Flytefalls:

It's difficult, wisdom will take us all to different destinations. There are different rules to be applied to different scenarios, for example, it is far easier to be patient when MIL/DIL isn't living in the same household. There are no experts in the field, we are all trying to apply wisdom to the situations we face.

When either MIL or DIL start to experience difficulties with the other, the hope is they can settle it amongst themselves, but some find it far better to consult the husband because it is him who'd have brought them together, and might be able to add clarity to any misunderstandings because he knows how to handle them both; he is the expert in this scenario lol. As the MIL/DIL relationship grows, the husband is less of a necessity to foster peace because the two are no longer strangers.

I don't disagree with the concept of stoop and conquer, but need it be so? People have to go the long way to gain trust, when it could be so much easier.

190theclown:


so sholly u were gna evade me like that huh?
Hmmm.. anyways im looking for abiL
have u got her contact outside here

why dont u try reachin me as well sholly
tired of this whole nl shit

190theclown:


Always on family matters arguing

dont know why you didnt study law

freecocoa:
I didn't say women should start cautioning their MILS or others for that matter, I'm saying, everything doesn't have to turn into a court room setting with a judge(maybe hubby) presiding.

If you really take time to look into issues between MILS and DILS, you'll realize it usually starts from petty issues, like serving mama cold food(even when it was only warm not really cold) to mama dictating how to run the house, I'm only saying, these issues can be nipped in the bud by these wives before they turn into a giant ball of evil/trouble.

Are you saying one can't talk to her MIL about some things?

babygirlfl:


I would have totally agreed with you but for one reason. The same mother in law from another generation won't behave the same way when she visits her married daughters home. If she behaved the same way, then you can then say it's the generation difference.

Shollypopzz:


Evade you??

Let me ask her first, then I'll pm you her info if she agrees.

aaww @ "tired of this whole NL sh1t". Yeah, it gets tedious after a while.

Flytefalls:

Family is what brings me to this forum, it is the only business I can claim with Nigeria, so shush

How are you?

190theclown:


You've abandoned me Since my Naija brother took you
U've forgotten all about me

chisom101:
Mother inlaw wahala .......may God help all married women in this Africa. I hate this Union called "MARRIAGE"

Flytefalls:

You've abandoned me since my jamo sister took you and you spent all day taking pictures for IG

Hahahahahahaa!!

I knew you were gna say that

Loooooooool

As a fine boy concerned

But why u keepin him off the charts im still yet to get a vivid look at that my brother

babyosisi:



I know why you are saying this
Remember all we talked about and all the women advised you
Most importantly protect yourself for now and be self sufficient
Ndo

chisom101:
For my insanity ,I left with my children for some weeks now,life is too short for marriage wahala.is not all about the cheating problem, there are more to my story I will be releasing the bomb small small

190theclown:



Hahahahahahaa!!

I knew you were gna say that

Loooooooool

As a fine boy concerned

But why u keepin him off the charts im still yet to get a vivid look at that my brother

Flytefalls:

Are you mad. He's not a poser like you, he would whap me if I put one of him . He's sometimes on my whatsapp, so keep looking out

LMFAO!!

You better make him a poser and im good anyways i know hes extra careful so i dont steal his most valuable

190theclown:


LMFAO!!

You better make him a poser and im good anyways i know hes extra careful so i dont steal his most valuable

Flytefalls:

Are you mad. He's not a poser like you, he would whap me if I put one of him . He's sometimes on my whatsapp, so keep looking out

ireneidiva:

Get a room!

Get out of my sight

ireneidiva:

You two, get a room.

Get a room to do what

bukatyne:


I knew a woman who had to hide Some of her clothes when her MIL was coming.

craziebone:
NO WOMAN IN THIS WORLD CAN STAND UP TO MY MOTHER THE WAY WE SEE IN THAT PIC.

KanwuliaJara:


With all due "disrespect", the woman NA DUNCE!

EnlightenedSoul:


I agree with you there...

craziebone:


even if she's done something wrong, which she will never do, at least, she can wait for me to come back home from whereever i went and then she could tell me. I will not allow any woman do that to my OWN parent especially when i will never do the same to her's.

honeychild:
I think the cause of the problem is this:
A lot of women endure very painful and bitter marriages. They go through life depressed and oppressed by selfish husbands.
They live solely for their children, sacrifice everything for them and hardly do anything for themselves. (As I am typing this I am wondering if I am not falling into that trap myself lol) And they console themselves that 'when my son grows up he will be do everything his father did not do for me'. When the son gets married, and she sees the daughter in law enjoying a life style she never had, of course she gets bitter and jealous.

I always remind myself and my friends - whatever lace or George or gold you want to wear, please buy it for yourself now and enjoy it. whatever car you want to drive, please buy it for yourself now and drive it - don't wait for Emeka to buy you 'jeep' when he grows up. He will not.

chisom101:
My exmil.started living with us a week after marriage it was hell.

babyosisi:


I believe this may be the real issue
There should be a study regarding the marriage patterns of these women
Looks like women in polygamous relationships or the ones abandoned by their husbands or single mothers fall into this category the most, now that you say this.
They are expecting a son to fill up the role his father didn't play perhaps.
So these boys and men should realize that when they treat women badly,they are inadvertently creating a monster mother in law who will one day expect her son to play the father's role
There are stories of some that even sleep with their sons

honeychild:
I think the cause of the problem is this:
A lot of women endure very painful and bitter marriages. They go through life depressed and oppressed by selfish husbands.
They live solely for their children, sacrifice everything for them and hardly do anything for themselves. (As I am typing this I am wondering if I am not falling into that trap myself lol) And they console themselves that 'when my son grows up he will be do everything his father did not do for me'. When the son gets married, and she sees the daughter in law enjoying a life style she never had, of course she gets bitter and jealous.

I always remind myself and my friends - whatever lace or George or gold you want to wear, please buy it for yourself now and enjoy it. whatever car you want to drive, please buy it for yourself now and drive it - don't wait for Emeka to buy you 'jeep' when he grows up. He will not.