I know this may sound a little bit out of the norm. Every grown up at one point or the other must have heard d statement "be yourself, people should love you for who you are". While this may be true, the reality is that it is often misunderstood.
No one is saying you should be pretentious, but a little cautiousness in covering (and eventually suppressing) your flaws while enhancing your strengths would go a long way to making you attractive (and even marriageable).
For example, a lady whom uncontrollably laughs very loudly, even in public. This may not be much of a problem with her peers but most guys don't like that. It will only be stupid for you to know you have such attribute and yet keep waiting for a guy who can accept you that way. The sad thing is, even when a guy who is interested in such ladies, points it out to them and try to make them tone it down, the common response is; "if you can't accept me that way, then forget it". This response has kept most ladies single for a longer time than they wished for.
Don't be among the group of ladies who talk about how other ladies pretend when in public, cause the truth is "girls dey package dem selves they marry go, while you are still waiting for who will love you with your flaws. You don't need a soothsayer to tell you you are loosing. And don't confuse this for being pretentious, remember the idea is to totally suppress your flaws, what good are they anyways, since they are "flaws".
I hope this helps someone. Will be coming up with more tips on why ladies remain single while their peers are getting hooked up, from a guy's point of view.

Enegod:

Single ladies suck_dick

Absolute crap!

lol...ok.

Very true.

Some girl would say she was like that when you met her, so why should she change forgetting that in the beginning, it was mostly on how to get there and as such obvious flaws were ignored, now that our brain has been reset and we now see that thing that is not right, we want it to change and you refuse. You are on your own.

Remember before a guy has the mind to tell a girl something about her that she needs to change, it means he has already decided in his mind to be with the girl but these changes are necessary to bond them further together. If the girl refuses even to make effort then that stage is called, "the beginning of the end"

Blackett:
How many fvcks do I give about that?

Zero.

yea right.. But you do give few bleeps about embarrassing yourself right?

[quote author=Blackett post=30976325][/quote]k bye

It's not entirely bullshit. I think people should be willing to change certain aspects of their lifestyle that may be inappropriate and possibly keeping their favour away.

Okay

Clearly you misunderstand what the phrase 'be yourself' truly entails.

Pigeon Sh!t

Make sense..

You're not entirely wrong, garriboy. Your heart is in the right place.

However, it's not about pretence. Or hiding flaws. In the good old days, they called it manners. A rude girl is not attractive. An uncouth man is unattractive.

It's all about decency and modesty. The deception is that you need not conduct yourself with decorum. Being rude is being yourself today. That is false. Being rude is not being yourself, it's being rude. And you won't find a good man or woman to marry when you're crude or rude.

So let's all get us some manners.