Why do some people fail at getting lucky in love
online? When presenting on this subject, I am
always reminded of what happened to my friend
Kevin. As the story goes, his newly engaged ex met
her match online, which was just the impetus Kevin
needed to give online dating a second try. A bottle of
wine and a quick photo shoot later, Kevin’s
personal profile was posted and by ten o’clock that
evening he had sent a Flirt to 3 women. By morning
Kevin called me in a state of self-doubt and
distress. “I’m short, bald and destined to be alone”
he shouted into the phone just as I was still rolling
out of bed. All this because, less than ten hours
later, most of which transpired past any grown
adult’s reasonable bedtime, his e-mail inbox
remained empty.

Now, you don’t need me, a therapist or a dating
coach to realize that my newly bachelorized friend
was reacting irrationally. What you don’t know that
makes Kevin’s outburst worse is that he sent out
those notes on the same night as the Academy
Awards®, when most single women from St. Paul to
Montreal were glued to the tube and interested only
in a fellow named Oscar®. People get busy. Someone is sending you playful
pokes one minute, and you find their profile has
been deactivated the next time you log on to your
account. Circumstances like this happen every day
in cyberspace, in great part because the time spent
there is muddled by the very things that make the
technology such a wonder – anonymity, variety,
abundance and immediacy.
When you date under these conditions, certain
types of characters are bound to emerge — these
are the ones you should learn how to spot and
make sure to avoid:

The Jane or John Doe Dater : Anonymity can have
strange effects on people – and yes, some will
behave sneakily and disrespectfully simply because
they can do so without being held accountable. It’s
not always underhanded (like choosing to leave out
the fact that you’re temporarily unemployed to boost
profile rankings), but occasionally you’ll stumble
upon a perpetrator who is abusing the system. The
Jane or John Doe daters are the ones who offer up
little or even false information in their profile and act
deplorably when it comes to calling, emailing or
locking down plans…Get the point?

The Hyperactive Serial Searcher : Online dating
should be handled in moderation and approached
with healthy respect, but not everyone knows how
to control their appetite. When faced with a
smorgasbord of tempting options, some have a
harder time than others staying focused on one
person at a time. If they seem diverted or
distracted it’s because they are. The hyperactive
serial searcher is known for booking back-to-back
dates, engaging in multiple conversations
simultaneously and contacting you via email, phone
or instant message relentlessly as they are
hurriedly trying to manage their planning.

The Guilty Pleasure Seeker : Before Internet-enabled
dating, getting lucky required at least some amount
of persistence and persuading. Now that we can flirt
in cyber-time and score in real-time, many are out
there lurking for instant gratification of a sexual
kind. The guilty pleasure seekers are easy to detect
because they tend to troll the net for their next
casual fling victim or phone intimacy conversation, often
at odd hours of the day or night with inappropriate
jokes, gestures or invitations.

The Roaming Opportunist: Ah, variety. It is, after all,
the spice of life and it can be particularly tempting
when the odds of finding someone better are but
just one click away. Hard to detect at first, roaming
opportunists come across as serious “relationship”
contenders, but are often dipping their toes behind
the scenes to see what new and exciting matches
may be out there. Many play on multiple dating sites
to avoid getting caught and are known to play hot
and cold during the getting-to-know-you phases of
a relationship. While there are no set rules when
you are just starting a relationship, and exclusivity
is something that should be discussed forthrightly
when the time comes, keep a wary eye out for
those with roving eyes and keyboards.

The games these people play on the internet are not
that different than in real life – only online there is
little risk of getting caught and no intermediaries to
hold them accountable. It is up to you to
conduct your own due diligence and weed out the
good guys and gals from the bad ones – we
promise they are out there!

culled from- www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/01/problems-with-the-people-you-meet-online/

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