I have been married for two years now, I have been open up to my wife in the area of finances in the house, she doesn't work for now though she's a graduate, but anytime we are out of money, she change in the house and I almost blame myself why I always open up to her always... please should I stop open up to her ? Advise please

Yes its a huge crime to let ur wife knw abt all d money u hav. U may b operatin a joint account buh u shuld hav ur own seprate account.

Opening up to her is not a bad thing but she doesn't seem to comply/understand when things her hard. That is a fault on her own part.

Change how?

As in questioning why you are broke,or what?

Or wondering why you should be broke,when there's money in your account?

My fiance doesn't know what I earn,not because I want to be secretive,but to avoid her questioning my spending..

WIFE+MONEY= HAPPY HOME.


WIFE+STORIES= PALAVA.

change in the sense that she won;t know how I spend anymore, just be given her what she need

Remember that both of you are 1. There is not crime for her to known your finance source,just that woman are different from each other. #be wise

You know your wife.
You may have to own a secret separate account.
This isn't ideal but it works for some couples.

hmmm

psalmlolese:
Remember that both of you are 1. There is not crime for her to known your finance source,just that woman are different from each other. #be wise

thanks for the advise but what do you think is the way out, when there is no money and she started her character, i feel like running from home

NEVER I MEAN NEVER LET A WOMAN KNOW HOW MUCH U EARN OR HOW MUCH U GOT IN YA ACCOUNT RATHER LER HEE KNOW OF 50PERCENT OR ELSE YOU GO HEAR AM. COS SHES GOING TO WRECK U FINANCIALLY.

icedbeatz:
NEVER I MEAN NEVER LET A WOMAN KNOW HOW MUCH U EARN OR HOW MUCH U GOT IN YA ACCOUNT RATHER LER HEE KNOW OF 50PERCENT OR ELSE YOU GO HEAR AM. COS SHES GOING TO WRECK U FINANCIALLY.

dis mentality of urz ehn.....so u blieve all women are men wreckers

icedbeatz:
NEVER I MEAN NEVER LET A WOMAN KNOW HOW MUCH U EARN OR HOW MUCH U GOT IN YA ACCOUNT RATHER LER HEE KNOW OF 50PERCENT OR ELSE YOU GO HEAR AM. COS SHES GOING TO WRECK U FINANCIALLY.

DURING THE MARRIAGE SEMINAR, WE WERE ASKED TO BE OPEN TO EACH OTHER, PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO AS I HAVE ALREADY OPEN UP TO HER ?

Not good bro, that's not the definition of openness.

Harbosede02:
dis mentality of urz ehn.....so u blieve all women are men wreckers

ABOSEDE ? HE DIDN'T MEAN IT THAT WAY BUT WHAT YOU AS A WOMAN THINK i CAN DO, SHE VICTIMIZE ME WHEN THE MONEY FINISH

thanks to everyone for your contributions , please i need way out, I have already put myself into this

victovrry:

ABOSEDE ? HE DIDN'T MEAN IT THAT WAY BUT WHAT YOU AS A WOMAN THINK i CAN DO, SHE VICTIMIZE ME WHEN THE MONEY FINISH

owk,in a situation whereby my husband is responsible and sensible,i wouldn't blame or victimize im when money finishes,becos i knw there is a reason y it finished.

In My GrandFather's Voice.


My son, if you have 25k in your account and your woman ask you how much you have, tell her it is 15k.

Harbosede02:
owk,in a situation whereby my husband is responsible and sensible,i wouldn't blame or victimize im when money finishes,becos i knw there is a reason y it finished.

well, I'm sensible and I know any woman will pray to have a husband like me, cos I don't drink or womanise, we do all the expenses together, I wonder why she has to be such person,

Harbosede02:
dis mentality of urz ehn.....so u blieve all women are men wreckers

my dear history and current events are evidence to it. sometimes it's subliminal but. most times intentional.for example if ur lady doesn't know how much u got if u buy her a car like Camry tiny light she's gonna be happy and appreciate it but if she knows you got a lot of money to buy her a camaro she's gonna flip on ya azz and tag u stingy not knowing that a man is trying to save up for rainy days or to start up something.

women be wrecking men since 1bc

Tallesty1:
In My GrandFather's Voice.


My son, if you have 25k in your account and your woman ask you how much you have, tell her it is 15k.

Oro Agba (Elderly Talk)

victovrry:


well, I'm sensible and I know any woman will pray to have a husband like me, cos I don't drink or womanise, we do all the expenses together, I wonder why she has to be such person,

if i were to chat wif ur wife,she would say otherwise and put the blame on u,so........my advice:try and make her see reasons wif u

Harbosede02:
if i were to chat wif ur wife,she would say otherwise and put the blame on u,so........my advice:try and make her see reasons wif u

well.... i post this here so as not to expose this to either friends or pastor cos pastor will also advise me to keep doing this.... I think I have to follow the men in the house

icedbeatz:


my dear history and current events are evidence to it. sometimes it's subliminal but. most times intentional.for example if ur lady doesn't know how much u got if u buy her a car like Camry tiny light she's gonna be happy and appreciate it but if she knows you got a lot of money to buy her a camaro she's gonna flip on ya azz and tag u stingy not knowing that a man is trying to save up for rainy days or to start up something.

women be wrecking men since 1bc

stop generalizing pls.....nt all women

Tallesty1:
In My GrandFather's Voice.


My son, if you have 25k in your account and your woman ask you how much you have, tell her it is 15k.

Tallesty1:
In My GrandFather's Voice.


My son, if you have 25k in your account and your woman ask you how much you have, tell her it is 15k.

Harbosede02:
stop generalizing pls.....nt all women

it's only in the western that I have seen ladies that TRULY LIVES INDEPENDENTLY, a lady gonna take you out and would wanna pat the bills or split it even when you are adamant about paying they feel somehow about it unlike the naija chick that would want u to pay for everything even when she got a million naira, my dear are you one of the independent women?!? are u?!

if not then pls kindly fk outta here. I respect ladies but got no regards for bitcches.

falconey:
WIFE+MONEY= HAPPY HOME.


WIFE+STORIES= PALAVA.

WIFE + the money she NEEDS(give her extra when necessary) = HAPPY HOME AND MAN

WIFE + STORIES = HAHAHAHAHAHA na here u go know say without money most women no Send love at all

icedbeatz:


WIFE + the money she NEEDS(give her extra when necessary) = HAPPY HOME AND MAN

WIFE + STORIES = HAHAHAHAHAHA na here u go know say without money most women no Send love at all

wow!!! You elaborated better.

victovrry:


DURING THE MARRIAGE SEMINAR, WE WERE ASKED TO BE OPEN TO EACH OTHER, PLEASE WHAT CAN I DO AS I HAVE ALREADY OPEN UP TO HER ?

bro yeah you should be open to each other but believe me it's not on everything, NOT EVERYTHING just the ones that really matters, there are few things a man should never let his lady know though it depends on the kind of lady (but most times women turn out to act the same when that spirit that possesses them takes over) .
From what u said bro, u married a bad wife, what kinda woman will make the hubby miserable whenever he ain't got money?!?! she will definitely reduce ur life span DON'T LET HER!!!!!

1. you gotta call her, sit her down and explain to her that they way you guys make expenses is going to change in order to save up.

2. open a SECRET ACCOUNT, nobody should know about it but u. if ur salary is being paid into ur former account go and change it to the new account and pay in the money u want her to know of into the old account when ur salary is being paid.

IN FACT BRO call me ,there are many options but the kind of wife you married will determine the option to take and how to make the best of it for ur marriage and UR LIFE to last long.

victovrry:
I have been married for two years now, I have been open up to my wife in the area of finances in the house, she doesn't work for now though she's a graduate, but anytime we are out of money, she change in the house and I almost blame myself why I always open up to her always... please should I stop open up to her ? Advise please

It's not a bad thing but for your wife, it is; simply because she's over independent on you and too lazy to get her butt off the couch and learn to be useful to the family. So stop!! She's getting lazy.

icedbeatz:


it's only in the western that I have seen ladies that TRULY LIVES INDEPENDENTLY, a lady gonna take you out and would wanna pat the bills or split it even when you are adamant about paying they feel somehow about it unlike the naija chick that would want u to pay for everything even when she got a million naira, my dear are you one of the independent women?!? are u?!

if not then pls kindly fk outta here. I respect ladies but got no regards for bitcches.

am nt independent cos i av notin of my own to depend on,so am dependent on my parents...so mr man,d conclusion u made in ur last statement doesn't concern me.

victovrry:


thanks for the advise but what do you think is the way out, when there is no money and she started her character, i feel like running from home

I guess she need more orientation about marriage.