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Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by AshantiDimaria(f): 6:42pm On Dec 06, 2014
;DThat's d best punishment he sees to give u after all he is ur housband forever so no need of reporting him to any one.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Mprex(f): 6:49pm On Dec 06, 2014
RedBenson:


Is that all you could say?
what else should i say?
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by baralatie(m): 7:08pm On Dec 06, 2014
AshantiDimaria:
;DThat's d best punishment he sees to give u after all he is ur housband forever so no need of reporting him to any one.

beside the write up.not every woman find rough and one sided intimacy fulfilling!
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Saraha1(f): 7:09pm On Dec 06, 2014
End time.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Beey(f): 7:12pm On Dec 06, 2014
[color=#770077][/color]Iam so sorry to hear about your ordeal. Here is what I have to say.;It sounds like your husband has a problem of sex addiction. Sex addiction is a symptom of an underlying personal disorder. Addicts use sex as a tool to medicate their pain.They use sex to numb their feelings. Like an alcoholic unable to stop drinking, they may not stop without professional help. A sex addict tries tosatisfy inner needs such as love & acceptance by controlling the partner through sex. You must know that just wishing for him to snap out of his bad behavior,doesn't mean it will happen.I don't think divorce is the answer until you've turned every stone.What then should you do? 1.You must recognize the pattern & put a stop to it. Refuse to take part in it.Every time you comply with his demands,it gives him a license to continue in those things. 2.
Prepare your mind for a nasty & ugly battle. 3.Collect all the evidence.If he has this behavior, he probably watches porn or might have extra-marital affairs.Evidence could be call logs,receipts,porn DVDs,Use of drugs, etc.When you've gathered evidence, then it's time for confrontation. 4. If he admits & is remorseful,be supportive & seek professional help. 5.Respect yourself enough to set boundaries with his behavior that feels disrespectful.You could sign a contract,stating what is acceptable & unacceptable as well as consequences. Both of you should sign & each should have a copy.After defining boundaries, then if they are broken, you must be strong enough yo follow through with consequences It's the only way he'll know that you are not playing games.But you must walk away from fear. 6.If he refuses to admit & doesn't show remorse, tell him " it's either me or the addiction". You also need to confide in a professional such as marriage counsellor or a social worker.Most hospitals have social workers on sight. You have to know that change begins with you. As long as you continue to curl up in fear & allow him to violate you,it will continue.Another reason why you must let someone know is incase things move to physical & your life is at risk.By the way if it gets to that point you should run for your life. 7 .Read about emotional abuse & dealing with a sex-addicted spouse.Education is power.Not only will it empower you, but it will give you coping mechanisms & teach you a lot of lessons that you'll need to walk this journey. 8.Prayer changes things. If You are a person of faith,don't forget to pray. WISH YOU STRENGTH!

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Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by chimichael05: 7:17pm On Dec 06, 2014
U Marry a mad man for a husband, it for better or worst remember that is the contract u signed and u must keep to it.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by valdes00(m): 7:29pm On Dec 06, 2014
SAMBARRY:
I know the answer. It's because you are a macho sadist.you feel good in other people's pain.as in other people's pain makes you feel more of a man probably because your family didn't make you feel like one
Awww.... See as u carry anoda person matter for hand lik gala inside hold-up... B lik say u no read where d OP use d guy do shakara lik mad, mumu lik u.... First do no dey pain, na last do dey pain.... GO N DIE if he pain u

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Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by chymystique(f): 7:48pm On Dec 06, 2014
2scorehigh:
Ha ha ha...

I know this is not funny but the question now is, how can I make myself to stop laughing after reading this?

Baby sorry o, you hear? It's just a honeymoon process, okay?

One of you will soon get tired of it.

Put it in prayer, okay? I'm sorry I don't have any other practical advice for you.

Ha ha ha...

Oh wait, if it would help, you can read Fifty Shades of Grey to get yourself ready because from what I can see now, it will surely get worse before it gets better...


Fifty shades is even vanilla and lovey dovey.. She should go and read "Natural Law" by Joey W Hill.. That will be an eye opener for what is yet to come if the man is really a sadist cause the kinda toys he will use on her body eh.. She might go into coma during their sexx role play cheesy cheesy.. I think she should submit for nw and try having a heart to heart talk with him.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by coolbis: 8:03pm On Dec 06, 2014
This shld serve as a lesson, ladies should mind how dey treat guyz dey feel dey dont like cos dey might later fall for dem. I hav seen two cases now, it happend to ppl i know well, the men were so lovin and caring( mr perfect) and. Ladies shoulders always high during courtship, but after marriage, d'story changes, one of dem has been divorced now with a baby in less dan a yr. Men can go to any lenght to get vengeance.

@op dis man doesnt lov u at all. Hmm... I knw wat am sayin o... I just hop he wont throw u out as soon as he is done, because dats wat most do, tell ur pastor or somone reasonable, problem no com na him dem dey say no third party, wat if its life threatening, do dat b4 its too late, all d'best
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by baralatie(m): 8:04pm On Dec 06, 2014
Beey:
[color=#770077][/color]Iam so sorry to hear about your ordeal. Here is what I have to say.;It sounds like your husband has a problem of sex addiction. Sex addiction is a symptom of an underlying personal disorder. Addicts use sex as a tool to medicate their pain.They use sex to numb their feelings. Like an alcoholic unable to stop drinking, they may not stop without professional help. A sex addict tries tosatisfy inner needs such as love & acceptance by controlling the partner through sex. You must know that just wishing for him to snap out of his bad behavior,doesn't mean it will happen.I don't think divorce is the answer until you've turned every stone.What then should you do? 1.You must recognize the pattern & put a stop to it. Refuse to take part in it.Every time you comply with his demands,it gives him a license to continue in those things. 2.
Prepare your mind for a nasty & ugly battle. 3.Collect all the evidence.If he has this behavior, he probably watches porn or might have extra-marital affairs.Evidence could be call logs,receipts,porn DVDs,Use of drugs, etc.When you've gathered evidence, then it's time for confrontation. 4. If he admits & is remorseful,be supportive & seek professional help. 5.Respect yourself enough to set boundaries with his behavior that feels disrespectful.You could sign a contract,stating what is acceptable & unacceptable as well as consequences. Both of you should sign & each should have a copy.After defining boundaries, then if they are broken, you must be strong enough yo follow through with consequences It's the only way he'll know that you are not playing games.But you must walk away from fear. 6.If he refuses to admit & doesn't show remorse, tell him " it's either me or the addiction". You also need to confide in a professional such as marriage counsellor or a social worker.Most hospitals have social workers on sight. You have to know that change begins with you. As long as you continue to curl up in fear & allow him to violate you,it will continue.Another reason why you must let someone know is incase things move to physical & your life is at risk.By the way if it gets to that point you should run for your life. 7 .Read about emotional abuse & dealing with a sex-addicted spouse.Education is power.Not only will it empower you, but it will give you coping mechanisms & teach you a lot of lessons that you'll need to walk this journey. 8.Prayer changes things. If You are a person of faith,don't forget to pray. WISH YOU STRENGTH!
point of correction.the guy in the write up is not even close to been a sex addict.
in simple terms,imagine dancing to Mozart and dancing to traditional Igbo music.the two operate on different frequencies and rules.so is love and intimacy.both couples are self centered personalities
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Champella(m): 8:07pm On Dec 06, 2014
Wow! What a cool story


The OP has 47 "likes" and 23 "shares". To analyse your story, let's look at it this way. . .


Step 1:
Let your "likes" be X, and your "shares" be Y

Step 2:
Find the sum of X and Y
===> 47+23 = 70

Step 3:
Comment on your answer

Assuming the OP's story were to be a course in the University, she would have made an "A" grade. Since her "likes" - 47, would serve as an Exam Score, while her "shares" - 23, would be her Continuous Assessment.

In conclusion, the OP's story having been graded as an "A" means that her marriage would be a success.

Happy married life to you, Sister!
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Austin234(m): 8:11pm On Dec 06, 2014
In d 1st place, acept my sympathy. Have a heart to heart talk wit ur hubby. Tel him dat u love sex but d way he go abt it is freightening. Apologise 4 ur past mistakes. If dat fail, neva u go to ur relations as it wil hurt his ego. Report to ur pastor if he is matured enof to handle such case. Above all, comit everytin into d hand of God. May God help. Amen
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Beey(f): 8:32pm On Dec 06, 2014
baralatie:

point of correction.the guy in the write up is not even close to been a sex addict.
in simple terms,imagine dancing to Mozart and dancing to traditional Igbo music.the two operate on different frequencies and rules.so is love and intimacy.both couples are self centered personalities

But why does the description seem to point to that direction?He does have the traits of a sex addict.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by SweetyZinta(f): 8:33pm On Dec 06, 2014
[quote author=FlyboyZee post=28641412]
Record. abi? Smart. Abi? İts obvious you are not married and is a long way away from that. Them no dey do smart pass and get sense for marriage matter o! The thing no be game. From the way you are sounding off, İ can bet on my life that your own case go bad pass her own. For her own case at least na human beings dey comment, pray say for your case make he no be say na gods (as in Ogun, Amadioha, Obatala, Egbesu, etc) na him go dey comment as you wan carry sharpness, smartness and sense enter marriage. İ wish you luck sha with your smartness... Would you prefer her to die in silence? Frm d way u are sounding ur life is equal to dat of an earthworm. Imagine! Was i refering to U? Why you dey carry Blessie matter 4ur head? I just suggested on d matter & u are attacking me am i d cause of her predicament? U dey mad!
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by lovespyc007: 8:57pm On Dec 06, 2014
Well lady u messd up in d past bt no 1 is witout mistake so wat u shld do is 2 ask 4 4giveness n put evrytin in God's hand seem u dnt rely knw God so nw is d time wen he sees d glory of God in u then he will be arrestd n take it easy bt most of wat he does wit u unclad is d beauty of lovemakin bt its jst dat he is been harsh n a bit cruel be patient n fix it u cnt do it witout God cheers
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by ROZZAYY(f): 9:07pm On Dec 06, 2014
Una still dey here. Anytime I want to have a gud laff I read d op s story, the description + grammer quite hilarious. Lol. Make I dey go I will come and read it tmoro.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by baralatie(m): 9:24pm On Dec 06, 2014
Beey:
But why does the description seem to point to that direction?He does have the traits of a sex addict.
what description or traits do you think points in that direction.

.the owner of this write up stated no sex,no kissing as a mean of relationship for two years.howcsex addicts ever stick to such policy.lai lai!!!!they would rather become born again to Jesus Christ than stoop so vague!
now study the very words the writer used.the description is about what happened and not an overview of a habit
1,she took her bath,laid on the bed in expectation.man comes in tells her no playing and went locomotive.no affection only rough intimacy to the point of exhaustion.
it clearly shows that the two do not have some form of connection only association.sex addiction is not involved in this write up only two individuals with differences.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Beey(f): 9:34pm On Dec 06, 2014
baralatie:

what description or traits do you think points in that direction.

.the owner of this write up stated no sex,no kissing as a mean of relationship for two years.howcsex addicts ever stick to such policy.lai lai!!!!they would rather become born again to Jesus Christ than stoop so vague!
now study the very words the writer used.the description is about what happened and not an overview of a habit
1,she took her bath,laid on the bed in expectation.man comes in tells her no playing and went locomotive.no affection only rough intimacy to the point of exhaustion.
it clearly shows that the two do not have some form of connection only association.sex addiction is not involved in this write up only two individuals with differences.
One of the charecteristics of sex addicts is multiple affairs or/and could be serial masturbators.He uses sex as a tool to take back control or numb his personal isssues She talks of being forced to have sex multiple times & doesn't pay attention to her pain or fatigue.He also has no remorse after.These & more are some of the traits of a sex addict but since he probably had another way of having his sex needs met before he married her,she had no way of knowing that he has the problem.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by nomabeeee(f): 9:40pm On Dec 06, 2014
kelvinmuffins3:
Punish him by getting another dick..



Wasted kitty-cat ain't allowed in the game.
kelvin? shocked
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Onyenna(m): 9:45pm On Dec 06, 2014
iceberylin:

ŋo bę şmāll ţђįŋg ooo... grin
yoų dђ māķę yoųŗ moŋęy..

wetin man-pikin go do naaah.......Oluwa dey nwanne.....
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Cmanforall: 9:45pm On Dec 06, 2014
faithugo64:
Op why do i feel like this story is not true?

Well incase you are telling the truth.please and please you have to report him to your parents and pastor,this is abuse oo,that guy is a beast!

You still have a long way to go in this marriage,starting your marriage this way spells doom!

he is bent on making your life miserable and digging a very wide well down there,if you understand what i mean

......And what will her parents do? Flog her husband? Or ask for divorce?
.
Issue about marriage should not involve 3rd party especially at this embryonic stage.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by baralatie(m): 9:54pm On Dec 06, 2014
Beey:
One of the charecteristics of sex addicts is multiple affairs or/and could be serial masturbators.He uses sex as a tool to take back control or numb his personal isssues She talks of being forced to have sex multiple times & doesn't pay attention to her pain or fatigue.He also has no remorse after.These & more are some of the traits of a sex addict but since he probably had another way of having his sex needs met before he married her,she had no way of knowing that he has the problem.
I suggest you get to know who is a nymphomaniac and differentiate it from toxic relationship,and levels of sexual compatibilty

the simple way to describe is to use music.can a person who dance to tivi cultural songs dance to m.c hammer!both are music but different.

the guy desire for sex is beyond hers by a long shot
it does not make him an addict.he is only selfish and she likewise is self cwntered

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Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Nobody: 10:01pm On Dec 06, 2014
blesie:
I just wish to share my honeymoon bitter and sweet experience for you and also get inspiration.

A little Intro to how it all started: So i met this guy during the course of work in my former office and he started chasing me, my colleagues then ask me not to agree that he looks like a player. He looks like one that never get a No for an answer, so me and my colleagues use him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever we just feel like going to that cinema, he won't ever dissapoint, he'll take us there, a year after i left the company but he kept on chasing, so one day i was passing through some difficult times in my career, i felt like resigning but he came to me and advise me wisely, he told me how to tackle the challenges and when i did, it works perfectly so i started liking him, so i called him that we can date if only he will adhere to my conditions, he asked me to list the conditions and i did as stated below:
1) No Sex
2) No romance
3) No Kissing
Infact no touches.

He agreed with so much pains in his eyes, but after 6 months of dating, we begin to hug anyway and light kisses.

But through out the relationship, i was always walking with shoulders held very high up there, thinking that shebi he's the one begging me, i will scream and always want things done my way.

For a year, i misbehave alot but after i begin to be the girl he would want me to be, i wasnt really shouting or screaming anymore but i was still so full of pride, but i started loving him very well.

On the first week of August he proposed, and we got married over 2 weeks ago, the wedding went well everyone was happy but after all the happiness, dancing, eating and greetings by friends and family, i found out later i was left with him in the car and the driver.

We went into the hotel room that evening and he started answering calls, so i use that opportunity to rush to the bathroom and took my bath, after i finish bathing, lying down on the bed and thinking of how sex will look like, he tapped my leg and said i should come and bath him, i was like, bath you? how na, he said i should not waste his time, i wanted to say something again and he opened his eyes, the way he has not opened it before so i was scared, i jump off bed to the bathroom and started pouring water on him, he ask if i was in my right senses in a very fierce way, i shake my head saying yes, he said he doesnt think so that if i was i will be unclad by now, so i told him i wasnt going to bath him anymore, i left, went to the bed and lie, he completed the bath and came to meet me in the room.

He held me and said, yes i married you, he didnt say anything again he just stared at me, then dragged me closer and started kissing me, then he said i should UnCloth him, what was surprising to me though was that his stuff was now 300% bigger than what i saw while i try to bath him, i thought maybe he had used something on it so i started to shift back, he pulled me back and i never knew how powerful he was until that evening, cos his hands just seem to be pulling me like im an ant, at that point i tried to fight him but he practically raped me, i screamed and shouted my life out but it seems he is enjoying the shout so i started to remain calm and then he said hold me, hold me very tight and i remember my mom telling me, do whatever he says to make him happy, so i grabbed him with two hands very tight to my body and as i did, i also started enjoying the sex so i started calling him baby.

After the first round, it was like i had an accident, i was so tired i couldnt stand up, i couldnt even hold a paper i was breathing fast, it felt like i will die, i ask him to get me lucozade or something to regain my energy, he gave me drink and i just wanted to sleep off, he came waking me up and wanted to start another thing, i screamed at him and he said look at me very well, you see all that up shoulder you use to display while we were dating? you've got to drop it at the wedding reception because if you take it to the wedding, you will just be crying, do you know how many years you make me impotent, should i analyse the insult you gave me and all of that, now respect yourself, stand up and do the needful.

Fear crib me like i have made a mistake, i cried and ran down to the bed to UnCloth he said no way, now i want it standing, i tried to imagine how somebody will stand to have sex but before i could finish thinking, he's dragged me out of bed and there it goes, painful and annoying i was just crying.

After he finished that, i went on my knee to beg him for forgivenness for all the shout and scream i use to shout at him that i was ready to make a new turn, he said fine, that the new turn will mean that i will now respect and do everything he wants me to, i said yes i will do.

Then he said, come on suck this, you won't imagine what he ask me to suck cry, how in the world can a husband be so wicked cry cry

I said not this, he said ok, seems you are not ready to comply, he came for me and i bit him, fought him, he allowed me beat him after i finish beating him, he raped me and its really hurting me like i want to die.

Now everyday he made me suck him, all the bad things one could dream of is what he likes, if he ask me to do something and i refuse he wont beat me, instead he will come for me and rape me.

I am so tired, i don't know why one man will want to have sex up to countles times in a day, i was just wondering.

UNTILL HE CAME TO REVEAL TO ME TODAY THAT HE IS PUNISHING ME FOR WHAT I DID TO HIM OVER THE YEARS.

He finds joy in doing it and im so pained, is he going to change, should i report him to our pastor or my parent?


Op let me tell you hat I would do if I was you.

Me ehn I do not believe in ANY for of violence or abuse in marriage. I am sorry he sounds psychotic, he married you just so he could punish you? Crazy. He had a choice, he could have walked away at any time, are you the only woman in he world haba.

I would sit him down and tell him very calmly and respectfully that you will not put up with being repeatedly raped. You are very happy to have sex with him reasonably because you love him very much and desire him. If he does it again you will leave him!. Be ready to do it! Do not worry about what people will say. It's good that you do not have kids with him and you have a job. If he tries it again you need to struggle as much as you can and try to fight him off so that you can have bruises etc, don't just take it lying down, hit, scratch do what you have to do so that when you go back to your family to tell them what's happening you have physical evidence!.

Do not let this be the status quo of your life. Do not let people make you believe you deserve this, NO ONE deserves to be raped husband or not! If you leave him and he comes to his senses and comes to beg ur family, please make sure he goes for counselling before you go back to hm.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by humilitypays(m): 10:18pm On Dec 06, 2014
All the people doubting this story must be kids!

It hurts when a lady plays so hard on your emotion. We are humans and revenge is always in our minds, especially men!

Men live by vengeance!

You really suffered him during dating and he is paying u back. Pray he hasn't developed hatred for u cos if he has, he will probably file for a divorce after he's done paying u back to his satisfaction. Some men can go any length- even diabolical to pay a woman back; warning to other ladies reading.

If u aren't a proven and confirmed virgin, why stress your boyfriend with no sex till marriage? If u don't want sex till marriage, and u aren't a virgin, pls stay away from dating and relationship and wait till your husband comes to propose and take u to the altar.

@op, many guys would do what your husband is doing to u now....and don't even dare report him to your pastor or parents else, your marriage may become more horrible or hit the rock!

You suffered him during dating and he endured and married u (he really tried), now he's suffering u...pls endure it and pray for a change in nearest future.

This should serve as a warning to all single ladies out there- men don't forgive so easily....revenge and vengeance are a common trait in all men.

Una good night.
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by humilitypays(m): 10:24pm On Dec 06, 2014
Op, I forgot to tell you that I don't pity you at all, u know y? You really suffered this guy!

Ladies are cunning: they form no sex till marriage when they meet a guy they are only trying hard to like....but once a lady meets her dream man, she won't even know when her legs would opencheesy

Guys take note: any non-virgin lady telling u no sex till marriage doesn't like u at all, she's just trying hard to like u maybe because you are her only option or she's getting old or desperate to marry!

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Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by kelvinmuffins3(m): 10:33pm On Dec 06, 2014
nomabeeee:
kelvin? shocked



Yes dear!
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by s2kdoncom(m): 10:40pm On Dec 06, 2014
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by blasterman(m): 10:42pm On Dec 06, 2014
When u buy bike or car u can drive it anyhow u like some like to drive it hard some ride theirs with care.

All this from him is IGG if the woman has good shock absorbers na him go tire
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by UTEWUOJO: 10:59pm On Dec 06, 2014
Yes, u need not to complain because de guy need 2 pump out de oil he has been saving 4 u, or is dat oil 4 me?
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Nobody: 11:01pm On Dec 06, 2014
Maybe im just a hor.ny goat but i dont really see why the OP is fussing about this. Its your first years of marriage you pple should be all over each other like there is no tomorrow na. Abeg this guy kept himself for you, why wont u let him objectify u small small.
I find a guy who is dominant sometimes sexy cheesy
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by Phlakes(f): 11:10pm On Dec 06, 2014
Op, just give it to him anyhow he wants it, dont worry u wil get used to it nd start enjoying it nd even ask for more (Oliver twist) wink
Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by SenatorJames(m): 11:27pm On Dec 06, 2014
blesie:
I just wish to share my honeymoon bitter and sweet experience for you and also get inspiration.

A little Intro to how it all started: So i met this guy during the course of work in my former office and he started chasing me, my colleagues then ask me not to agree that he looks like a player. He looks like one that never get a No for an answer, so me and my colleagues use him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever we just feel like going to that cinema, he won't ever dissapoint, he'll take us there, a year after i left the company but he kept on chasing, so one day i was passing through some difficult times in my career, i felt like resigning but he came to me and advise me wisely, he told me how to tackle the challenges and when i did, it works perfectly so i started liking him, so i called him that we can date if only he will adhere to my conditions, he asked me to list the conditions and i did as stated below:
1) No Sex
2) No romance
3) No Kissing
Infact no touches.

He agreed with so much pains in his eyes, but after 6 months of dating, we begin to hug anyway and light kisses.

But through out the relationship, i was always walking with shoulders held very high up there, thinking that shebi he's the one begging me, i will scream and always want things done my way.

For a year, i misbehave alot but after i begin to be the girl he would want me to be, i wasnt really shouting or screaming anymore but i was still so full of pride, but i started loving him very well.

On the first week of August he proposed, and we got married over 2 weeks ago, the wedding went well everyone was happy but after all the happiness, dancing, eating and greetings by friends and family, i found out later i was left with him in the car and the driver.

We went into the hotel room that evening and he started answering calls, so i use that opportunity to rush to the bathroom and took my bath, after i finish bathing, lying down on the bed and thinking of how sex will look like, he tapped my leg and said i should come and bath him, i was like, bath you? how na, he said i should not waste his time, i wanted to say something again and he opened his eyes, the way he has not opened it before so i was scared, i jump off bed to the bathroom and started pouring water on him, he ask if i was in my right senses in a very fierce way, i shake my head saying yes, he said he doesnt think so that if i was i will be unclad by now, so i told him i wasnt going to bath him anymore, i left, went to the bed and lie, he completed the bath and came to meet me in the room.

He held me and said, yes i married you, he didnt say anything again he just stared at me, then dragged me closer and started kissing me, then he said i should UnCloth him, what was surprising to me though was that his stuff was now 300% bigger than what i saw while i try to bath him, i thought maybe he had used something on it so i started to shift back, he pulled me back and i never knew how powerful he was until that evening, cos his hands just seem to be pulling me like im an ant, at that point i tried to fight him but he practically raped me, i screamed and shouted my life out but it seems he is enjoying the shout so i started to remain calm and then he said hold me, hold me very tight and i remember my mom telling me, do whatever he says to make him happy, so i grabbed him with two hands very tight to my body and as i did, i also started enjoying the sex so i started calling him baby.

After the first round, it was like i had an accident, i was so tired i couldnt stand up, i couldnt even hold a paper i was breathing fast, it felt like i will die, i ask him to get me lucozade or something to regain my energy, he gave me drink and i just wanted to sleep off, he came waking me up and wanted to start another thing, i screamed at him and he said look at me very well, you see all that up shoulder you use to display while we were dating? you've got to drop it at the wedding reception because if you take it to the wedding, you will just be crying, do you know how many years you make me impotent, should i analyse the insult you gave me and all of that, now respect yourself, stand up and do the needful.

Fear crib me like i have made a mistake, i cried and ran down to the bed to UnCloth he said no way, now i want it standing, i tried to imagine how somebody will stand to have sex but before i could finish thinking, he's dragged me out of bed and there it goes, painful and annoying i was just crying.

After he finished that, i went on my knee to beg him for forgivenness for all the shout and scream i use to shout at him that i was ready to make a new turn, he said fine, that the new turn will mean that i will now respect and do everything he wants me to, i said yes i will do.

Then he said, come on suck this, you won't imagine what he ask me to suck cry, how in the world can a husband be so wicked cry cry

I said not this, he said ok, seems you are not ready to comply, he came for me and i bit him, fought him, he allowed me beat him after i finish beating him, he raped me and its really hurting me like i want to die.

Now everyday he made me suck him, all the bad things one could dream of is what he likes, if he ask me to do something and i refuse he wont beat me, instead he will come for me and rape me.

I am so tired, i don't know why one man will want to have sex up to countles times in a day, i was just wondering.

UNTILL HE CAME TO REVEAL TO ME TODAY THAT HE IS PUNISHING ME FOR WHAT I DID TO HIM OVER THE YEARS.

He finds joy in doing it and im so pained, is he going to change, should i report him to our pastor or my parent?

He will soon get tire.





Going by one Economic model; utility (satisfaction) will continue to increase with increase commodity (intimate) till it reaches a maximum point, after which the satisfaction will continue to depreciate, just endure till he reaches his maximum satisfaction. by then you will be the one dragging him for intimate.




This is the advice i can give you as an Economist.

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