear.just strive to move forward.Make that first step and persevere God be with you as you make the right choice . it is well 1 Like |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 5:07am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 5:13am On Nov 17, 2014 |
purityme:tanx for ur advice,I think I'm gonna follow her way for peace to reign,I'm gonna start something soon,tanx |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 6:06am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 6:15am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Lepetitechic(f): 6:23am On Nov 17, 2014 |
MojAyo: Yes everything will be fine. I feel it's cos she set expectations for you and hoped that you would follow what she set, live up to it or even surpass it. It prolly seems to her that you disappointed her or sth . Yes your hubby isn't the type of man she expected you to marry but she should let it go. What you need now is support not criticism, she shouldn't mock you over one little thing that happened she should put herself in your shoes for a change and try to see what you're going through. She didn't forget that you worked hard in S.A she just finds it easier to accept that you are now out of work and dependent on her... I wish moms didn't have to be so difficult at times my mom criticizes me every chance she gets, if I speak up I'm difficult to talk to, if I don't speak up then she "advised" me smh.. It gets better dear, chin up and tell your baby a naira lander said hello lol |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 7:31am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by bukatyne(f): 7:46am On Nov 17, 2014 |
thorpido: A du.mb mother will raise du.mb girls 1 Like |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by bukatyne(f): 7:53am On Nov 17, 2014 |
aisha2: I will with this. OP: get a grip on yourself and stop whinning. You have made your family a laughing stock and instead of you to be grateful and your mother still put up with you, you are whinning Your father left your mother because of her bad attitude (which you claim you see) yet same father is not willing to accommodate you. You are not even ashamed that you stay with your bad mother who will be a bad influence on your child. Everything is everybody's fault! I cannot work because I do not know the system of the place yada yada I blame your mother: if she throws you out for one week, you will find work. Grow up and make something useful out of your life. 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by thorpido(m): 8:06am On Nov 17, 2014 |
bukatyne:That's true.How can we help some of these young girls? |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by bukatyne(f): 8:14am On Nov 17, 2014 |
thorpido: Do they want to be helped? |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 8:14am On Nov 17, 2014 |
I don't believe in kicking people when they're down. You are at your lowest point in life, your mummy should spend her energy encouraging you instead of trying to bring you down emotionally. Let me be straight with you. At your age, your mom owes you nothing, NOTHING! You should be on your knees thanking her for even tolerating you. You have to look within and find your strength, you need to tell yourself some real truth. All your problems were created with your own hands, therefore it is your job to fix them. Not your sisters or your parents. You have a child now, someone that depends on you, you don't have time to be worrying about your parents divorce talk less of worrying about whose fault it his; face your own troubles if you don't want your child to later grow up to blame you for his/her misfortunes the way you're blaming your mum. You are a homeless beggar. You have no room to be choosy, your a*ss should be out on the streets doing any small job till you can get a real job tailored to your skills or work experience. You should be ashamed of yourself forming yanga while feeding your own child from begging. Is that the example you want to lay for your child? - ***My mom is not embarrassed that she has to collect hand-out to feed me but she is embarrassed that she has to work with her mom* With all that you've been through, you're suppose to be the biggest hustler Nigeria has ever seen. Get up off your lazy butt and start looking for a job, no matter how small. ON A SIDE NOTE: ABORTION PPL, ABORTION! 2 Likes |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 8:31am On Nov 17, 2014 |
bukatyne: Very True. And we do have a lot of du.mb mothers because a lot of ladies now are getting du.mber and du.mber. |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 8:40am On Nov 17, 2014 |
bukatyne: Madam she has asked people like us to shut up. She just wants to hear from people who will pet her and tell her that her mother is bad. The same mother who: 1. Sent her to south Africa 2. Was still sending her money when she got pregnant and was broke. Sent her money for baby items 3. Sent her money to come back from the abusive relationship and start life over again 4. Currently feeds and shelters her, feeds and provides care for her baby Her mothers crime: 1. Her mother became a devil when she asked her to follow her to the shop. I am sure the mother wanted her to learn the trade so she could with time get a small shop and start her own business thats how its done 2. Her father left with another woman and wont have her come and stay over yet the mother is bad for also moving on with her life despite her admitting that the mother was the one taking care of the family while daddy dearest hero hardly contributed. So lets gather and abuse this bad mother for daring to Scold her daughter or ask her daughter to go with her to her kowly shop where people will see her and " talk" why wont mama understand she has class and doesn't know how the Nigerian system works after just 5 years " abroad" same africa 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 9:15am On Nov 17, 2014 |
BananaBender: Seconded |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by bukatyne(f): 9:20am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: LOL! |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by purityme: 9:52am On Nov 17, 2014 |
@ op u dnt knw wat u want your pride will kill u slowly 1 Like |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:06am On Nov 17, 2014 |
bukatyne: Its true. Im a lady but i gotta be honest. How else can we explain ladies of nowadays getting du.mber and du.mber? Ive read some really pathetic stories of ladies and ive come to the conclusion that most mothers hardly give coaching lessons to their daughters as regards relationships. Some of them just expect you to figure it out yourself. Can you give what you dnt have? I just read a veeeeerrrrry annoying story from a lady in a blog yesterday night. Words could not express how pissed i was even though a lot of the comments attacked the lady for being soooo du.mb. |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:07am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:09am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Am sure its the story of the clown whose ex gave her std till she miscarried then married someone else now wants to spend 1 week in dubai where she works and asked her to come and have se- x with him to replace the lost baby and the silly girl is considering it because she is 28 |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:09am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by purityme: 10:11am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Not only did you use her to play ur a making a bad mother and disgracing her MojAyo: 1 Like |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:12am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:14am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:16am On Nov 17, 2014 |
aisha2: Buhahahahahaha. U read Sdk!! U know that story. Chop knuckle. |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by ladynice: 10:18am On Nov 17, 2014 |
brosss:dis a very gud & kind advice pls op try & use it very well as 4 phema sincerely I dont like ur harsh comments it could b anyone so pls try nt 2 judge harshly even though I knw u r legally married |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by purityme: 10:20am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Stop decieving your sef he is not your husband. It pains me that you still have hope upon all u went thru. So u can stay with any man even a criminal. U re that desperate for greener pasture as u stated. O ga ooo orishirishi. Pele ti ooo he luvs your gaskiya. Na romeo and juliet luv ooo hold on to him tight. Iru iro ni iboru MojAyo: 1 Like |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:20am On Nov 17, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: I almost tore my clothes off in frustration |
Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:24am On Nov 17, 2014 |
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Re: Pls Peeps,help Me Out In A Bad Situation by Nobody: 10:24am On Nov 17, 2014 |
aisha2: Tufia!! How can a human be that du.mb? Haba!! 1 Like |
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