Instead of treating children badly especially when they are acting their age. Let's do it this way;
1. Observe a Stubborn Child

2. Stay calm. When you respond to stubbornness with anger or yelling, you are reinforcing the child's belief that negative behaviors work.

3. Watch how your child is acting. He may be refusing to do something or will continue doing something after you have told him not to.
Determine what is making the child uncomfortable or resistant. Child development experts believe children become stubborn when they are stressed or tense and they do not know a socially acceptable way to express those feelings.


4. Remove the child from the situation. [/b]This might be a public place, where you child is refusing to observe rules or the dinner table, where she is not using proper manners or is refusing to eat.
Give your child time to calm down. Once she is removed from the situation that brought on the stubborn behavior, you will have an opportunity to understand the real problem.


5. [b]Listen to your child. Sometimes, instead of tricks or strategies, you just need to communicate.
Remember that one cause of stubborn behavior can be that the child desires more attention from his parent. Give your child the time he needs to talk to you about what might be causing problems or anxieties.


6. Discipline with patience and affection. [/b]Children need to feel safe and loved, even when they are in trouble.
Create a peaceful environment at home. If there is a lot of yelling, arguing or threatening, a child will adapt to it and become more stubborn.


7. [b]Make positive behavior a privilege. For a child who refuses to do chores, try something like "would you like to help me put the laundry in?" Or, "if you are a good listener today, I will let you set the table for dinner."


8. Demonstrate reward. Instead of saying "you cannot ride your bike until you put on a helmet" try "as soon as you put on your helmet, you get to ride your bike."


9. Provide options out of stubborn behavior. If your child refuses to go to bed, instead of fighting it, offer several different options and your child can choose one.
Set the scene for cooperation. Instead of announcing it is bedtime, say "It's 8:00. Do you want to read a book first, sing a song or have a cuddle?" This alerts the child to the fact that it is bedtime while offering enjoyable things to do as he gets there.

Can we have a short version please?
Preferably, IN ONE LINE/SENTENCE.

Thanks!

KanwuliaJara:
Can we have a short version please?

Flog the child.. That's the short version

thrizzle:

Flog the child.. That's the short version

In this day and age?

Nice one. Another way of saying 'Easy does it'

KanwuliaJara:


In this day and age?

Works like magic

thrizzle:

Works like magic

Tufiakwa!!!!

Owk o,would u like to help me put d laundry in or if u r a gud listener blah blah, phock him/her being a gud listener, dis sounds funny seriously.Check dis out daddy jst arrived frm work, stepped out of car with his bag in his hand.Child/ren run towards him n didn't collect d bag frm his father.so d father is suppose to say : would u like to help me carry d bag in?? Dat doesn't only sound ridiculous, it also sounds stupid.Dia is difference btw showing love to children n spoiling 'em.

I remember the old traditional way of flogging that worked wonder

And not the new way of spanking in which the child will still stand looking at you

Nice one.above all, be patient. They are just kids.

They learn quickly from the environment and how you the parents behave.

Don't say A and do B

I will take time to listen to that child, but if his/her story doesnt make sense i will flog am

Correct the child once or preferably twice, by stating what he/she did wrong and warn never to repeat it.

The next time he/she faults, spanking or some mild form of punishment should come in handy - works on troublesome women as well.

Best way to handle stubborn people. Especially children, is to put them in charge of others in the area where they misbehave the most.
As dining hall prefect in secondary school, I tamed the worst noisemakers and latecomers by giving them my job to do.
I'd just take off my badge and give it to the perso "congrats, you're the dining hall prefect for the next one week". And I take the place of a normal student.
After one week of going through the rigours of the job, you find that they even start warning others of the horrors of being caught talking in the dining hall.
Because of this, the dining period became so organized that the headmaster used to bring parents to the dining hall to see how well behaved his students were.

Same tactic can be applied in every other sphere of life.

bodashee:
Best way to handle stubborn people. Especially children, is to put them in charge of others in the area where they misbehave the most.
As dining hall prefect in secondary school, I tamed the worst noisemakers and latecomers by giving them my job to do.
I'd just take off my badge and give it to the perso "congrats, you're the dining hall prefect for the next one week". And I take the place of a normal student.
After one week of going through the rigours of the job, you find that they even start warning others of the horrors of being caught talking in the dining hall.
Because of this, the dining period became so organized that the headmaster used to bring parents to the dining hall to see how well behaved his students were.

Same tactic can be applied in every other sphere of life.

This is so so true. Chai,made me remember my days in boarding school. Fggc owerri and fggc shagamu. Nice trick *winks*