Abali1:
Having gone through some of the posts in this thread, I will say those arguing that the woman took the best decision are right in their own opinion.
But let's also take the seriousness of the marital vow into consideration. What the woman is doing now is what she should have done during courtship. Being afraid of having a SS child is not enough reason to end a marriage. Moreover she already has a child, who is AA.
My question, why not stop at that one and give him the best you can offer? What if that AA had been SS and the husband decided to end the marriage, how will she have taken it?
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My point is this,
1) She is already married, and her fears is not enough reason to seek for a divorce.
2) Her son will now grow up without the love of at least one parent. cos his home is already broken.
3) She could have chosen to give her child the best, and equally give hubby a choice in raising his own kid.
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4) Being SS is not a death sentence. And I will continue to advice against AS/AS couple getting married. But since they were already married, she should tried to make her marriage work............etc

CounsellorWise:


Lady's man, I can't recall quoting you. Get off my path and stop whining like a hired defense attorney.

Fawklicant:


We know naija girls are this and that, but this isn't about that now. Let us leave that aside for once and not trivialize every topic by turning it into a women-bashing thread. Asides, the genotype issue, no one is looking at it from the trust angle. If your wife told you a monumental lie before marriage and you later found out, would you still trust her again? If you found out that she is actually like 10 years older than you or that she was sleeping with your pastor while you two courted, would you still trust her?

That said, I do not support outright divorce because of the child involved. The child needs both parents and one hallmark of being a good parent is being selfless for your kids albeit within reasonable limits and barring all unnecessary encumberances.

Islie:




......... Is that enough to make her quit the marriage the husband query

GodMode:



Been SS is worse than a death sentence...

decode55:


Brainwashed Religious fanatic, I can't remember your father being the owner of NL.

So, shut up.

When next you see my post, look elsewhere

Smartestelvis:
hope ur brain is not ss,coz i ve heard some ppl bein aa n deir brain somefin else......is it d vows dat's d objective of any marriage? perhaps its better 4 a mormal kid 2 grow up in a foster home dan an ss havin all d care in d world or if u were 2 be a sicklecell patient u would ve winded up in d nearest clinic nw instead of comin out here 2 type gilberish.......d woman made a gr8t move n dats wot counts,every oda fin u say is 4 d gods....

ijustdey:
there are more to this






just because of genotype she divorce her hubby
agreed he lied but I don't believe that's enough reasons to divorce him

Abali1:

You are simply ignorant, and by the way I am SS and I don't think an different from many people who consider themselves healthy.

CounsellorWise:


Dude, the forum may be faceless but that gives you no room to insult me. Don't ruin your life with your own mouth. Be warned!

Keep quiet & stop issuing baseless & useless threats.

If you can't stand the heat, stay the hell out of the kitchen

GodMode:


I guess u like the fact that u're on drugs most of the time.

I guess u like the fact that any part of your body can pain u at anytime...

I guess u like the fact u can't do some physically stressful with no worries...

I guess u like the fact that u can fall into a coma at anytime...
e.t.c


You're not sickler... So stop saying s:hit

harry509:
u spoke well aniway, bt d child is AA, dats means she dos nt av d faith dat her 2nd child wil b AA or AS 2.

Abali1:

I guess you are new to Nairaland. Please go through my threads, I have got nothing to prove neither do I get to gain anything by lying.
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Moreover, don't be ignorant. It's not everyone who is SS that lives on drug.............. If you are still in doubt send me a PM, and I will clear your doubts.

harry509:
u spoke well aniway, bt d child is AA, dats means she dos nt av d faith dat her 2nd child wil b AA or AS 2.

GodMode:


Answer this question:

There are two roads... The road to the left gives you a 75% chance of been successful while the road to the right gives u 25% chance...

Which road will you choose??

GodMode:


Answer this question:

There are two roads... The road to the left gives you a 75% chance of been successful while the road to the right gives u 25% chance...

Which road will you choose??

GodMode:


They all take drugs once in a while or often....

It depends on how sickle cells affects the person... The cells vary from person to person that's why a sickler might fall ill more often than another...

Smartestelvis:
ooh sorry 4 postin in d kids section,my bad......*swish awayyy**

Fawklicant:


She can't gamble with a human life. Fact is she can only have one AA child, 2 AS children and 1 SS child in every four children. The order in which they come is random. So would you rather have her gamble and sire a child that might just know only pain and anguish in its lifetime? I know not all sicklers die, but a lot do and the problem is not even in the dying, it is in the living in misery and anguish. They can't do sports, smoke and do a lot of things that we take for granted. Not forgetting the self esteem issues resulting from years of all the pity-party from people.

With all the technological advancements, there is still no cure for it. This is a sickness that affects only black people, so who is gonna find the cure? Some sicklers eventually live successfully with it, but hey! What is the likelyhood?

Abali1:

Please tell me other genotypes don't take medications from time to time?
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My dear, I am not in support of anyone who is AS marrying another AS. No. The case in this thread is different.
The woman is already married to the man, and already has a baby who is AA. Why then seek for divorce?
If she needed more children why can't she adopt?
What if her son had been SS, will she equally seek for divorce? Knowing fully well that the burden may fall on only her.

Abali1:

Please the bolded is a wrong assertion.

harry509:
ummmmM! Well is btw me n GOD ooh. Aldoh am nt yet married. I wil take 75% of it. Bt y did yu ask?

Fawklicant:


She can't gamble with a human life. Fact is she can only have one AA child, 2 AS children and 1 SS child in every four children. The order in which they come is random. So would you rather have her gamble and sire a child that might just know only pain and anguish in its lifetime? I know not all sicklers die, but a lot do and the problem is not even in the dying, it is in the living in misery and anguish. They can't do sports, smoke and do a lot of things that we take for granted. Not forgetting the self esteem issues resulting from years of all the pity-party from people.

With all the technological advancements, there is still no cure for it. This is a sickness that affects only black people, so who is gonna find the cure? Some sicklers eventually live successfully with it, but hey! What is the likelyhood?

Fawklicant:


How so? Please enlighten me.

decode55:


Keep quiet & stop issuing baseless & useless threats.

If you can't stand the heat, stay the hell out of the kitchen

taryour:
That woman took the best decision she could ever take in her life. All you posters saying she made the wrong move,I wonder what you would if they end up having a child who is ss. Abeg leave matter you wunt be there to nurse a sick child with her o.

Abali1:

Please tell me other genotypes don't take medications from time to time?
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My dear, I am not in support of anyone who is AS marrying another AS. No. The case in this thread is different.
The woman is already married to the man, and already has a baby who is AA. Why then seek for divorce?
If she needed more children why can't she adopt?
What if her son had been SS, will she equally seek for divorce? Knowing fully well that the burden may fall on only her.

GodMode:


You said:

"u spoke well aniway, bt d child is AA,
dats means she dos nt av d faith dat
her 2nd child wil b AA or AS 2".

You'd take a 75% chance to be successful...

Now change this "roads" to the lives of your unborn children..

Will you take a 75% chance to have healthy children or a 25% chance

GodMode:


You are not a sickler...

Sicklers dislike their health limitations... why then can't they just commit suicide since they are already born sicklers

The end of the marriage is not the end of life...
Same way a true sickler knows that life goes on despite the health limitations...

Its brings more joy to take care of children you birth rather than adopt..