I'm sorry to disturb your beautiful weekend but I have a problem that I need advice.

I am finding it difficult to trust my woman. It is just difficult for me because she is fuelling this distrust in me. I will love to summarise my reasons so that you'll understand it in a glimpse but I couldn't.

There are four different scenarios that fuelled this distrust.

Last year, we were in different states. She told me about a guy who her family wants her to marry. She declined claiming she doesn't like him and wanted me. This same guy, she hung out with althrough the days we weren't together. They even went to a show together. When we were together, the guy will call her and they'll talk for minutes. She'll end the call with "I love you".
When we later travelled to the same state where we schooled, I was busy with my project and my final exams (3 different projects). So, I didn't have enough time to be with her. This guy came to visit my girlfriend, he even went to church with her. She didn't tell me the guy came but the information leaked from her lips without her knowing but I wasn't sure. Because of my busy nature, we always had fights about it but I kept telling her that I was busy and after the whole thing, I will be free for her alone. The fight got to the extent that we broke up. It was now glaring to me that, the guy has been dating my girlfriend before we even broke up. I didn't want to disturb my education then, I concentrated and finished well. I love my woman, after the whole thing I decided to look for her again, we talked about the whole thing but she told me she's now dating the guy. Ok, I left them but we started talking again, before they broke up, we came back.

When we came back, another guy started showing his ugly head in the relationship, she said they dated some years back but she didn't like him anymore. Instead of her to dismiss the guy, they became friends again. The guy was calling her every time and they hung out. I couldn't do anything about it because by then we weren't in the same state anymore. They got close but she'll tell me that they're just friends. She's just a friend with a guy who introduced her to his family, who later proposed with a ring? When she declined, the guy punched her face. I was pissed at the outcome of the whole thing, I called the police to arrest him.

After the whole drama about the other guy, another guy showed his face. She told me she can't date the guy because of me and some other reasons. Few months ago, I decided to visit her. She told me she'll introduce me to the guy as her cousin because she doesn't want the guy to hurt me (he's a cultist). I wasn't comfortable but I played along due to much persuasion. Whenever the guy comes around, the guy will be calling her "baby" and holding her like his girlfriend, she will visit the guy at his place, they'll hangout for long but when I decide to hangout, she will start complaining. What tipped me off again was she accidentally opened a picture where they're on the bed together. I got pissed and decided that I'm leaving her. Infact, I nearly wanted to travel that day but it was due to the fact, it was night. She begged and begged that she only snapped with him but she didn't do anything. I decided that day I can't trust her again.

When she came to my place last month, two guys were always calling her. Those calls were always annoying. I noticed that the voice from the call was the same guy I saw on the bed. She denied again that its not him. She took time and later showed me the person who called (after changing the contact's name). Just this night, when I called, she acted distant and sounded rude. I asked her where she is, she told me she's in her room. After just some seconds, I heard a guy's voice in the background asking what she wants. She replied the guy. I didn't ask her anything. She immediately became nice and friendly on phone. Asking about me like she really wanted to know.

I know my post is long but this past events have really made my trust for run down to nothing.

Please, what should I do about this girl, she's really pissing me off but I love her.

u have a brain use it now!!

swazpedro:
u have a brain use it now!!

To be sincere, I'm lost in this relationship. I can't just what's going on with me.

A very long story for the gods
By the way, how old are you?

OP, how old are you?

I wonder oo

Purehuman:

I couldn't do anything about it because by then we weren't in the same state anymore.

The bolded just got me really angry..

How many more clues and warnings do u need?

Dude as a man there is more to achieve in life than hoping a flip flopping girl would commit her emotions, heart and body to you now or in the future.

Roland17:


The bolded just got me really angry..

Dude there is more to achieve in life than hoping a flip flopping girl would commit her body and emotions to you now or in the future.

Yes, its true bro.

I think moving on will be best bet.

I don't need B. Sc in relationshipology to tell you that this girl ain't yours, no offense.

You mean she introduced you to her ex as her cousin? ...and the so-called ex was all over her in front of you and you couldn't do nothing about it because she said he's a cultist?


Ha! this one is strong o.

That moment when "love" make u act stupidly.

That moment when "love" makes u act stupidly.

Lol...bros I greet u, u b beta beans!!!

Purehuman:


To be sincere, I'm lost in this relationship. I can't just what's going on with me.

You better find yourself before u sink deeper. The girl is using ur head to play drum or did she 'jazz' u?
Your case na sorry o...I weep

@op u are being very unfair to yourself. Just take a look at all the emotional trauma you are going through just because you think you love her.

My dear sorry to say shez very unstable and will keep causing you pain.

Shez keeping you by the corner as a spare incase anything happens. Pls op get up and be a man

sandiyke:
@op u are being very unfair to yourself. Just take a look at all the emotional trauma you are going through just because you think you love her.

My dear sorry to say shez very unstable and will keep causing you pain.

Shez keeping you by the corner as a spare incase anything happens. Pls op get up and be a man

The comments thus far are eye-openers of my weakness.

I think I really need to make my decision tonight.

Thanks y'all.

I really don't Feel sympathetic for guys anymore because for one heartbreak,there are a million and one girls going through the same issue and even more so mr....suck it up and stop whining.

You are losing yourself while loving her.

Nonso23:


You have less than 30 mins to do that.
12am brings forth a new day.
You deserve better.

That's right sir!

Thank you

Finally, I found one! Didn't know we still have men like this o!

Perfectly friend-zoned on a dating level. This is a strong one indeed. Guy, trust me, she don use your brain do roasted corn. After how many times? She has disregarded you and your existence over and over again. You need to sit down and paint the picture of the kind of relationship you want. If this present one doesn't cut it, flee!

Something similar happened to a friend's friend of a friend I know. The guy was shot dead by a rival. He is dead, really dead but the girl is alive and twerking!

So much for love. Ish!

zeb04:
I really don't Feel sympathetic for guys anymore because for one heartbreak,there are a million and one girls going through the same issue and even more so mr....suck it up and stop whining.

Sincerely, 1million and 1girls should also calm down and ask for advice.

I did and I've gotten good advice from people.

Thanks anyway!

Caracta:
Finally, I found one! Didn't know we still have men like this o!

Perfectly friend-zoned on a dating level. This is a strong one indeed. Guy, trust me, she don use your brain do roasted corn. After how many times? She has disregarded you and your existence over and over again. You need to sit down and paint the picture of the kind of relationship you want. If this present one doesn't cut it, flee!

Something similar happened to a friend's friend of a friend I know. The guy was shot dead by a rival. He is dead, really dead but the girl is alive and twerking!

So much for love. Ish!

I think you're example is really scary.

Moreover, this girl didn't want me to relate with many of my females friends.

This babe must be 'hot'!
I am soooo jealous as to how she can get so many foolish guys to 'love' her.
She must know how to suck a pickle goooooooooooooooood!

OP!
This is not your woman o.
This woman can only rival one person I know.
KING SOLOMON!

Good luck!

KanwuliaJara:
This babe must be 'hot'!
I am soooo jealous as to how she can get so many foolish guys to 'love' her.
She must know how to suck a pickle goooooooooooooooood!

OP!
This is not your woman o.
This woman can only rival one person I know.
KING SOLOMON!

Good luck!

Your sense of humour is really good.

Purehuman:


Sincerely, 1million and 1girls should also calm down and ask for advice.

I did and I've gotten good advice from people.

Thanks anyway!

Good.. you welcome.

consequences of marriages nt built on God thru Jesus christ bt on carnality

Purehuman:


I think you're example is really scary.

Moreover, this girl didn't want me to relate with many of my females friends.

Control! That's a strong weapon.

She's got you in her claws.

I'm sure she monitors your calls too and gets angry when you give any other girl attention.

But she is free to spread her tentacles. Hian. I pray one of her 'boys'- your rivals- won't kill you one day.

Emotional torture and abuse.

Purehuman:




Your sense of humour is really good.

Glad you think so.
I am battling 'mental illness' on NL for the rest of the year!

You went through 4 scenerios.
Are you waiting for the 5th and FINAL SCENERIO?
EBOLA?

Call her up and break up with that girl immediately abeg, I think u are the only one not seeing the picture here and before she sells wat isn't urs to u STDs.

KanwuliaJara:


Glad you think so.
I am battling 'mental illness' on NL for the rest of the year!

You went through 4 scenerios.
Are you waiting for the 5th and FINAL SCENERIO?
EBOLA?

Where are u from?
This mental illness needs urgent attention

Ebola? We will be mile apart by then