36 QuestionsThat can Make You Fall in Love With Anyone?
One lab. Two people. Forty-five minutes. Thirty-six questions. Four minutes of gazing into each other’s eyes… and one deep, lasting connection.

Admittedly, it sounds like a ridiculous recipe for falling in love. But could it actually work? Well, according to research conducted more than 15 years ago by Arthur Aron, PhD, a professor of psychology at Stony Brook University, it did work.

The method was simple: Over the course of 45 minutes, Aron had his subjects ask each other 36 questions (full list below!). Each one gets progressively more personal, beginning with, “Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?” before probing under the surface into treasured memories, deepest wishes, the state of the other person’s relationship with Mom, even the role of love and affection in the other person’s life.52 sets of male and female strangers and 19 sets of all-female strangers together in a lab and caused them to grow significantly closer by way of the equation noted above.

Want to test it yourself? Find a comfortable spot, settle in with someone you’d like to get closer with, and get started answering these questions from Arthur Aron's study.


1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”

26. Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them: Be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Good luck!

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36 questions that make you fall in love with anyone

nairaland is not for sale....

please beware of my son...drmaverick!!

nawa oh. There questions are quite intense. Never realised i was shallow

I love these. They keep conversation going but does not guarantee falling in love.

How is this concerned with falling in love [img]nothin person no go see[/img]

Really!..how does this questions make someone fall in love?

Nigerian girls are only interested in your money and not all these. If you like say these words in alphabetical order and you don't have money bro nothing for you. A little money does the trick and not words. When you have money you don't have to talk too much. They will be the ones running after and fighting over you. The only type of girls who fall for these words are White girls cos they alone understand the true meaning of romance and not their Nigerian counterparts.

^^what? what have girls really done to Nairalanders?? if you people don't add "money" and girls in the same sentence, then you've not spoken.

You're kidding, right?

laroux:
Nigerian girls are only interested in your money and not all these. If you like say these words in alphabetical order and you don't have money bro nothing for you. A little money does the trick and not words. When you have money you don't have to talk too much. They will be the ones running after and fighting over you. The only type of girls who fall for these words are White girls cos they alone understand the true meaning of romance and not their Nigerian counterparts.

Lol @ bolded,yea some of dem are white boy gibberish but its not all about the money, u can ask some of questions like
'do u rehearse before a call, what constitutes a perfect day for u? Etc..the one that suites u