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Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 10:54am On Mar 14, 2015 |
onoja12:ya all so quick to jump to conclusion. Stop making assumptions please. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 10:55am On Mar 14, 2015 |
onoja12:Same way my people say a child that used to see her father beat his mom will grow to beat his wife too An abuser is a no no for me anytime. Let him go n fight with other men out there 4 Likes |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by onoja12: 10:55am On Mar 14, 2015 |
perfect interpretation freshcvv: |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by onoja12: 11:00am On Mar 14, 2015 |
there is no way around the fact,she mentioned her mother,her brother but not her father,there is no way there would be a father and this would happen,except the mother has chased the father away and assume the role of man,now she is trying to do same,from what i read the mother has thought her daughter to pocket her husband and the husband has refused to be pocketed rather he is bent on asserting his authority and the mother sees this as rebellion,so she is using her daughter to fight back and the stupid daughter is allowing herself to be used rokiatu: |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Jossyroyal1: 11:00am On Mar 14, 2015 |
-Terrible Headline spotted!!! "If this were your husband" It's well |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nimrod81: 11:00am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Billyonaire: this mother isn't giving good advice and the wife moved out with the kids out of ego... To say the man is abandoning the family is an attempt at emotional blackmail... She should go back, the guy should never hit her again... The marriage is worth saving... 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:01am On Mar 14, 2015 |
onoja12:So all the people that get physically abused in Naija are fatherless U go fear reasoning na |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 11:02am On Mar 14, 2015 |
SmooshCHN:The institution called marriage is not all about sex, kids and nuclear relationship. It involves unexpected challenges from the extended family network. The ability to manage your emotion and home effectively, then create harmony for your wife and kids is what makes a real man, a real husband and a real father. You must merge these 3 personalities in one to earn the title Patriarch of a Family. The man in question here, is just an emotionally imbalanced egomaniac. He needs 3 tablets of humility and 6 capsules of emotional intelligence. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by texazzpete(m): 11:03am On Mar 14, 2015 |
OP, it's a waste of time bringing this to Nairaland when we already know what will happen. The woman will go crawling back to her Husband soon. By taking this step, she's just really weakened her own position. She should have stayed and talked it over between the two of them. I kinda agree with the @freshcvv poster...why is there so much emphasis on the guy 'getting his papers'? If they were in love in Africa before, why can it not be seen as a natural extension of their relationship for them to be together overseas, not this insistence that the guy was only in it to get his papers or that he is 'misbehaving' because he has the papers now? |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 11:03am On Mar 14, 2015 |
onoja12:God STFU and stop making assumptions like I said. It wouldn't hurt if you ask you know. Her father is dead. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by onoja12: 11:04am On Mar 14, 2015 |
i should inform you that they are several types of abuse,including verbal,emotional and psychological not only physical,my people have a saying a bad mannered woman is worse than a spear,because she destroys everything around her including herself and always looks for who to blame Rose2014: |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by IYANGBALI: 11:04am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Rose2014:abused?who abused her?do you know what it means to be abused? You only heard her own side of the story,wait for the man's own. Marriage is for better for worse,full of ups and downs,its not for babies. If you are not ready to face the heat in marriage stay in your father's house. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by kraftsta(m): 11:05am On Mar 14, 2015 |
francizy: People like u claim they are fighting fire while intentionally using gasoline. U heard a one sided story n made ur conclusion n from wat I read I can't see any reason for u to conclude d man doesn't love d wife..D only thing I understand is lack of communication btw d couple, so pls reserve dis ur clueless advice for ur own sisters...sincerely I don't know d joy u guys get wen u see a broken home. My wife of course knows I don't take it lightly wen any third party get to know of our disagreement not even our kids... My advice to u OP is to tell ur friend n her family to cut d man some slack, no man enjoys wen his family affairs is bn run by his in-laws, becos he owe dem gratituide at one time in his life...The man feels like bn taken advantage of n controlled. D wife's duty now is to change this perspective before her hubby can learn to b free wt her family. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by braine(m): 11:07am On Mar 14, 2015 |
400billionman: That's why there's always family issues in marriages |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by onoja12: 11:08am On Mar 14, 2015 |
if he is dead,he died of heart attack but i doubt that,any mother who supports her child to pack out of her husband house because he refuse to attend dinner in her house,is a control freak bent on destroying her daughters home,and the only way one can do that is if she has destroyed has too,i have seen this play out times without number rokiatu: |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 11:08am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Nimrod81:We live in a society where a man is king, and women are told they were created for man's happiness. That is wrong and must stop. The woman's happiness is not being considered here. A mother raised this woman and a man finds her attractive and married her. Then you beat that your wife, someone's daughter up. And you expect the mother not to react ? Says who ? This man needs to be told that he owes the mother-in-law apologies. He must go and assure the mother in law that he will NOT beat the wife again. That's the right thing for any sane man to do. In the event that he is even abandoning the wife and kids speaks louder of his heartlessness and loveless-ness for his wife and kid. The man needs to seek therapy because there is a larger personality dysfunction that might surface later. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:08am On Mar 14, 2015 |
IYANGBALI:May whatever we wish for come to us. Amen Maybe u can handle it when it happens to ur kids, I can't. May God never allow any of my kids suffer physical violence with their spouses before I begin to ask what I'll do. Cos people get killed during physical violence very easily cos of the so called anger from d spouse. Later the same spouse will blame d devil when d deed is already done. Too late |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by dinachi(m): 11:08am On Mar 14, 2015 |
This is what I call a real man. He should not back down at all. They (she and her mother) wants to turn the man to their toy. His refusal to be reduced to a joke is the reason they are behaving like kids. I am sorry to say but I think the lady and her mother are highly IMMATURE. For instance, if the man runs to his own mother any time there are issues, who will now stay at home. The man have simply refused to be disrespected and @rokiatu, try and hear the whole side of the story before you jump to conclusions. Tell that immature friend of yours to go back to her home and build her OWN family. Her mother should leave her alone and focus on her old husband. 1 Like |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 11:09am On Mar 14, 2015 |
A man that disrespects your family! Hmmmm that's a red flag hanging. Don't treat this issue with kid gloves, try and set them up for a meeting in a neutral zone and let all parties. Bare their mind....... |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by onoja12: 11:10am On Mar 14, 2015 |
most of them are usually the first to lunch other forms of abuses,so i advice you go and study about abuses Rose2014: |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Emmahunk(m): 11:10am On Mar 14, 2015 |
rokiatu post=3. 1598857: My dear, your friend missed it from the Word go. Men are often overgrown babies emotionally but when you dare insult their pride, not even a bulldozer can make them shift ground. How could she ever think she could force her hubby to love her mom. Right now, she should know the man never sent her away from his house. She left on her own and should quickly go back to ask for his forgiveness before she looses her man. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by CaptPlanet(m): 11:10am On Mar 14, 2015 |
I have to say this: the fact that she brought him over to the states doesn't mean she'll have to disrespect her husband. I mean, so bloody what she brought him over? She loved him and wanted to be with him and it's not like the dude left the lady or his responsibilities as a father to his kids. That said, my thoughts are; the lady should find out why her husband dislikes her nom so much, it cannot just be for the reasons you posted, there has to be more to it....and please don't say the reason is nothing or he's just acting like that cos she brought him over, that's a lame ass excuse (he didn't dump her and apparently he's not cheating). Meanwhile, she should go back to her family, her mom has hers. A good mother inlaw will send the girl back to her husband for them to settle whatever it is. What of the girls dad? What's his take in all this? |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:12am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Billyonaire: I'm glad there are still people like u out there. Imagine d guts of raising hands on someone's child!! For anyone out here supporting violence in marriage, I hope u maintain the same stand when it happens to ur kids Hopefully they'll be alive to tell their story |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by braine(m): 11:12am On Mar 14, 2015 |
onoja12: Chai! You spoke all the words off my mind! Your head is valid, bro. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Bitojoe(m): 11:14am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Its better she return back to her husband house, before the worst thing started happening. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Nobody: 11:15am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Billyonaire:Guam!!!! You know he has beaten her twice, there's a lot of things that this man does that I didn't even say. She's terribly unhappy. He even took his gf over to his house, and lied that was his fried gf. They all had dinner, they wife later found out she was infact his gf. I am just laughing at the people saying I am painting him as a devil lol There's been case upon case, issues upon issues but this main issue at head hence the reason I didn't go into the others. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by amodaade: 11:16am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Boyooosa: Is the father in law alive or are mil/fil separated? If they are separated, wife should do a rethink, otherwise, owu iya gbon ............ |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by sniper77(m): 11:17am On Mar 14, 2015 |
The woman can't force her husband to love her mum and I do not support domestic violence. The man's dislike for his mother -in-law will be with reasons cos based on your story their was animosity between them before she called cops on him for beating his wife. The couple are in love so the mother-in-law should play her role and advice her daughter not support her action to teach the husband a lesson.The wife left her place of residence cos of dinner issue and not domestic violence. I don't think she can force her husband to love her mum and I think the wife doesn't have a mind of her own in taking decisions as it is obvious she is a victim of manipulation. The man got assisted by the wife and he relocated to join her doesn't make him a robot that has to take orders. |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by ewizard1: 11:17am On Mar 14, 2015 |
freshcvv: A million likes... |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by Rose2014: 11:17am On Mar 14, 2015 |
dinachi:I remember u from the other wife beating thread. Why do U seem to derive much pleasure in seeing women battered. Remember u may have daughters someday & Karma never fails to react. Let's be careful what we say even though this is a faceless forum. Please don't beat ur wife cos she may silently kill u one day. Nobody has d monopoly of violence 4 Likes |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by dyabman(m): 11:18am On Mar 14, 2015 |
Who's fooling who here now .. Woobish !! |
Re: If This Was Your Husband What Would You Do? by francizy(m): 11:19am On Mar 14, 2015 |
kraftsta: So you will therefore beat up your wife for going to see her mum?? |
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