proximity0:
God bless Ngeria, God bless Seun for creating this forum...................

l’m a guy (25yrs) please I want your candid advice and your professional opinion about my life story and how to correct my flaws as I look older than my age, please don’t judge and ignore the blunders in the write up.

The p is-my parents got separated in 1993 due to their differences they were both hot tempered thus making life difficult for me at first because I had to be put in a boarding school (nursery school) before they agreed on who would take custody . I was in the school for a year before they decided to leave me with my cousin (Aunt) and the truth of the matter is I’m not sure if my parent can raise me the way my aunt raised me (God bless her and my cuz) I was there for a decade and in between those years I can count the number of times I saw my parent as they are both workaholics……. In my secondary school days I look older than my age and often don’t acts like it-in a sense that, what made sense to the other kids are always silly to me….. When I moved in back with my parent when they reconciled I had to change my school (not within the same city) after few months they went their separate ways again and I had to go to another school again thus changing city…. Throughout my undergraduates years nobody knew my age (4years ago) neither did I act otherwise which made me got used to dating ladies older than me and now that most of my of my friends are married thinking we are within the same age bracket are now putting pressure on me to settle down. The truth of the matter is'deep inside of my I am lonely and dying as I have no one to share my thought with; since I move a lot I don’t keep tabs on friends and now that I’m on leaving alone I actually don’t know how to correct my flaws which are;
How do i open up to my friend?
How do I get rid of my fear (settling down with a lady?)
How do I bring my parent together as they still love each other?

daben1:
You don't even know what you want, no wonder you look older than your age

daben1:
You don't even know what you want, no wonder you look older than your age

proximity0:
God bless Ngeria, God bless Seun for creating this forum...................

l’m a guy (25yrs) please I want your candid advice and your professional opinion about my life story and how to correct my flaws as I look older than my age, please don’t judge and ignore the blunders in the write up.

The p is-my parents got separated in 1993 due to their differences they were both hot tempered thus making life difficult for me at first because I had to be put in a boarding school (nursery school) before they agreed on who would take custody . I was in the school for a year before they decided to leave me with my cousin (Aunt) and the truth of the matter is I’m not sure if my parent can raise me the way my aunt raised me (God bless her and my cuz) I was there for a decade and in between those years I can count the number of times I saw my parent as they are both workaholics……. In my secondary school days I look older than my age and often don’t acts like it-in a sense that, what made sense to the other kids are always silly to me….. When I moved in back with my parent when they reconciled I had to change my school (not within the same city) after few months they went their separate ways again and I had to go to another school again thus changing city…. Throughout my undergraduates years nobody knew my age (4years ago) neither did I act otherwise which made me got used to dating ladies older than me and now that most of my of my friends are married thinking we are within the same age bracket are now putting pressure on me to settle down. The truth of the matter is'deep inside of my I am lonely and dying as I have no one to share my thought with; since I move a lot I don’t keep tabs on friends and now that I’m on leaving alone I actually don’t know how to correct my flaws which are;
How do i open up to my friend?
How do I get rid of my fear (settling down with a lady?)
How do I bring my parent together as they still love each other?

alberto2k:
ronald4lif

Lol! Baba you sef see say this matter no be for here na

ronald4lif:


Lol! Baba you sef see say this matter no be for here na

proximity0:
God bless Ngeria, God bless Seun for creating this forum...................
l’m a guy (25yrs) please I want your candid advice and your professional opinion about my life story and how to correct my flaws as I look older than my age, please don’t judge and ignore the blunders in the write up.
The p is-my parents got separated in 1993 due to their differences they were both hot tempered thus making life difficult for me at first because I had to be put in a boarding school (nursery school) before they agreed on who would take custody . I was in the school for a year before they decided to leave me with my cousin (Aunt) and the truth of the matter is I’m not sure if my parent can raise me the way my aunt raised me (God bless her and my cuz) I was there for a decade and in between those years I can count the number of times I saw my parent as they are both workaholics……. In my secondary school days I look older than my age and often don’t acts like it-in a sense that, what made sense to the other kids are always silly to me….. When I moved in back with my parent when they reconciled I had to change my school (not within the same city) after few months they went their separate ways again and I had to go to another school again thus changing city…. Throughout my undergraduates years nobody knew my age (4years ago) neither did I act otherwise which made me got used to dating ladies older than me and now that most of my of my friends are married thinking we are within the same age bracket are now putting pressure on me to settle down. The truth of the matter is'deep inside of my I am lonely and dying as I have no one to share my thought with; since I move a lot I don’t keep tabs on friends and now that I’m on leaving alone I actually don’t know how to correct my flaws which are;
How do i open up to my friend?
How do I get rid of my fear (settling down with a lady?)
How do I bring my parent together as they still love each other?

ronald4lif:


Lol! Baba you sef see say this matter no be for here na

falconey:
The case is bigger than my GF boobs. Am out!

Ipledge:
aswear u dey craze,

Btw picture of ur gf and her boob or idonbeilieve

falconey:
lol........ sorry men those twins are mine.

jashar:
You need inner peace and I know the only true source.

JESUS.

akinsadeez:
1. Why don't you make new friends and be upfront with them about ur age from d start. At least don't lie about your personal details. Those friends that will stay with you will stay and those that won't will leave, will leave. Nothing u can do about that.

2. About your fear of settling down, It is very normal. Children of broken homes often end up having broken homes themselves. However, you have to start from somewhere. There's an adage that says you have to learn how to walk before you learn how to run. Why don't you start from dating someone before you start worrying about settling down. Get a good lady and be in an exclusive relationship with her. Over time, if she is d one for you you will have the urge to take it further and settle down with her. Go with your instinct but take it one step at a time.

3. As for your parents, honestly apart from spiritual help I don't see what you can do. If your parents have been having problems ever since you were born, what will make them suddenly stop having problems now. Again I am sure the adults in both families must have tried severally to reconcile them. If they have failed, I really don't see what new thing you can do or say to bring them together permanently. Besides bringing them together without settling d underlying issue of their temper will amount to an exercise in futility. Unless one or both of them have become less temperamental, even if they come together they will still fight and scatter again. love alone cannot overcome bad temper, else they can kill themselves.
However I have personally heard a testimony in church of a couple who were seperated for thirty years coming back together but it involved serious prayers by d children. If you take d spiritual route with faith, who knows........

Above all, good luck!

jagabanksa:
How come you call them your friends and they do not know your reall age?That's even by the way,mind you,do not allow peer pressure to push you into marriage.When you are ready,you will know.

Mariojane:
you don't need to explain yourself to ur friends. just open up to the lady you want to settle down with and continue to leave ur life.

there is something i like about you, you discovered the reason y ur parent relationship is not working out is cos they are both temperamental. that is a great lesson to learn from in choosing a wife. if u inherit ur parent temperament plss go for som1 gentle. and if with ur Aunty upbringing u r gentle don't go for a lady dat is temperamental cos u will always compare her to ur parent. also go for a gentle lady (note plss: i said GENTLE not DULL or BORING LADY )



thank me after 5years in your marriage. that is if you follow my advice

Sparkles003:


Never truly open up to any friend except you see yourself settling down with that person,cos they might use what you say to them against you.tell all your troubles,headaches and pains to God only he can give you peace.
About settling down with a lady is all a thing of the mind,once you make up your mind that your marriage will not be like that of your folks and you work towards getting married to someone that has the same mindset as you do.you will settle down.
Leave your parent to live their life the way they deem fit while you live your,they are both adults and should be able to decide what is good for them.

alberto2k:
baba e pass my power and understanding that's why I had to call on yhu o

proximity0:


Inner peace-u say, how easy is it obtainable?

ronald4lif:


we're in same boat then

proximity0:


Thanks but don't u think I owe them an explanation as I intend to keep them till God knows when and I don't intend to lose the ones I have now!!!!! I'm so attached to them!