Born to Love but taught to Hate was a short fiction i had read very recently from one of my most admired naija blog. The short story was written by kiki Nelson, an avid Writter and a bloger, the story drives home succinctly,how no serious attention and concern has been given to continous unwarranted seeds of hate that our parents have always been putting in us, even when things is seemingly not the way they paints it most time. The norms is coloured in RACISM, TRIBALISM and pure STEROTYPING.

Just yesterday, a close female friend told me about a guy she has feeling for in school, told me how the guy keep pestering her for a serious relationship. Out of Impatient, i asked, then foyeke what is now the problem? Yemi..its a strong feeling ooo and i wish i can risk it. Yemi,the guy is from Ondo town and my parents dispassionately hates the 'Ondo's....Why? i asked...they have no concrete reason ooo and this dude is a perfect gentle man,he has almost everything i want in a man.
Hmmn..i wish i can help her or advice but have been in her shoe before and i understand how perfectly the shoe pinches....our parents just hate for no reason, you come from the same south-south, they tell you not to bring a man from your next village? can you imagine...

You come from ilaje, an ese odo man or girl is a forbidden fruit for you... An offa girl cant marry from Erin-ile....ikwere man may be warned not to go near the next girl from orlu..kaduna south and north lover birds would go through thin and thick if they decides to make it happen.............U come from the same town, they warn you not to get a girl from the next compound becos of witchcraft....u are catholic, u must be looking for a catholic guy...so pathetic!

Nairalanders,whats your take on this? Any Experience and how do you weather the storm for those that have similar experience before.

BY THE WAY, HAPPY NEW YEAR IN ADVANCE TO U ALL...Wishing u all a very Prosperous 2015!

Let her find out the reasons from her parents. If its not concrete, she should send her uncles/aunties to her parent.

Cos when she's getting old and still single, they'll be the ones asking when she wants to settle down

no comments till next year

The trend is worrisome... My parents say "You must not marry from so and so tribe." The names of tribes on their "embargo-list" is so long I think I might end up not marrying a Nigerian. Love should lead,anyway.

Osarieme415:
The trend is worrisome... My parents say "You must not marry from so and so tribe." The names of tribes on their "embargo-list" is so long I think I might end up not marrying a Nigerian. Love should lead,anyway.

Smiles......and u think they would not complain that your oyinbo wife to be would not be able to speak your language too? may god help us oooo

this is a new generation. no parent have the fucking right to choose a partner for you. na 4 olden days those tins exist

IamLEGEND1:
no comments till next year

ok, go ahead, its next year now.

micronut:
Smiles......and u think they would not complain that your oyinbo wife to be
would not be able to speak your language too? may god help us oooo

My broda,I tire oooh

This is more familiar with bizzy body, impulsive & dictator parents. They feel they are so clairvoyant that they know who you are to marry and who you are to avoid. Nevertheless, sometimes they are right. Although their veracity isn't about clairvoyance but more of a probabilistic scenario where one may or may not find his or herself in an unfortunate union. Advise; enlighten them. such mentality sld be left for the stark illiterates.

When the feelings are very intense, you hear cases of eloping.

Hmmmmmm

Kenneth205:
Hmmmmmm

bros u don experience one before?

micronut:
bros u don experience one before?

Noo.. But mum dnt like Hausa, Calabar, Esan and Urhobo Girls Atal.....

Kenneth205:


Noo.. But mum dnt like Hausa, Calabar, Esan and Urhobo Girls Atal.....

chai.......make god go catch u, make u jam one nice looking, cool headed and well behaved humble girl........tell me u wld want to miss such rare offer? even ur mum wlld have to let u be oooo

micronut:
chai.......make god go catch u, make u jam one nice looking, cool headed and well behaved humble girl........tell me u wld want to miss such rare offer? even ur mum wlld have to let u be oooo

Bro, na her own she dy talk..

Any girl wey God gimme nai I qo take

The reason why most married people still run home to their parents after any slight marital altercation is that, they allowed their parents to choose their spouse for them thereby making them the source of their problems and by extention, the solution.

If you know your parents will not change their minds, don't torture your partner any further; break up. Simple. If you go ahead and marry, you will successfully alienate your family.

Marriage should unite families not separate them.

Wbb

ask ur parents why they hate them .and also note that ur parents can be wrong cos they are not perfect.

Seriously facing the same issue ...I'm just confused...my dad doesn't have a problem with the tribe, it's just my mum ...how do I handle this?

Tymax:
If you know your parents will not change their minds, don't torture your partner any further; break up. Simple. If you go ahead and marry, you will successfully alienate your family.

Marriage should unite families not separate them.

u make them happy, while you are sad..by letting him/ her go...really?!?

obviously that means your parents raised you to be open minded and not discriminate in dating.

However, is this necessarily a good thing especially if it means you will carelessly marry anyone who catches your fancy.

can anybody complaining here marry a boko haram? Why not?