soonest:
@Op, where in Nigeria do they pay for routine vaccination. Thought it was free. You better leave immediately before they take your child, raise her, cut you off from her and fill her with hate against you. I wish you the best

fem29:


Ok please can you post your account details. I will send you something. I hope other good people of nairaland will contribute to this cause.

thorpido:
It's free in government hospitals but it's not free in private hospitals.

Juzzybabe:


I had my baby in a teaching hospital,I paid 500 for the first one n I was told to come with 13k for the second. I was even surprised cuz I always tot,kids imumunization should be free.

soonest:

Really? Ok

Teaching hospital? Hmmh that 13k is suspect o! Shine your eye.

Juzzybabe:



ROTARIX 6,300 and PCV 6,500 That's what they nurses wrote for me. UCH to be precise.
Anyway,now that am hearing it's free in health centers I think that's where I will take my baby when it's time,that's if I will still be in Nigeria.

Juzzybabe:
I want my marriage,I love my husband but if I don't leave this house,am afraid the worst wud happen. I lives in Ogun.
Modified: my inlaws will not let any relatives take me in. My father inlaw always make a statement that they married me and so my family has no right over me. My only way out is escape.

Onegai:
There seems to be a lot you're leaving out (but now is not the time to go into it).

Since your mum feels the same way you do, and you said your family will support you, can't a financial arrangement be made with your aunt/father to send money to you? And he can follow up by coming to Ogun state, ostensibly to see you, but in reality to speak with your relatives around you and decide the best action.
Even better, your aunt should be visiting daily. Visiting isn't the same as getting deeply involved, it just means people are watching and your in-laws cannot deny her coming to see you. Same with the friend who has offered you a place to stay.

The reason I'm urging some caution is because you've just had surgery and you need a month to rest. So far, it's been 2 weeks, an additional 2 weeks gives you rest and time to gathet funds and plan properly. And during that time, safeguard by having relatives visit almost daily (those are the people that will raise an alarm even more on your behalf should anyone take your little girl. Even as far as legal wahala).

I don't know what to say about this matter again. It seems your relatives are not in a strong position compared to your in-laws, so they're not fighting for you. I will pray for you because I can't think now what to do.

lolaluv1:
Mrs Juzy, Please What funds do you need that you've been gathering and for How long will you keep gathering?

Delay is dangerous if you must know.

It is not that I am so into advising you out of your husband's house But you mustn't lose three ways. Your marriage, your child and your sanity.

Sometimes a man needs to lose you to know just How precious you are, even if the separation is only temporal.

soonest:

Rotarix isn't free sha that i know cos it's not routine. Don't know anything about PCV, have never come across it sef.
This aside, please think deeply and act fast. God will direct you

thorpido:
PCV-pneumococcal conjugate vaccine.It prevents meningitis and pneumonia.
It's usually paid for just like Rotavirus vaccine cos it is not routine.

Juzzybabe:


So Thorpido,even at health center they are both not free? And do u think they will both be that expensive at the local health centers?

thorpido:
They are cheaper at the health centers,the government subsidises the amount.They should be free ideally but you have to pay some money for it.

thorpido:
PCV-pneumococcal conjugate vaccine.It prevents meningitis and pneumonia.
It's usually paid for just like Rotavirus vaccine cos it is not routine.

soonest:

Thanks for the info once again. You na teacher o

thorpido:
She doesn't have funds na.She's not been working and is in her in-law's place.Can you help out with funds?

lolaluv1:


Her details are here. Anybody can lend a helping hand without necessarily announcing....

yetseyi:
@Juzzybabe please dont stress your self too much for the sake of your health. I cant even imagine the emotional stress you are passing through. I have had people that delivered via CS and @ 2 weeks you still need to be resting.
God strengthen you dear.
I really don't know what to say again dear.
It is well

Juzzybabe:
My inlaws called a meeting last night to ask me if I am still interested in the marriage between their son and myself. in addition my MIL stated that her son told her some of the issues we had while courting and that he regrets marrying me,and the mum went on to say that sincerely if she knew all this earlier the marriage wudnt have been. "BUT IT IS NEVER TOO LATE" my MIL words... I was surprised at some of the issues she stated because my husband actually lied aganist me! It is very clear to me now that my husband is just not interested in the marriage again. But why did he choose to waste my life? Y me? My husband was and is my first love,the first man I knew,that would tell you how much I sacrificed to keep us together until today. When he proposed he said I was his better half,y the sudden hatred after marriage Obviously my baby is the only reason I am still sleeping under their roof!
The hardest part is that the catholic church doesn't grant divorce

yetseyi:


Have you spoken to your hubby after the meeting, If yes what is he saying.

andromida:
I hope your bags are packed and you are ready to leave. This man has given you too much grief I read you say over and over again you love him. When you are less busy, in a quiet place all by yourself, ask yourself what you love about him because from this story I cant see any love flowing to you from him I don't believe it's possible to love a man who does not care about you. You know we women lie to ourselves a lot we can go like it's because of his mom he is treating me so badly if I can only wait it out he will come around and from there we stay too long in a bad situation.

This man deserves to lose you and your child. If he ever comes to his senses he can come visit his child and I hope for you by then you have totally moved on and are in a better place in every way living a better life. No woman deserves to be at the receiving end of this kind of dastardly behavior from her husband.

I am happy to see you are making plans to take care of yourself and your child you will need to call on reservoirs of strength from within you to get out of this situation. I wish you strength, health and wisdom as you navigate your life forward.