Higher Institution relationships are so much more
grown-up compared to secondary school
relationships, right? Dating in college calls for more
mature moves, such as not telling your friends
every little detail about your relationship. While
spilling some things to your roommates is perfectly
okay, there are experiences that should be kept
private between you and your SO for the sake of
honoring your relationship. Here’s what not to tell
your besties (as tough as it may be).
1. The private details of your partner’s life
Your SO tells you something really private and asks
you not to tell anyone. This is absolutely a contract
you cannot breach. Failing to respect your partner’s
wishes could mean the demise of the relationship,
especially if word gets out.
“You shouldn’t tell your friends any secrets or
private things your boyfriend entrusts in you,” says
Suzanne Oshima, dating coach at Single in Stilettos.
“Don’t even think for a moment that it would be
okay to just tell your best friend.”
Oshima says the consequences of doing so are
dire.
“Why? Because if your boyfriend ever finds out that
you shared something that he entrusted in you, he
will never trust you again with anything else that he
holds near and dear to his heart,” she says. “Men
have a hard enough time opening up about their
feelings, so don’t breach his trust.”
Seriously, don’t. It means a lot that he told you this
in the first place!
2. Every single disagreement you have with your
partner
Sometimes it’s okay to consult your girls when
you’re not sure who’s in the wrong. However, telling
them about every single tiny argument you have
with your SO can’t end well.
“You shouldn’t tell your friends about every single
fight you get into with your boyfriend,” Oshima
says. “If you do, it will start to taint how they feel
about him, and they’ll just try to get you to break up
with him.”
It’s best to keep some of the smaller arguments to
yourselves. Plus, you should be able to work it out
with your SO without the aid of your friends.
3. The super intimate stuff
If you’re experimenting with sex for the first time,
it’s totally natural to have questions that you want to
ask your girls. Remember, though, that divulging
every single detail of these intimate happenings
between you and your partner can take away from
the importance you should be placing on these
occurrences. After all, having sex with someone
you deeply care about doesn’t happen all the time.
“I know so many like to kiss and tell, but you
shouldn’t tell your friends about your sex life,” says
Julie Spira, online dating and relationship expert as
well as founder of Cyber-Dating Expert.
Spira says if you do tell one of your friends about
your sex woes (or intimate details about your
partner’s body and abilities) and you happen to get
in a fight with said friend, those dirty details you
spilled could get back to your SO. Now that would
be awkward.
Make sure you have sex discussions with a person
you totally and completely trust, because the
situation Spira described could be nightmarish —
especially if you attend a small college.
4. Exactly how fabulous your relationship is
Things aren’t going well — they’re going amazing .
And we’re totally happy for you! However, keep in
mind that you don’t want to be excessive when
talking about it to your friends.
“You shouldn’t gush and brag all the time to your
single girlfriends about how great your boyfriend
and relationship are,” Oshima says. “Being in love
and in a great relationship can be one of the most
amazing things. But it’s important to be sensitive to
your girlfriends who are single and not in a
relationship right now.”
Remember when you were single and one of your
friends was totally infatuated with her boyfriend?
You had to hear about it all the time, and after a
while, you were a bit fed up. Chatting about
something adorable your SO did is fine from time to
time, but don’t go overboard. As Oshima said, you
should be considerate of your friends’ feelings.
Relationships are awesome, but with them come
some expectation of privacy. After all, would you
want your SO sharing every detail with his or her
buddies? We didn’t think so. Honor your SO by
keeping the intimate aspects of your relationship
just that – intimate.

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