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Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by efilefun(m): 10:28pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
cuz most aint ready 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Meringe(m): 10:28pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Ego |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by tablu: 10:28pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Both parties are not ready to fulfil their obligations 1 Like
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Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by HopeAlive14(m): 10:29pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
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Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nafikowa: 10:30pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
The rate at which couples cheat is at all time high, its alarming. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by ikombe: 10:30pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
The white people thought us a lot of rubbish thats y my broda. 7 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 10:30pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
the dowry too much jor. when the man will sit and think and think, it will take him 5 yrs to get it in his head and then he breaks down totally. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Misogynist2014(m): 10:31pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Vickybee:Your dad comes to mind 8 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Drdreluv: 10:31pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
ask Google |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 10:33pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
kay29000: Its simply because people are not real with themselves during courtship.....and also because women are abusing their empowerment. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by gmoni2(m): 10:33pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
If money is the core of the union, be mindful that the moment your cash start to dwindle, the marriage will crash... 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by anyaekekehinde(m): 10:33pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Simple... its because people see Love as a Feeling and not a Decision quoting Pastor Tunde Bakare...... People don't realise that feelings don't last forever... and you can have feelings for many opposite sex. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by bumtos(m): 10:33pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Some of our ladies don't have respect for their husband. And in a bus, there shall be no two drivers. Once there is two drivers, problem will start. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by williams20(m): 10:33pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
TheRainmaker1: Nice write up , In short most couple enter the school called marriage with so many high expectations and only a few have actually taken their time to read about the institution called marriage ........ 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by thaliat: 10:33pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Hmmmm, I bliv the course is lack of good communication. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 10:34pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
ikombe: Spot on, that's why this feminist poison has slowly infiltrated Nigerian society. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by coolsegun2002: 10:34pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
When most marriage start with "guy am pregnant nd we don't abort in our family"well long story short..90percent of most guys marry ladies they intended doing chop nd run with not knowing chics have plan ..they get stuck but time will tell..break up is sure better than couples violence that lead to death of one or both parties dat we see these days 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by 234GT(m): 10:34pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Lack of submission by ladies, and lack of love from men! |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by tuffgongjo(m): 10:35pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Very simple,Most folks get married these days just to "Legalize their Fucckkkkking"$once they are tired of using themselves as "Roll on" they move unto the "Next one". 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by dulux07(m): 10:36pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Ladies no longer respect their spouse, they stand head to head with him, n no longer submissive. Cheating is wrong but as always been mans attributes even before christ, it jst that then instead of cheating, they marry many wives to quench their sex urge, but nowadays they tend to liv under pretense that they r satisfied wit one woman. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Nobody: 10:36pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Marriage is not as the way it used to be. Compare today's marriage to when our parents and grandparents got wedded. Couples of now adays lack patience. Dem too rush! A friendship of 6 months now leads to marriage. Couples don't take their time to know one another very well before they run to the altar. Most ladies hook the guys by forming pregnant. At the end, the guy is forced to marry her.! This leads to frustration on the man's path. He transfers aggression towards her at all times because he's been forced against his will to be responsible! I hate hearing about broken homes. I'm scared of marriage self because I don't want to experience such. To me, I think its best one stay single than to venture into marriage you are not sure of. There is this popular yoruba prayers mothers pray for their children. "Mi o ni gbe egun ele egun, mi o ni shi oko fe, temi ni olorun a fun mi" (meaning, I won't carry somebody's problems, I won't marry wrong and that God will give me my own husband). Somebody who will truly me those beautiful words......In sickness n in health, 4 richer n 4 poorer till death do us path! 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by evita5(f): 10:37pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Most marriages break up today because ppo that have no business being married end up rushing into it today for the sole purpose of having a glamorous wedding ceremony 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Edusouls(m): 10:38pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
kay29000:is very simple, we planted the seeds of lies,dishonesty,mistrust,cheating,joking with each others feelings, and we practices wickedness with joy and commitment, what u sow u reap, we are reaping of harvest brother. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Ikengawo: 10:40pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
kay29000: We have completely trashed our cultural values, that's why. Also as societies get more prosperous, it's move difficult to maintain a low divorce rate. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Venom104: 10:41pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Lizabeth25: Back then.. courtship didn't last long either.. how long the couple court is not the problem.. its just the general lack of patience and the internet... |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Riodiao(m): 10:42pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Letter to Buhari from the grave of the innocents – By Bashir Yusufu Dear General Buhari; I would’ve addressed this letter privately to you, but in the expectation that you may not receive it, I decided to make it an Open Letter, in the hope that you would stumble on it, read it and hopefully feel some of the pains and anguish that have been my lot. Having said that, permit me therefore to proceed with the rest of this missive from the grave of innocents departed. Last night, while I was at my modest home in Katsina, relaxing and probably half-awake, I heard the voice of my cousin who was killed in the North in April 2011 during the post-election violence instigated by your loss of the presidential election. With bloodshot sad eyes, my cousin, looking apparition-like, was wailing “Gen Buhari, why why”. My cousin’s name is (or was) Mallam Yusuf Danfulani, a bright young lad originally from Katsina State, who was slaughtered in cold blood and set on fire by youths chanting “Sai Buhari”, like they are again now chanting in 2015. Gen Buhari, in case you have forgotten, Yusuf was slaughtered in your name even though he never did any wrong to you, and even voted for you against Dr Jonathan. He lost his life just because the murderers you encouraged by your many hate speeches believed Yusuf to be from middle belt or southern Nigeria, most probably because of his bulky looks and brave, patriotic attempts to prevent the killing of an innocent Youth Corper, Ukeoma Ikechukwu. Even though he cried out in Hausa and Fulfulde, he was still not believed by those you (Buhari) managed to brainwash to see all non-Fulani Nigerians as conspiring to vote against you. In this very case, Yusuf voted for you but his ‘Sai Buhari’ killers never believed he did. Like you, Gen Buhari, the mob was baying for the blood of innocents. If not for Yusuf’s best friend who was with him and was himself nearly killed, we would not have recognized his charred body that was burnt beyond recognition. And thanks to the same friend for recounting to us the little he could make out at the last moments of Yusuf’s life, the agony he passed through and the most important words he uttered before he gave up. It is the same words I heard him utter last night from the grave: ‘Gen Buhari, why why’. Yet, to this day, you (Buhari) have not cared to apologize or show any remorse, but you instead offered lame excuses for the bloodletting you had instigated, and still instigate. I now ask you this: Gen Buhari, must you always shade blood, like you started doing from 1983, to rule Nigeria? Do you recall how you killed Brigadier Bako in 1983 just so you could take power by force from Shehu Shagari? General Buhari, Ukeoma Ikechukwu himself was reported missing that same day Yusuf was murdered by your supporters, and finally confirmed dead the following day when his charred remains was discovered in a hooded area. Apparently, your supporters had dragged him out of the open and tortured him before finally snuffing life out of him. Like my cousin, Yusuf, Ukeoma was very young and an innocent. Unlike Dr. Jonathan, they were not contesting against you. Yet, when they were killed, part of Nigeria was killed with them; the same Nigeria that you are now angrily campaigning to rule. Yusuf and Ukeoma were not alone. Six other innocent Youth Corpers were also murdered in Bauchi, where you Buhari, polled 1,315,209 votes (almost 82 per cent), defeating Dr Jonathan who scored 258,404 votes and did not even hit the 25 per cent mark. The corps members were reportedly chased to a police station where they sought refuge. But the rioters, who were raving mad with bloodlust and chanting “Sai Buhari”, overran the station and murdered the young Nigerians in cold blood. So, Gen Buhari, as you can see from the Bauchi result and it’s aftermath, your supporters even shade blood when you win; still you have no qualms. Today, you are prancing around the nation, arrogant and angry as usual, behaving like you have already won the election; and thus setting up another bloodletting if you are not announced winner. The story of Obinna Okpokiri is as heart-wrenching as Yusuf’s. The 27-year-old was butchered and burnt to ashes, in the service of his fatherland. Okpokiri’s own circumstances were as gruesome as they could be. He had run to the Corpers’ Lodge as the rampaging ‘Sai Buhari’ rioters targeted Youth Corper polling officers recruited by INEC for the election. As painful death loomed, the young Nigerians contemplated fleeing to the barracks. But they were not lucky enough. Your ‘Sai Buhari’ supporters caught up with them, slaughtered and set them on fire. Like Yusuf, these innocents are human beings and future leaders on the last laps of fulfilling their national duty before moving on to a bright future. But it was not to be because, in your name, Gen Buhari, they were slaughtered, sliced, soaked in petrol and scorched. Reduced to ashes in minutes and in the most callous fashion by those that are not better citizens or humans than them. General Buhari, while you are now busy inciting another violence, please bear in mind that in 2011, your supporters turned violent in whole 12 northern states as they burned the homes, vehicles, and properties of innocent Nigerians, some of whom are also Muslims and Northerners like you and my cousin Yusuf. Your ‘Sai Buhari’ supporters also targeted and killed Christians and members of southern Nigerian ethnic groups, who were seen as supporting the PDP, and they burnt churches across the north. One particular attack in Bauchi stood out as most heart-breaking. According to Human Rights Watch, on April 17 in Giade, a rural town in northern Bauchi, ‘Sai Buhari’ mobs attacked youth corps members in the town. The Corpers, who were mostly from Yoruba, ran to the local police station to seek refuge, but the mobs stormed the police station. The mob killed the police officer on duty and burned down the police station. They raped two of the female youth corps members and then hacked them to death with machetes, along with five male youth corps members. In total, rioters killed ten youth corps members in that town alone. A lecturer at the Nuhu Bamalli Polytechnic, Zaria, Kaduna State, described to Human Rights Watch how a mob of Muslims chanting “Change, Sai Buhari” attacked and killed several Christian students, a Christian lecturer and four Muslim students suspected of being PDP sympathizers on April 17: He said “Between 10 a.m. and 12 p.m., they entered the school chanting slogans and shouting: “Where are the Christians and Muslims that supported the ruling party?” They had painted their faces black and were shouting that they needed “change”, the Congress for Progressive Change campaign slogan. The mob had all sorts of weapons – machetes, sticks, and clubs. They started breaking the glass on the buildings. The students ran away but the mob pursued them into the staff quarters and they had nowhere to go. The mob beat them to death. The lecturer they killed was Yoruba“. Finally, Gen Buhari, let me end this letter by asking you this question: When are you going to apologize to me, to Yusuf’s aged parents, to Ukeoma’s parents, to parents of all innocents murdered by your brainwashed supporters, to Nigeria and to mankind? And here is Yusuf again, asking you from the grave: “Gen Buhari, why why”. Bashir Yusufu. yusufubashir@yahoo.com |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Wefiak1414(m): 10:43pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
because what d lord did not plant will not last forever. So devil cheated n they were the wrong tools. Persona non grata 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by olukoye(m): 10:44pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Marriages that are not rooted or grounded well in Christ foundation may have crisis. Another issues is external mending into relationships, like mother inlaw and others. Impatience, misunderstanding of each other, not opening up enough to each other, above all Christ is missing in most homes. |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Bosshugo: 10:44pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
If u ask me, na who I go ask? |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Emmahunk(m): 10:44pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
kay29000: Simple. Because women no longer call their husbands ' my lord' neither do they see them as such anymore. Contrary to how it was some light years away. Civilisation, women lib, career, education etc all stem from this simple reason. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Senjuchiha: 10:45pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
D ans is simple...na jonathan dey cause am 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Most Marriages Breakup Within 5 Years These Days? by Project400: 10:46pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Social media is allowing people to reconnect, sometimes in ways damaging to their marriage. Young couples easily reconnect with their exes few months/years after marriage You cannot separate divorce and social media/exes. 2 Likes |
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