mutter:
Instead of telling the person finding the truth the truth some of you are here crying more than the bereaved. I hope that you are not secretly contacting this woman to offer yourself`s or your brothers or even husband`s to her as a substitute. You know the thing with this jungle fever - once you get beat hit you never go back.
Seen enough of these stories. You lament with the woman and in a few months she will be here lamenting about the Ghanaian or Sudanese she has now.
I know she must be hurt and she needs to take it easy with the baby but this story she is telling here does not add up. I have seen just too many of these.
She married this man knowing the situation or had an idea. Let her come out with the whole truth.

Please Finding the truth can you post a picture of yourself here too. I mean you have posted one of your husband and your co wife so one of yourself will be good too. That picture might explain some things. I hope you are not one of these women a man had to fall in love with.

and secondly please don`t fall for any private mails anyone sends you here because you would be making another mistake.

and thirdly if you truly love someone even after a disapointment you would not want to ruin himor keep his child away from him.

Mynd44:
Dang!!!

Hell has no fury......

texanomaly:


Smh...I just hope he doesn't kill her to get out of this cage she's put him in.

Please be careful op.

texanomaly:
Smh...I wonder if you are even listening to yourself op.

IDEApro:


Sensation and emotion has beclouded your sense of reasoning to the extent you can't read and comprehend a simple write up. Where and how did I support the action of the guy if not offering hints as to the probably cause of action to the Op and how best for her to confront the husband with her suspicions.

Op expressed fear even though it is confirmed and succinctly ask for advice to handle the situation and at this juncture, I offered a probably cause of action and how best to confront hubby on why he took such action, the merit and demerits and if this could be patched up they may decide to work on it. My suggestions explicitly stated this opinion.

Where in the passage did you read my support for the OP or your half bake education is fantasizing with your brain?

Nonso23:

How do you intend to enjoy such a union
You are practically asking her to set herself up for emotional and psychological abuse in the long run.
What about the child caught in the middle of all these?
He who seeks revenge must dig two graves. She's sacrificing her happiness to cut out her own pound of flesh. Is it worth it?
She'll become an emotional wreck less than a year afterwards. That man will be pushed to the wall and there are a lot of things that could go awry. From passive but consistent self-esteem degradation to even murder.

Are you looking out for her well-being or you're just in for the thrill that another man is suffering somewhere?
Sorry, but sometimes you sound really hateful and bitter.

@O.P you have a pragmatic revenge course to run but it is not worth it if it ruins you along with him. Unless you have nothing else to live for.

Nonso23:

That you are glad to see anybody suffer (criminal or not) tells a lot about the psyche you've built up for yourself.
Criminals are not punished to entertain certain masochistic tendencies of the society but to possibly correct them and most importantly keep them on a leash to protect the same society from further heartache, and not to regale in their suffering.
That mindset you've got is really worth get rid of. It's sadistic.

Which is the lesser of the two evils. A child raised in a loveless and emotionally tumultous sham marriage or a child raised by a balanced single mother
You would rather sacrifice a child's well being on the alter of revenge?
Have a lovely week too.

findingtruth:
I don't plan to enslave him. I plan to live the same life we set out to build from the beginning but i am going to do it with reassurance that he has nothing to gain if he intends ill.
This is really nothing more then divorce court would give me. In the usa i can get 50% of a mans pay for support of his child. I am just ensuring that what we build is secured for my son and myself. I am entitled to half in divorce court i just want to ensure that the other half is my sons and won't be shared with another woman nor will he enjoy it so i am only asking him to waive his half. I only want to make sure whatever is built is built for my son and his life is never bothered changed or torn apart. And yes i am going to secure my own future. I don't plan to treat him bad hold him hostage or any of that. I only intend to have assurance if he has ill will i lose nothing and can share the life i work to build with another man.

ifyalways:
Lmao!

Just what I expected. Reason I gloss over such stories. While y'all are here screaming foul the babe was getting sweet kpekus and/or jazzed up from the man. Nothing will change until the man is done with her.

She can't help it.


BTW, @ OP,what "future/assests/investment" would the man build with you in US? Someone that you confess to have been supporting over the years? Lol.
At the point I agree with Mutter, you knew he had a woman but thought you could buy him. Please, don't bore us with your stories.

Mondisweets:
I pray that is not his first child

corisande:


see the resemblance?

Mondisweets:
That child looks like him ooo

Mondisweets:
You married a fraudster.

Mondisweets:
I pray that is not his first child

corisande:



Na you talk am oooo :p

I wish the op goodluck jonathan in whatever decision she decides to take ooo