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| The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 11:26pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
The one attitude and action that is hazardous to your relationship with people in 2015 is P.o.r.n addiction. Viewing indecency sites is as addictive as cocaine and can keep you coming back for more without you knowing that you are an addict. Internet porn is like a drug addiciton. The access to endless variety of porn causes your to constantly search for the “perfect” scene. This leads to massive overstimulation of the brain, the overstimulation causes a dopamine (dope) release into the brain (your fix). After you have an orgasm it’s like coming down off a drug. After all that excitement, that endless stimuli for the brain, your body just shuts off and you turn into a lazy piece of shit. How many time have you been about to do something, decided to just have a “quick one”, and by the end 30 minutes later had no motivation to do anything. Alright, let’s get into the nitty gritty of how to actually quit using porn for good. The tips and suggestions below are based on my research into cognitive psychology over the years as well as from reported experiences of men who have quit using porn. Quitting porn sites requires discipline, courage and faith. Follow these techniques to free yourself from porn forever. Are you the type that download p.orn movies from free sites to watch on your phone, PC, Ipad and office computer etc. This message is for you! In 2015 you will seek liberation and total freedom from nudity and p.ornography as that is the latest bondage of the devil on our people in Nigeria. You can overcome it. Read On!.... [b] VISIT:http://www.quitpornreport.com/ 2 Likes
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by iceberylin(m): 11:27pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 11:27pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
Quit it now, Don't wait to quit Tomorrow Have you decided to quit Porn? Then quit it right now. Dont keep it for some tomorrow that will never come. Your last porn watching is over, its past. Start now. Right now. Build a Porn free environment Delete your porn collection now, from your DVD collection, flashdrive, memory cards, laptop, phones and ipad etc.Burn or throw away those magazines and DVDs. Dont keep a single porn clip in your system.Clean it all.If you have personal favorite delete them first!! Stop counting days By counting the number of days you have stopped watching, defeats the purpose of staying away from porn. Actually this is another away of thinking about porn. Subconsciously you will take it as a pain And one day you might say "i had enough", and you will find yourself using porn again. Kill the Porn trigger [b]Many people stop watching porn for months and all of a sudden they start it again. To kill trigger you have learn to stay away from the cliff edge rather than seeing how close you can get to it without falling. Stop doing things which you have done before watching porn Triggers differ from individual to individual. For example, seeing an R-rated movie with an intense sex scene might trigger some former users into thoughts about wanting to access porn, while the same sex scene.The trigger could be something as simple as driving by a beer advertisement on a billboard with busty women on it.” Stop negative self talk excuses Some people find that they can assume more responsibility for quitting porn simply by changing their mental “self-talk.When they notice they are telling themselves things like, . "My will power is weak or I dont have will power" “I have to use porn,” “I have no control over watching porn” Quickly counter the thoughts with more positive statements Correct your sexual habits you may have developed sexual habits and patterns that work with porn but don’t work in real intimate relationships. Sexual attitudes and behaviours don’t miraculously transform once you’ve stopped using porn. You’ll need to make an active effort to discover new ways to define sex, change the images you associate with sex, and learn new approaches to self-pleasuring and sex with a partner. Examining and shifting your attitudes and behaviours about sex is time well spent, Find Ways to Conserve and Strengthen Willpower A big part of kicking the porn habit is resisting those impulses to watch porn when you encounter one of your behavioural cues. That takes willpower. [/b] 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 11:28pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
[size=16pt]Convey your problem to another person[/size] I have a problem with pornography and I want to quit.” When a porn user first says words like these out loud to another person, he takes a significant first step in climbing out of the porn trap. As we’ve seen in previous chapters, most relationships with porn thrive on isolation, secrecy,and denial. By talking openly and honestly with another person about your problem you automatically weaken your connection to porn. 1 Like |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by leshluap(m): 11:36pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by SIRKOL(m): 11:45pm On Jan 19, 2015 |
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by japhmanuel: 6:03am On Jan 20, 2015 |
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by Iykebestbt(m): 6:16am On Jan 20, 2015 |
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by ggrin(f): 8:55am On Jan 20, 2015 |
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 8:34pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
Am glad it was well read and enjoyed...To be continued soon! |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by OmoAlata1(f): 9:02pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
there is no such thing as p.orn addiction. there is an underline issue and p.orn watching is just the outlet. solve the underlining issues and bam, your "po.rn addiction" is solved. BTW watching p.orn is not a sin. je,rking off to p.orn is the safest sex will you ever have |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by InZA: 9:21pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: Wow!!! You're so far from the truth. Too far for me to even want to attempt fencing my own opinions with you. It's particularly shocking that this is coming from a lady. I've never been addicted to po:rn, but I must admit that before I completely stopped watching it, I had my fair share of it. I don't quite get what you mean by underlining issues or reasons, because quite frankly, nothing justifies por:n watching. There was a thread I opened with my alternate moniker "1one", in that thread, I made a transcript of a Tedtalks seminar given by Ran Gavreni. I would place the link here, please and please, I'm hoping that you'd spare some minutes to go through that thread, be as liberally minded as possible before reading the content of the thread. Here's the link. https://www.nairaland.com/2038350/why-stopped-watching-indecency 1 Like |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by OmoAlata1(f): 9:30pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
InZA: I will say it again, there is no such thing as p.orn addiction nor sex addiction. if you believe you have any of these addiction, you don't. You have other issues that need to be treated and it is manifesting itself through sex. First uncover the real reason(s) why have these addiction then seek proper professional treatment for it. then your addiction will be solved. In my opinion p.orn and sex addiction is just an excuse cos people will automatically feel sorry for you. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by InZA: 9:37pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: Hmmm... Okay then. If that's what you feel. Cheers. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 9:59pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
OmoAlata1: That is a big life from the pit of hell. I know how how many young teens in Nigeria that have called me to counsel them. Moreso addiction is the topic of discussion on inspiration FM Lagos-20/1/2015. So you are deceiving yourself. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 10:14pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
If you are a PORN addict, you need help. Don’t suffer in silence and blame anyone for your failures. Just like sick people visit the doctor for test and diagnosis so will I diagonise the root cause of your problem. Everything is possible if you believe in your heart. First, you must acknowledge the addiction exists. Many who are caught in the trap of addiction will adamantly deny the problem. He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. - Proverbs 28:13- For more information on how to stay librated. 10. It’s cliche, but you must approach your addiction one day at a time. Look for little victories and rejoice in the progress you’re making. Recovery is a cinch by the inch, but a trial by the mile. Remember a journey of a thousand miles starts with a step.
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 10:34pm On Jan 20, 2015 |
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 7:18am On Jan 21, 2015 |
Thanks for reading so far to this stage. You are all blessed and by the grace of God you will overcome p.orn and mastur.bation in 2015. I will find more time to write on this so that many could get the useful information they need to quit por.n. Studies show that terms relating to porn are by far the most commonly searched-for terms in the internet search engines. Every day, literally millions of people do searches related to the porn industry. The powerful imagery of internet pornography is highly addictive. Many men (and women) have been caught in the snare of internet porn and find themselves helplessly addicted to its visual stimulation. This results in uncontrollable lust, an inability to experience true sexual intimacy in marriage, and often intense feelings of guilt and despair. Pornography is the #1 cause of masturbation, sexual assault, and sexual deviancy. Most importantly, pornography is offensive to God, and is therefore a sin that must be confessed, repented of, and overcome. Also Quitting porn requires a support system that takes care of you after you go through steps 1 and 2 above, providing guidance during the process of adjusting back into society. This is where “rebooting” or abstaining from porn, masturbating or orgasm for a certain amount of time becomes useful. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 7:46am On Jan 21, 2015 |
HERE ARE SOME INTERESTING STATISTICS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT P.O.R.N 58% of free adult websites comes from outside the United States. Over 75% of our young teens and married men/women are watching p.o.r.n on their personal phones 1 in 5 mobile searches are for p.ornography 2 out of every child molestation and rape is usually caused by excessive use of p.orn 24% of smart phone owners admit to having p.orn on their mobile handsets. Every second $3,075.64 is being spent on p.ornography. 9 out of 10 boys and 6 out 10girls are exposed to pornography before the age of 18. 20% of men admit to watching p.orn online at work. 50% of Christian men and 20% of all Christian women say they are addicted to p.orn. This attitude often destroys relationship with your partner as the more you use it, the more you will crave for it. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by ebamma(m): 7:50am On Jan 21, 2015 |
guy we don hear u, no repeat yaself again nah |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 8:18pm On Jan 21, 2015 |
If you are a PORN addict, you need help. Don’t suffer in silence and blame anyone for your failures. Just like sick people visit the doctor for test and diagnosis so will I diagnose the root cause of your problem. Everything is possible if you believe in your heart. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by Nobody: 1:28am On Jan 22, 2015 |
Great write up but I don't agree with where you said "learn new approaches to self-pleasuring and sex with a partner" because in as much as watching indecency is a sin against GOD as u have said, so also is sex with a mere partner that is not your spouse. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 4:19pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Yedo:. You have a point. I don't subcribe to p.orn neither will i support masturbation. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 4:22pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Yedo:. You have a point. I don't subscribe to p.orn neither will i support masturbation. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 5:45pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
We are going to cover steps to recover from P.o.r.n addiction How to recover from p.orn addiction Step 1. First, you must acknowledge the addiction exists. Many who are caught in the trap of addiction will adamantly deny the problem. He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion. - Proverbs 28:13 click here to download a free ebook- www.quitpornreport.com/ |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 5:46pm On Jan 22, 2015 |
Step 2. You must recognize that what you are doing is wrong. Addicts find a way to justify their problem in their mind. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the boastful pride of life, is not from the Father, but is from the world. - I John 2:16 www.quitpornreport.com |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 10:17am On Jan 23, 2015 |
Step 3. You must not blame others – “If my wife/husband were just more affectionate.” … “If women/men were not so seductive.” Adam blamed Eve and she blamed the serpent. Instead, you must begin to take responsibility for your actions.
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| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 10:20am On Jan 23, 2015 |
Step 4. Make yourself accountable to a spiritual authority, perhaps a pastor or mature believer. Everybody needs a “safe” person to share their struggles with. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much. - James 5:16 To make an examination of conscience: Begin with a prayer asking for God’s help. Review your life with the help of some questions, which are based on the 10 Commandments (see below). Tell God how truly sorry you are for your sins. Make a firm resolution not to sin again. Remain Blessed! |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 10:22am On Jan 23, 2015 |
Short Prayer To Help you After confessing the Sins Of P.ornography etc O My dearest God, I am sorry for my sins with all my heart. In choosing to do wrong and failing to do good, I have sinned against you by watching nudity and engaging in order shameful acts, whom I should love above all things. I firmly intend, with the help of your grace, to do penance, to sin no more and to avoid whatever leads me to sin. Our Savior, Jesus Christ, suffered and died for us. In His Name, O Lord, have mercy Amen. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 10:26am On Jan 23, 2015 |
Examine your conscience “I am the Lord your God. You shall not have strange gods before Me.” (Ex 20:2,3) Have I really loved God above all things or have I put other things — work, money, drugs, p.orn, m.asturbation,TV, fame, pleasure, other people — ahead of Him? Have I made time for God each day in prayer? Have I denied my faith in God or endangered it by practices of the occult or through reading or programs that are opposed to faith and morals? Am I whole-hearted in accepting and following God’s teaching or do I only pick and choose the convenient parts of His message? Have I tried to learn and understand my faith better? Have I denied my faith before others? Have I been willing to affirm, defend and practice my faith in public and not just in private? Did I despair of or presume on God’s mercy? Make out time to pray. it is a weapon against the devil. |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 11:38pm On Jan 23, 2015 |
Step 5. You must recognize that “will power” is not the answer. At a weak moment, your “will” may fail you. By admitting that you are in need of God’s help, you open access to His supernatural intervention in your life. You must yield your will to God’s will. That’s when He can begin a new work in your life. www.quitpornreport.com |
| Re: The One Attitude That Is Killing Your Relationship With Opposite Partner by expert101(m): 12:00pm On Jan 25, 2015 |
How to recover from porn addiction Step 6. Study the Word of God concerning sexual purity. Therefore putting aside all filthiness and all that remains of wickedness, in humility receive the Word implanted, which is able to save your souls. – James 1:21 |
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