Hello guys, what are your opinions on the best time to give up wooing a girl, especially when u have asked her out and she said No? Does a girl actually mean No when she says No? Also, do girls not see constant pressure from a particular guy as bugging? Your Opinions are highly needed. Girls, Pls contribute also.

When she puts you in the zone.

Wen she pour you hot water.
back off

Most of them mean NO when they say it. All you need do is "NEXT" her or pester her and make her hate you

When her shakara is too much Well you give up anytime you feel like giving up.lol I know guy who wooed a girl for 5 years. Haba!! Is it a seasonal movie?

When you start making real money..Trust me, she will run after you.

pasqal09:
When she puts you in the zone.

hmm...now how do u know u are in d zone?

DeeBoiyy:
Most of them mean NO when they say it. All you need do is "NEXT" her or pester her and make her hate you

Dats quite true man but heard dat some gals say No and after much pestering, later accepts.

djeezy:
When her shakara is too much Well you give up anytime you feel like giving up.lol I know guy who wooed a girl for 5 years. Haba!! Is it a seasonal movie?

Pure bullshit...will use dos yrs to make good things happen for me. know of guys who wouldn't go more Dan a month

An initial "no" is enough for me.

When a girl says no and "she changes her mind" or "she means yes", it means she is either fickle, she does not think things through before responding or manipulative. These are not traits of someone I will like to have a future with.

I prefer a "lets get to know one another better first". A lot more matured and sensible than saying "no" and expecting me to be persistent

ximarro:
hmm...now how do u know u are in d zone?

search tru threads on Nairaland

ximarro:
Dats quite true man but heard dat some gals say No and after much pestering, later accepts.

Yea, i know that too. But common sense lets you know when to stop fighting for a lost cause

Flash her with another lady, may be a friend she doesn't know you with. If she is jealous, she never meant her NO but if she never mind the presence of that girl, she is not into you. Period

Mynd44:
An initial "no" is enough for me.

When a girl says no and "she changes her mind" or "she means yes", it means she is either fickle, she does not think things through before responding or manipulative. These are not traits of someone I will like to have a future with.

I prefer a "lets get to know one another better first". A lot more matured and sensible than saying "no" and expecting me to be persistent

Sounds So unforgiving on your side.
It is romance and not a business contract, the rules are différent.

laplace12:


Sounds So unforgiving on your side.
It is romance and not a business contract, the rules are différent.

Treat it as you will. That's why people keep getting played and manipulated

ximarro:
hmm...now how do u know u are in d zone?

How won't you know you in the zone? Ofcourse you'd know

OP you have to know when a girl is saying NO and when she's doing what the post below me suggests.

Mynd44:


I prefer a "lets get to know one another better first". A lot more matured and sensible than saying "no" and expecting me to be persistent

Some girls have a very bright future -smartass intelligent, attractive and with an enviable personality. Those that are aware of what they carry will not want to jump into something with you just yet. Especially those that are long term thinkers who don't want just a fling but a meaningful relationship. There are exceptions however - and this depends on who is involved.

So if a girl is giving herself time to get to know you without outrightly saying NO, it should be a plus for you because you would know whether testosterone was meddling with your brain or she's worth the entire commitment of a relationship. It's also advantageous because you give yourself time to connect with her instead of immersing yourself in routines and activities.

It's actually a win win.

As for a girl that says NO, I think you should respect her wishes and back off.

The fishes in the river are enough to go round.

pasqal09:

How won't you know you in the zone? Ofcourse you'd know

yea, dats true.

lomaxx:
OP you have to know when a girl is saying NO and when she's doing what the post below me suggests.




Some girls have a very bright future -smartass intelligent, attractive and with an enviable personality. Those that are aware of what they carry will not want to jump into something with you just yet. Especially those that are long term thinkers who don't want just a fling but a meaningful relationship. There are exceptions however - and this depends on who is involved.

So if a girl is giving herself time to get to know you without outrightly saying NO, it should be a plus for you because you would know whether testosterone was meddling with your brain or she's worth the entire commitment of a relationship. It's also advantageous because you give yourself time to connect with her instead of immersing yourself in routines and activities.

It's actually a win win.

As for a girl that says NO, I think you should respect her wishes and back off.

The fishes in the river are enough to go round.

yea man...more Dan enof.

Where are d gals la?

When she has started buying cement to build the foundation for a 3 storey building friendzone

yorex2011:
When she has started buying cement to build the foundation for a 3 storey building friendzone

lol.

ximarro:
Hello guys, what are your opinions on the best time to give up wooing a girl,

when u r aware she's already in a relationship

ximarro:
when u have asked her out and she said No? Does a girl actually mean No when she says No?

in most cases

ximarro:
Also, do girls not see constant pressure from a particular guy as bugging?

man, when a girl tells u 'NO' with no best reasons, just kill that feelinh. No need for constant 'pressure' ..better days r stil ahead, u stil gon' meet xo many people, xo y blockin ur view of meetin the right ones wit a girl who dosnt appreciate ur feeling? Life z too short nigga.. Beggin nd disturbing girls will make u lose respect and value.. U need to hang around some girls nd see the way they make jest of guys asking them out with there friends; shitty, bashful talks, disparaging laughter nd all

Dotwillis1:
when u r aware she's already in a relationship

in most cases

man, when a girl tells u 'NO' with no best reasons, just kill that feelinh. No need for constant 'pressure' ..better days r stil ahead, u stil gon' meet xo many people, xo y blockin ur view of meetin the right ones wit a girl who dosnt appreciate ur feeling? Life z too short nigga.. Beggin nd disturbing girls will make u lose respect and value.. U need to hang around some girls nd see the way they make jest of guys asking them out with there friends; shitty, bashful talks, disparaging laughter nd all

mehn...dis ur reply Jst opened my eyes. u said it all...putting pressure on a gal most times could make u devalue usef before dem especially when she said No. If all guys could ignore gals after refusing dem, I think much of d shakara de do will not be prevalent. Dotswill, I also wana let u know sumtin n d reason for creating d topic. I actually asked sum1 out n she said she is married but refused to tell me what she means by married cos i know she is not... Jst sum1 in same class with me. What do u think about dat? Guys, help out here.

I've never seen a reason to pester a girl ever in my life.
1. even if she says yes u won't marry her. it's still gonna end someday.
2. u only pester girls when ur focus is primarily on one girl. hv an eye for many at once. unless u r ready for marriage nvr tk any girl serious cos it's only one u will finally marry n u r not ready yet so y kill ursef for something temporary.
3. when u hv them around in numbers u build up confidence n u start seeing ursef as the one who decides what happens to the girls in ur life n not the other way round. in this ur condition she decides ur moods, whether u move wt other girls, how u feel about ursef generally

so guy it's time to b the man in charge.

Mynd44:
An initial "no" is enough for me.

When a girl says no and "she changes her mind" or "she means yes", it means she is either fickle, she does not think things through before responding or manipulative. These are not traits of someone I will like to have a future with.

I prefer a "lets get to know one another better first". A lot more matured and sensible than saying "no" and expecting me to be persistent

For this one, I agree with you.

ximarro:
mehn...dis ur reply Jst opened my eyes. u said it all...putting pressure on a gal most times could make u devalue usef before dem especially when she said No. If all guys could ignore gals after refusing dem, I think much of d shakara de do will not be prevalent. Dotswill, I also wana let u know sumtin n d reason for creating d topic. I actually asked sum1 out n she said she is married but refused to tell me what she means by married cos i know she is not... Jst sum1 in same class with me. What do u think about dat? Guys, help out here.

i tink saying she's married, maybe she just placed emphasis on 'her been taken'..nd nt married literally, just in a relationship. On another luk of it, it sounds lik just kidding u nd pulling ur legs. Xo just let ha to expanciate

lomaxx:
OP you have to know when a girl is saying NO and when she's doing what the post below me suggests.




Some girls have a very bright future -smartass intelligent, attractive and with an enviable personality. Those that are aware of what they carry will not want to jump into something with you just yet. Especially those that are long term thinkers who don't want just a fling but a meaningful relationship. There are exceptions however - and this depends on who is involved.

So if a girl is giving herself time to get to know you without outrightly saying NO, it should be a plus for you because you would know whether testosterone was meddling with your brain or she's worth the entire commitment of a relationship. It's also advantageous because you give yourself time to connect with her instead of immersing yourself in routines and activities.

It's actually a win win.

As for a girl that says NO, I think you should respect her wishes and back off.

The fishes in the river are enough to go round.

Very right

Maybe things are different now. Back in the days , persistency would do the magic. Some ladies just want to be disturbed. I know people who did not get a NO for an answer and continued the chasing for months and they eventually caught the fish. I know some who are happily married now.

There is no right time to chicken out. It depends on your personality and main intention.

Dotwillis1:
i tink saying she's married, maybe she just placed emphasis on 'her been taken'..nd nt married literally, just in a relationship. On another luk of it, it sounds lik just kidding u nd pulling ur legs. Xo just let ha to expanciate

well, dat will means putting more pressure n may make me look cheap before her. Well actually, she has said a No n i bliv it's a final No. Guess she's not in2 me.

Its a nice question u asked bro,,,but u no wat?.....if u r to study GIRLs,i tell u,u wont graduate....some girls just say NO,n mean it,while some say NO in d first place not 2 look too cheap,sm even play hard 2 gt wit,,d question is how will u no d category she falls in?...dats d part where u wont graduate

DeeBoiyy:
Most of them mean NO when they say it. All you need do is "NEXT" her or pester her and make her hate you

Nice one..