filani:


Now this Guy right here has something that a lot of us guys need more of ... It's called SELF RESPECT !!!

He refuses to come to the relationship table with a beggarly mindset, he values himself too much to let one funny gal waste his TIME and ENERGY.

I can't believe some male posters on this thread! Waiting 3 months, 6 months , 1 year plus !!! Don't even get me started about that guy that was spending on the Gal like ATM. Jeeeezus ! I don't know if I should laugh or cry for these guys.

If I have said it once then I've said it a thousand times to my Nairaland brothers .
RECIPROCITY is key, if you are doing all the work(chasing) and she's catching all the fun then you have missed it from the get go.

Relationship is a two way street , if I'm putting in effort to be with a Gal you better believe I expect her to put in effort to be with Me as well, I don't give myself CHEAPLY to any Gal

holysaint1:


my sista, we re not talking about transformer here... U can visit d nearest nepa office for more info.. :/

damzy88:
From Job to romance From Job to romance

damzy88:
From Job to romance From Job to romance

dechandel:
Awww
I cant wait to see your wedding pictures

XRAY21:


Lol I tell you even if it true it out of pity

firstEVA:
why do you think he's lying? You've not seen where woman ask men out?

Olutola88:
Pissed? Not at all! I'm having real fun. Just that there are times I get tired of the Friends With Benefits thing. But the thing sweet sha

mosefin19:
d 1st girl i wnt to date..she jst sayin dat bcuz we ar living in d same compound...wen she already dieing in luv.. i knw i get her bcus we luv ourself

iyobs7:


Lol... Thank you...



Well unlike most girls, she is unique and I saw that in her... When she first said NO, she was at home preparing for her Jamb and Post ume and said she was not ready to throw emotions into the equation... Because it may affect her studies and preparation... Unlike some girls that will say YES before they hear "Will You..."

We were so close that she attended my Uncles funeral, infact she was the only friend of mine that accompanied me and she was involved in sharing refreshments... She did same too during my two sisters wedding and also during my cousins wedding... She is a very disciplined girl and I was not surprised when I found out that she was a virgin and she is in her mid twenties...

During my final year dinner she accompanied me even though we were not dating and even though I had no car to pick her up, she was 100% comfortable with what I could offer...

She has done countless things I am grateful for and I will say it is a privilege to be dating someone like her...

Not all girls love the BF/GF status, most of them do not know the true value of love... In my insecurities I do tell her that though I am not super handsome, that I will do all within my reach to love her endlessly...

We have been up for more than a year, No sex but we are waxing stronger each passing day... Both families know each other and my mum is particularly fond of her...

OLUJOSHINS:
I've been asking for close to three years now. Anytime she notice I'm getting tired of her, she will text me to keeping me hoping. I'm really getting tired if her but she has my mumu button so I don't have a choice.

dovelike:

Im just telling you sweetheart.Am a lady,you know.

AdesinaOlajide:
Hello Peeps Happy New year.
Mine is one kind.
There's this wonderful lady I've known for 11years now, I'm in my early 20's now.I didn't see her for 9years till just this December but we kept in touch throughout the 9years.The thing is I really like this girl and I can also confidently say she likes me too, I've been in about 4 relationships since 05 but I know those relationships hasn't been what I want because my mind has always been on a future with this lady.
Within this 9years also,I've been able to talk with a few of her family members, just to show you that I'm welcomed at her place.
I just need a candid advice, I hope it's not too premature talking about a relationship with her or better still planning on making her my wife someday due to the reason that we just got to see each other just last month after 9years.
*Sorry for the epistle*
thanks for your responses.

GeneralShepherd:
I never ask! Seduce first, sleep with her and wait for to ask so what are we now?

ckdoubles:
To me I feel is ladies that don't know what they want that keep delaying or ladies that want to explore so when they are done dey will now say yes to one claiming they where being tough is not true

filani:


Now this Guy right here has something that a lot of us guys need more of ... It's called SELF RESPECT !!!

He refuses to come to the relationship table with a beggarly mindset, he values himself too much to let one funny gal waste his TIME and ENERGY.

I can't believe some male posters on this thread! Waiting 3 months, 6 months , 1 year plus !!! Don't even get me started about that guy that was spending on the Gal like ATM. Jeeeezus ! I don't know if I should laugh or cry for these guys.

If I have said it once then I've said it a thousand times to my Nairaland brothers .
RECIPROCITY is key, if you are doing all the work(chasing) and she's catching all the fun then you have missed it from the get go.

Relationship is a two way street , if I'm putting in effort to be with a Gal you better believe I expect her to put in effort to be with Me as well, I don't give myself CHEAPLY to any Gal

ideology:


Hahaha, i love this.
You got it right.

Don't woo.
Be friendly, build strong friendship

One day just walk up to her and say, [b]baby lets do this [/b]simple

iyobs7:
Almost 6 years...

First time I asked::: Not ready for a relationship
Second time::: Was scared we'll not work out cos we were best friends... Said she was scared of loosing the friendship if relationship does not work out...

Third time::: You know me in and out, and where I am coming from, I dont think anyone else will be able to take care of me like you will... I would love to bear your kids one day... Yes... Nov 9th 2013 till date... We've had quarrels, fights and lots more but tho we are close to our late 20's we quarrel like kids, forgive easily and never proud to say sorry... I call her my little winchy winchy...

jonced:
OP...it depends on how u go about it. I have never had to wait for a reply. As soon as i ask, i get a yes or a no, n i'm done. That is because i usually spend some time casually relating with the person n in the process via body language etc, i can pretty much tell which way she is leaning, so by the time i ask, that is if we have not already stared dating sef without asking, but if i do ask it is usually yes. So first get friendly with her and u wont have to wait...except she's not that into u. In which case, u need to upgrade...

troy20:
Well uh...it was only the 2nd date...and she didn't say yes actually.she only let out a soft moan as I reached down, then I knew I had the free pass.

ifoundmyperfect:


You start by being her friend. After you have gotten to know her person, and you feel you both 'click' you then explore going beyond the boundaries of friendship, which I maintain can be done without asking her out.

Olutola88:
It is a popular belief amongst women that a Lady needs to give a guy a tough time before she dances to his beats. They claim such delay tactics is healthy as it will make the guy cherish her more. They also claim that the guy would appreciate better something he sweats to get.

Sincerely speaking, this their ideology is absolute trash to me. I don't have that time to be chasing a lady for 12 months, after all she isn't my “dream”.

I get easily discouraged when it comes to convincing a lady to be mine, maybe because I don't feel a lady is doing me a favour by accepting to be mine. Come to think it, “Is she doing me any favour”? Don't even talk about sex cos it's very cheap and I can get it without dating. More so, she won't be doing me any good because she might even enjoy it more ( I always put my partner's satisfaction first).

I get sick and tired when a lady gives me unnecessary tough time. In fact, most of them call me “Egotistical”. They think I'm proud because my orientation is different from that of most guys they've met. They feel I'm cocky because they don't know my background, they have no idea about my journey so far.

I've had just 3 Girlfriends all my life. The first, I didn't woo her. The second gave me a YES after 24hours and the third which was the most tasking accepted to be mine after 4days of declaring interest. Guess what? I had the shortest relationship with the one that gave me the toughest time, it lasted just 2 months.

I've been single since December 2012 mainly because I don't have that strength to keep pushing and pushing. Most of them tell me that I'm spoilt and that I don't even know how to woo *lmao*. They claim I'm always too casual when wooing them, they say I don't show sign of seriousness, they conclude I always feel I shouldn't work too hard to get them. Do they want me to kill cow to show my seriousness? Nevertheless, I feel I've not just met that person that'll make me break the rules, that one person that'll make my heart do giz giz, that person that'll have my “mumu button” *lol*.

You know the funniest thing? The ones you don't wanna date are the ones always stalking and readily available. As a good guy, you don't wanna woo dem, use dem and dump them. So, nigga just keeps it at the Friends With Benefits level. When you get tired of the FWB life and seek love again, you'll meet one girl that'll be giving you unnecessary tough time and you'll be like... “WTF! Some girls are praying I upgrade their status from FWB to official Girlfriend and this one is here forming one rubbish! Go To Hell jooor” *LMAO*

My Questions:

1. How long did you wait before she gave you a YES

2. How long can you wait to get a YES?

3. Ladies, wetin be una problem? Is giving a guy a tough time a guarantee he will treat you right?

4. Ladies, why must we chase you people like we chase money before you say YES? I think the love thing should be mutual na? Must you stress the hell outta our lives?