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Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Daresh(f): 5:58pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Chilug: So if you had no means to provide for your family, and got a chance to wash plates in a restaurant so your family can eat. Will you do it? Or is it beneath you. While your family starves |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by fuzzywuzzy: 6:16pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
The situation OP described is taking place in almost every home today just that the wives are hiding it because they don't want to look pathetic. Listen closely to their convos with best friends and you'll hear them complaining bitterly about their husbands' irresponsibility......... 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Rhemmymatician(m): 6:19pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Sarimah: If you prove to be a good girl, i'll try not to be that kind of husband to you 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by iconzmagazine(m): 6:25pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
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Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Votukpa(m): 7:21pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
urchbarbie: I'll take u up from that garden of eden rhetoric. You see, Adam was already working before eve came along to help him (helpmate) and to keep him company. He was working but not toilsome work. Notice that he was to eat by the sweat of his brow AFTER when he LISTENED TO HIS WIFE, to do evil before the Lord. If you're going to compare everyman to Adam then, it is safor me to say that it is because of women that men have to do toilsome work. We like Adam didnt have to do it initially. Toilsome workhorse work is not a badge of honor it is PUNISHMENT for listening to a woman's evil idea. Thats why the woman wasnt meant to help him to do the toilsome work. Share the love AND punishment. Who is a wife? Go read proverbs 31 she is hard to find she lives to please her husband she works hard to keep her home she entrepreneurial she is agile and not lazy she helps people she fears the Lord , What an asset, what a wife. No shes not a workhorse, she is a wife. All this talk of responaibility is overated. We men would move heaven and earth to make a woman like this the envy of other women. We men dont need help all the time because we are strong and resourceful in our youth. When were old thats when this wife shows herself to be proverbs 31 material...but rome wasnt built in a day. Being like her takes years of practice. No man will cheat on this woman, ever. Therefore, responsibility rests on the shoulders of the man and the woman helps him bear it. If as a business man, I leave the entire responsibilty of my business to my workhorse, would my business not fail quickly? If I leave it all to my wife, the entire responsibility to run the home wouldnt she get exhausted and my marriage head to the rocks? Marriage is purposed to achieving goals, husband with support from his wife. Responsibility is for both, not one. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Nobody: 7:22pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
There is an adage in my place that says a woman's money is never complete until a man adds to it. The bible also clearly states that a man who connot take care(provide for the family) is an infidel..any man doing this has already failed himself and God Having said this,let me also stae dt there re instances wre d woman earns more,this does not in any way stop the man from providing for her,if he does this, he is cheating the woman, and guess wat!! Such men never get to d level of their wives . Itis not wrong for a woman to assist in the home, it bcomes wrong wen d man abandons all d responsibility to her,, A man dt does such is a failure to himself,his family and to God.. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Votukpa(m): 7:30pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Rhemmymatician: Well said bro. A woman should prove herself before she should be considered for marriage. They should ask themselves, "how can I make him happy, how can I bring value into his life?" Alas, they ask this rather "what is he going to do for me?" Let me be emphatic here: Men dont really need this type of woman. Life is usually simple when single, not need to make it worse marrying. Men DO NOT marry if shes not adding to your life when you marry. This is some red pill truth right here. Swallow it NOW. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Votukpa(m): 7:34pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
fuzzywuzzy: Such men were forced into marriage. Having said that, if you feel that way, dont marry. Remain single. Marriage is not a holiday for u woman. It hard work and responaibility on ur part as well. If u want a holiday, go to the bahamas. |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by mekybabe1: 7:34pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
It's like you have same character as the man being discussed...no wonder. ferdimako: |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by mekybabe1: 7:39pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Story for the gods.... damola1: |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by fuzzywuzzy: 7:40pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
strenghtofawoman:Welcome to reality, majority of men. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by mekybabe1: 7:46pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
It's like you have same character as the man being discussed...no wonder. ferdimako: |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by precisionindepth: 9:15pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
urchbarbie:I think in every relationship, dere shd b sharing of responsibilities in which each party will contribute and help each other. marriage is not a slave relationship but a partnership but in d case where a man feels in his stupidity and foolishness DT cos he's wife earns money den he shd abandon his responsibilities is so out of it. I know a cousin of mine who once said DT its better for dem not to v a father cos if dey Dont v , dey might get pple to help dem cos virtually everything at home is provided by their mother and d task became so overwhelming for d woman. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by onyichick(f): 9:33pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
my colleague was jst narrating how her husband has left all the redponsibilities of the home for her.she has bin paying d house rent for the past four years.she buys food n all.he doesn't ever contribute and she doesn't knw wat he spends his money on. |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by gechyy2(f): 9:51pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Hmmmmm interesting thread.... Women and money,we like money no be small... But God supaceeds all..so proverbs 31 says it all.. Any woman who doesn't contribute substantially for her husband and children to call her blessed has failed... Read prov 31 carefully women..unless ur not a christian then u can do otherwise.. Its joyful to have a responsible husband who wouldn't overburden d wife and also a responsible wife who wouldn't overburden her husband... 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Chilug(m): 9:55pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Daresh: |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Chilug(m): 9:55pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Daresh:It won't get that bad. Gerrit? |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by GoodFaith: 10:05pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
missjenna:Smart lady "Definitely the wife should take on some of the financial responsibilities, after all marriage is a kind partnership relationship. But this shouldn't mean that the husband should use this as an avenue to prey on the wife" 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by GoodFaith: 10:07pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
fuzzywuzzy:" useless pieces of furniture" -- I guess your brothers are man |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by GoodFaith: 10:10pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Votukpa:Repeat "Therefore, responsibility rests on the shoulders of the man and the woman helps him bear it. If as a business man, I leave the entire responsibilty of my business to my workhorse, would my business not fail quickly? If I leave it all to my wife, the entire responsibility to run the home wouldnt she get exhausted and my marriage head to the rocks? Marriage is purposed to achieving goals, husband with support from his wife. Responsibility is for both, not one." |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by GoodFaith: 10:13pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Blitz888:agreed with the above comment If your wife have a good education and great job You will kill yourself taking care of the family What should your wife do with her salary? Marriage is taking care of each other Husband and wife |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Blitz888(m): 11:18pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
GoodFaith:BRO, blame me not... I was raised that way, to take pleasure in discharging my duties her money not withstanding. I guess it's a tradition in my clime to always provide for our wives and family. That's why we refer to our wives as 'oriaku' and not 'okpaku'. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Nobody: 11:40pm On Feb 24, 2015 |
Blitz888:Bro, no be by mouth oooo, na ur type dey seize ATM card from madam |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Blitz888(m): 6:48am On Feb 25, 2015 |
donpeey22:Lol. If that na your modus operandi e no mean say others dey do like you na. You don't know me that's why I excuse your ignorance... But know this that it's not all men that go into a rship with their eyes on her bank account.. If a woman can give you kids, take care of them and the home, what else do you want from her? We are obviously raising a generation of indolent and lazy men. Guy, work hard and provide for their every need and madam will literally 'worship' you. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Blitz888(m): 7:05am On Feb 25, 2015 |
GoodFaith:why would I kill myself... Hard work kills no one. Dad and mum are both retired today and mum retired as a director in the civil service. Dad saw mum through the higher institution and raised 5 kids all graduates and the man didn't kill himself why would it be me. I am not saying that mum didn't contribute, but that can only be after you have made the right investment in her... Bear it in mind that whatever a woman brings to the table is only an addition after you the man must have taken the lead. If you go into a rship with your eyes on her money,then you're completely finished. The 'man' in every man dies the day you abdicate your God ordained duties to your wife. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Blitz888(m): 7:13am On Feb 25, 2015 |
strenghtofawoman:any man who genuinely loves his wife will do anything to keep her happy and satisfied. Of what use is a man to a woman if you can't fulfill the reason for which God put you in her life. Give her emotional and financial security and every other thing will fall into place. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Nobody: 9:17am On Feb 25, 2015 |
Jackeeh: Aww God will continue to bless and keep your mum for the family. Mothers are just too great. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Fellonigerians: 9:47am On Feb 25, 2015 |
What a man can do, a woman can also do... Nothing wrong with the wife paying the bills... |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by pickabeau1: 10:07am On Feb 25, 2015 |
Blitz888: What is okpaku |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by urchbarbie(f): 10:17am On Feb 25, 2015 |
yh dear! there shld be a sharing of responsibilites, but a man shldnt be lax in d fact dat his wife pays d bills too. he shld av d mindset dat its his duty, if d woman involves herself, it shldnt be seen as her duty. men wld say its her duty to cook, clean,wash, do any domestic chores in d home. yh some men help out with dese chores, dats d same way a woman shld help out. precisionindepth: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Shy Away From Responsibilities Once They Notice Their Wife Has Money by Daresh(f): 10:22am On Feb 25, 2015 |
Chilug: Then you don't know what life is. |
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