The idea that there is only one soul
mate or that "if you truly love
someone you will not be drawn to
others" is not always valid in reality.
If you find yourself stuck with
feelings for two people, you must step back, understand what kind of
feelings you are experiencing and
then try to decide which of the
persons you should commit to. It
may not always be clear which
person is right for you. As long as you are honest, you will have your
answer. Here is a quick guide to
help you find that answer quickly

Why should anyone be in love with two people at the same time?

1. Decide on one person to mentally commit yourself to for the time being.

This mental transition does not
have to be permanent and it
does not have to be verbalized
to anyone, if you don't want to.
If you can't decide which one to
mentally commit to first, just go with the first person you met, or
the one who is kinder, or the
one who you like the
personality of the most.


2. Spend enough time with this first person to make sure you keep a clear picture of how it feels to be with them - this can mean that you meet very often or that you just meet occasionally to catch up. You decide what feels right.

Then what?

3. Make the second person a platonic friendship for the time being. Hold this position until you work
through all of these steps


4. Decide if this second person is a crush, or someone that you lust over, which helps direct the true nature your feelings. Distance yourself from them for some
time, avoid contact and carry on
with other aspects of your life
and check in with your feelings
every now and then. Try the
distancing for a day, a week, a couple of months -- whatever
feels right to you. Everyone is
different.



5. Continue with this distancing process until you are certain that you have allowed enough time for a crush to be out of the question. Most crushes will fade with time.

MrIncrediible:
Why should anyone be in love with two people at the same tine?

Because most people mistake intensity,
infatuation, and lust for love...

I was a victim sha
... D post above helped alot , thats why i decided to post it

okay

6. Take the time to evaluate both your friendships, knowing that the second person is more than a crush.


7. Write down everything you can think of for the first person until you exhaust the list.
Write down everything you can think of for the second
person until you exhaust the
list.

Keep the following
questions in mind

-What characteristics are
important for selecting a
great life partner, in
general?
-What specific aspects of
each friendship do you
value?
- What specific aspects of
each friendship could be
improved?
-What do you find attractive
in each person?
-How has each person
reciprocated your
kindness?
-How has each person
reacted to adversity?
-Is there one that
reciprocates your love
more?
-How realistic is you picture
of each person?

If you
know one of them better
can you still see the
situation clearly?

mirexxx:
okay

mirexxx, mirexxx, mirexxx, how many times did I call you? Oya go sleep before bro Jonny go com collect him phone.

Kazrem:

mirexxx, mirexxx, mirexxx, how many times did I call you? Oya go sleep before bro Jonny go com collect him phone.

bro Jonny yaf collect it alredi
gudnyt 2 u

8. Look at the list of comparisons and work through the feelings in each list.

Does one person feel
slightly more compatible
to you than the other?

This does not mean that
you can't still love both,
but it directs the
probability of success
towards one relationship
over another


9. Check your feelings. With the probability of success ever-so-slightly tipped for one
relationship over the other,
check your feelings on the
result. If the result indicates you
should commit to the first
person, over the second, what would the consequences be
and how would you feel about
that decision? If the result
indicates that you should
commit to the second person,
over the first. How do the consequences for this choice
and your feelings compare to
the first scenario?


10. Understand that love is a wonderful gift that anyone can give anytime without caveats. As humans, we are capable of loving many
people and when we love
someone we put the other
person's needs in front of our
own. Sometimes loving a
person means staying with them to be the person that
makes sure they are happy
forever. Sometime loving a
person means allowing them to
be find happiness forever with
someone else. Either way, the love for both still exists and is
nothing you should be stressed
over, as long as the boundaries
of the relationships are clearly
defined. If you truly love the
other person, then it will make you happy to see them happy,
your friendship and love for
them can continue, and you will
never have to choose between
the two.


11. Trust your instincts. Never forget that you're the one in the know and that
you should be able to make
your own decisions. Also
remember that we all have the
right to be happy and with
someone we love


If you are a victim like me and follow
these steps you can end up in a
happy, committed relationship

mirexxx:

bro Jonny yaf collect it alredi
gudnyt 2 u

Better good morning

jamb20s:


Because most people mistake intensity,
infatuation, and lust for love...

I was a victim sha
... D post above helped alot , thats why i decided to post it

Based on your assertions, you should change the title of your thread. There's a difference between love of infatuation.

Kazrem:

Better good morning

Buh its dark! lolz ah knw its morning
thanks 4 d correction

Lool, this thread has come almost two years late for me.

mirexxx:
Buh its dark! lolz ah knw its morning
thanks 4 d correction

Sha go sleep