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Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by isika82: 10:20pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
I am dating this Nigerian guy and I really really care about him, but he is always talking about respect, drowning it into my ears like it's the only English word that exists in the dictionary. And so I pose the question today, what is it about respect with Nigerian men. He insists that he doesn't want any miss independent and I must admit that I can be a little stubborn and yes, I have been doing things for myself before he came into my life. I care about him and YES i do respect him. But I wanted to ask you good folks if it's just a Nigeria thing, this deep fascination with respect. p.s He got mad one day when i stated that that African men want to be respected always, am I wrong? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Treetop20(m): 10:23pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
is this a bash Nigerian men day? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by isika82: 10:28pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
No not all, just want to understand where Nigerian men are coming from. Like I said earlier I care about him, but the talk on respect just had me thinking a bit. Would a Nigerian guy respect his woman equally? I guess that's the main point of my argument. Or better yet, what does respect entail? Cos lord knows I'm not too cut out for the domestic roles. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Sauron1: 10:31pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
isika82: Most Naija men grew up watching their mothers give their husbands maximum respect. Why should they settle for less?? If a woman cant respect ma manhood, she can toss off. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Hotstepper(f): 10:43pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
the lady wants to know what respect entail for u Nigerian men datz all 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Sauron1: 10:45pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
isika82: If you are not cut for the domestic roles, don't marry a Nigerian man. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Treetop20(m): 10:47pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
no yelling that is a violent behavior and i run and keep away from such also girls who tend to bang doors or walk out when they get upset that is a no no ~Sauron~:lol |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by tope2000(f): 10:48pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
if a man want respect, i'll give him but he has to respect me 2. chikena |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by KarmaMod(f): 10:49pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
Treetop20: Pick one. Isnt it better to walk out and calm down if you dont want to hear any yelling? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by onyinye2(f): 10:49pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
Treetop20:Sounds like PMS to me. . . . . . But yeah. . . . I would rather leave then stay and argue. duh//// |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Treetop20(m): 10:51pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
onyinye2:you'd be surprised at how many girls do this KarmaMod:you can walk out after we are done with the argument not during |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Nobody: 10:53pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
isika82: say bye bye to your guy as soon as he finds a woman who can cook and do domestic work very well. Respect is a big part of nigerian culture, you want to find out if its something you can stand for the long term before you get hurt. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Nobody: 10:53pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
isika82:You're so not wrong. But it's not only naija men. Women too wan shakara (older women). It's a Nigerian thing, and I must say,I respect that a lot. But they need to understand that demanding respect is not the way to go about it, [i]earning [/i]respect is the real deal. As to your post, it becomes annoying an irritating when any man begins to demand respect from your every action. Ask him if the relationship dwells on respect or on the communication and feelings you both share. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
I'm a good door banger!!! Bite me!! @topic If you are not into domestic roles, you had better date someone else. The fact that he's hitting you with the word respect every milisecond should tell you he's very much into you settling into domestic and traditional wifely roles. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by onyinye2(f): 10:55pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
Treetop20:Maka gini I would be surprised?? I live the life of a lady so I think I would know-----> Guys do the same thing so yeah. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Sauron1: 10:58pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
tope2000: U will get your maximum respect. . . . .and that is the fear of you catching me pants down on our matrimonial bed with a Jamaican model. No sassy text messages or all that rubbish lying around you. All those are ways of me giving u your respect. No violence, no yelling, no threats, happy now?? Well, your own part of the deal is cooking, washing, breakfast in bed(weekends), scrubbing ma behind in bed. Nice arrangement, innit?? Don't pay attention to em man eaters(Stillwater n co.) They worship their partners but come online to beat their chests and spue: TUFIAKWU!!!! |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by onyinye2(f): 10:59pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
isika82:I suggest you lean towards Nigerian men who were raised abroad. Preferably the ones born in The States. They have been exposed to different lifestyles and are more understanding. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by KarmaMod(f): 11:06pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
you can walk out after we are done with the argument Be careful of what you wish for. Her leaving during is better unless you wanna hear things that can not be taken back. I suggest the same to dudes. Better leave than say something that will completely damage the relationship |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by tope2000(f): 11:08pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
~Sauron~: OMG!!!!! i have suffered Sauron, Do i have tribal marks?? If i should dare sense that nonsense . . . . .my! my!! u will surely regret the day u were born
Happy with that
And you are? Me - scrub ur behind?? r u serious I dnt mind the brekkie in bed but not always or we take turns in doing that |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Nobody: 11:10pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
~Sauron~: Look at who's talking, we all know you are a sexist. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Sauron1: 11:13pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
stillwater: Sexist?? Nah. I am a pure African bloke. tope2000: Tribal marks?? I am not sure if u do. Can i see your pic?? No photoshop plzzzzz.
Nice!
I said weekends ONLY. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by isika82: 11:14pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
I suggest you lean towards Nigerian men who were raised abroad. Preferably the ones born in The States. They have been exposed to different lifestyles and are more understanding It's funny you say Nigerians raised abroad. He came here as a child and when i met him he seemed more American than Nigerian. It's as if his Nigerian side sprung up after fully being comfortable in our relationship. Now there is talks of respect, and traditional roles, especially talks of traditional religion and not even Christianity as he opposes White man's religion. Is this common? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Sauron1: 11:17pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
isika82: It's not common. . . . . .Most Yoruba peops/Igbo peops i know are Christians. If Religion is going to be an issue, it's high time u walk away from the relationship. Don't think for one second he would bend his decision for you otherwise u might be accomodating 4 other wives in a classic polygamy setting. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by tope2000(f): 11:17pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
~Sauron~: I dont do fraud, all my pics r un-retouched but u aint seeing it
It doesnt matter You can always surprise me in bed too with breakfast |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by isika82: 11:19pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
you can walk out after we are done with the argument I don't walk out, i get very very very quite, with nothing to say and he is always like say something, I say say nothing. I know he hates that, I'm just not used to saying things when mad. Being quite works for me as I am processing it all. But he keeps sayings, say something, |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by onyinye2(f): 11:19pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
isika82:Wow. . . . . oka. Well I'm in total shock because I have yet to met a Nigerian raised in the states who behaved like this. Does he by chance have a account here named Fayasoul And you by a chance in the medical field?? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Sauron1: 11:21pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
tope2000: U have showed me before jor!!! Besides, it's on specsavers' billboard @ Stockwell with you in glasses. Are they paying you for that??
I will do that every Feb 29th. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by tope2000(f): 11:25pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
~Sauron~: Ehen since i have shown u b4 why show u again Specsavers u say?? i dont wear glasses so i cant really endorse for them maybe u saw me in a Christian Dior billboard instead
Oh wow . . . .arent u the dream hubby |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by isika82: 11:26pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
It's not common. . . . . .Most Yoruba peops/Igbo peops i know are Christians. If Religion is going to be an issue, it's high time u walk away from the relationship. Don't think for one second he would bend his decision for you otherwise u might be accomodating 4 other wives in a classic polygamy setting. He's Igbo and I think his view of religion is an appreciation for traditional Igbo religion (i'm not fully sure what that means), instead of christianity. He was raised a christian, but he prefers traditional religion. Are you saying that there might be something wrong with appreciating traditional religion instead of christianity? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by Treetop20(m): 11:27pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
so you mean he worships iroko tree? |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by DaPhoenix(f): 11:27pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
Wait, what kind of things do you guys deem as respectful? Kneeing to serve you your food or what? I need examples. |
Re: Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time? by KarmaMod(f): 11:29pm On Jan 15, 2009 |
isika82: i admire your patience lmao cos if I say stuff, you'd be begging me to be quiet why does he want you to say something? Traditional religion eh? Lol does he sport dreads by any chance? Do you perm your hair? |
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