We all know that men struggle with lust.
But what about women? While it's
becoming more common to hear of
women's struggles with pornography use,
many women still perceive that they
have the moral high ground over men.
Such comparisons don't help because men
and women often struggle in different
ways.

When a beautiful woman walks in the
room or flashes on a screen or billboard,
all eyes are transfixed. While men might
be thinking about sex, a woman might be
thinking, I wonder what it would be like
to have such a body? Men want the
body, women want the body. They want
the body that attracts everyone. Lust can
be either a strong feeling of sexual
desire, or a strong desire for something.

We know when a man has sinned as he
takes the body he wants through
indulging in pornography or visiting a
prostitute.
But what does it look like for
a woman to act out on her lust? She
cannot take the body she desires to have,
so what does she do? For the most part,
her sin remains hidden. Still, there are
some tell-tale signs of her sin, which I
will describe in the first person because I
struggle with this too.

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Even though both Men and Women do have lust, Women's lust are different from that of men. Men are moved by what they see. Women are moved by what they connect through their emotions.

Signs of Struggle

Self-Pity
The first feeling lust produces in a
woman is dissatisfaction with her own
body. We have compared our body with
someone else's and fallen short. We
imagine the other woman is sexier, more
confident in herself, and overall better
off. This leads us to self-pity.

Insecurity
Feeling sorry for ourselves makes us feel
insecure. We feel threatened in our own
femininity and start worrying about our
husband or fiancé or boyfriend finding a
new woman more attractive. We
transpose this subjective fear into reality.
Because I am struggling with lust, I
assume my man must be, so I fear our
relationship is threatened anew with
every new attractive woman we
encounter.

Criticism
We feel the need to put down other
women. We rationalize our struggle by
leveling the playing field in our own
minds. The thinking goes like this: " Well,
she may be very sexy, but she probably
isn't very intelligent, " or, " Her hair is
perfect, but I'm sure glad I don't have
those legs." We would never say
anything cruel, but we think it to make
ourselves feel better.

Activism
If none of this makes us feel better, we
embark on a never-ending cycle of self-
improvement. We feel the need to regain
ground because our place at the top has
been threatened. This is a form of works-
righteousness in which we attempt to
prove to ourselves, the world around us,
and ultimately even to God that we can
change ourselves into our own image, the
perfect one we've created, one we so
desperately want to attain. We make
new dietary resolutions, new and better
workout plans, and buy new clothes and
cosmetics so we can look sexier.

Putting God on the Dock

Lusting after some other woman's body
is a symptom of deep dissatisfaction
with the way we look. It's a matter of
pride. We feel we deserve better. When I
was a teenager struggling to accept my
body and all of its changes, my mother
once said to me, "Complaining about you
figure is like slapping God in the face!"

That really caught my attention. My
dissatisfaction with my body was
shouting out to God, "You made me
wrong!" But as my maker, did he not
have the right to make me as he pleased?
Does not God look over his creation and
pronounce it good? Who was I to
contradict him?
Our bodies are important to God, so we
need to care for them as good stewards.
We need to eat right, exercise regularly,
and sleep enough. Nevertheless, the fall
affects our bodies so that they age,
wrinkle, sag, and eventually die. God
knows this process and in his mercy, he
sent Jesus to die on the cross to reverse
the deadly effects of the fall.

Through the resurrection, God has
assured us that he is capable and in the
process of making all things new. But
interestingly, God is in the business of
renewing us from the inside out, not the
outside in.

The rest of the effects of the
fall will be overcome on the final day,
and then we will also receive perfect
bodies to go along with our perfected
hearts.

Maybe that is why he constantly
frustrates us in our striving to renew
ourselves from the outside in. He wants
us to realize that we are made for
something more. To be a self-made
woman based on the ideals put forth in
women's magazines or comparing
ourselves with other women we admire is
not God's goal for us. It's far too
small! In fact, those magazines can be
just as bad for our souls as pornography
is for men.
Rather, God changes us into the image
of his son, Jesus, the perfect man. He
wants us to experience joy in how he
intended us to be. He fulfills all his
purposes in us. Let's not waste precious
time trying to be someone else. Being
satisfied in God alone will make you and
me an irresistibly attractive women,
inside and out, because his love will
shine through us for the world to see.

www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/when-women-lust

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major466:
Even though both Men and Women do have lust, Women's lust are different from that of men. Men are moved by what they see. Women are moved by they connect through their emotions.

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Long story...

My brother when a woman lust na man go find am