Tallesty1:
You wey be best man suppose tell us nah

TheRainmaker1:
There's no ONE reason for the high rates of marriage failure these days. Rather, I believe it's a combination of factors. Lemme briefly address A FEW of these factors:

1. Gender equality and role reversal:
In times past, the roles of men and women were clearly delineated. A husband was expected to be the bread winner, while the wife was to be the submissive homemaker. These days however, a lot of women would rather pursue careers (which I support anyway) and some even have become breadwinners. We haven't yet rewritten the roles, to reflect the new ideas. Hence, families are struggling to cope.

2. Social Media:
A lot of young people would rather advertise their problems on social media than talk through them with their partners. This has led to poor communication in the home. It's no longer unusual to see two or more people in the same room, smiling into their smartphones for hours, and not talking to each other. It's creating a real communication gap.

Also, a lot of people are so hot in pursuit of 'Likes' on Facebook & Instagram and 'Followers' on twitter, etc, that they fail to realise that this doesn't necessarily translate into love in real life.

3.Societal Influence and Religion:
The general (erroneous) belief that once a lady is 25yrs and unmarried, it means she has spiritual problems, has made a lot of women rush into marriage without really getting to know the man they're marrying.

4. The Rat race:
These days, families (especially us younger generation) are getting to spend less and less time together. We spend the greater part of our time at work, chasing money. This doesn't allow for healthy family bonding.

[b]5.Western Influence and Intolerance:
[/b]From Hollywood to Nollywood, it has almost become fashionable to divorce your partner at the first hint of trouble. The general reason is "due to irreconcilable differences". We no longer wish to sit down and address these differences, cos we feel we're being under appreciated by our partners. The grass is always greener on the other side.


There lots of other reasons...I'll just allow other people air their views

Vickybee:

1. Men are Sexists and Chauvinistic in nature
Most men are sexists and chauvinistic in nature therefore making them selfish and loathe independent women. They make denigrating remarks about women and you don't expect a serious, logical and virtuous woman to remain with such a rètarded being.
Women in other hand, are peace loving and cool but their anti-feminism husband keeps antagonising them and they don't have an option but divorce him.





Thunder fire each and every guy that quoted me on this thread.
Y'all didn't see that the first point raised by dude above me is anti-feminism/woman but choose to attack me for airing mine.

Bunch of hypocrites.

Vickybee:

1. Men are Sexists and Chauvinistic in nature
Most men are sexists and chauvinistic in nature therefore making them selfish and loathe independent women. They make denigrating remarks about women and you don't expect a serious, logical and virtuous woman to remain with such a rètarded being.
Women in other hand, are peace loving and cool but their anti-feminism husband keeps antagonising them and they don't have an option but divorce him.





Thunder fire each and every guy that quoted me on this thread.
Y'all didn't see that the first point raised by dude above me is anti-feminism/woman but choose to attack me for airing mine.

Bunch of hypocrites.

CaptainAmerica1:
Our women nowadays are manner less They are too materialistic!

Gone are the days when women were respectful. During the time of our mothers.

I don't want to say more

uncjay:
from a feminist perspectives.....all that could comes out is an attack at the male folks painting them blue black as if they were evil creatures.... Your scale lacks balancing as you are one sided regarding the issue on ground. I'm not here to defend the male folks because both are contributing to the nemesis, at the same time castigates your type who sees men as the solely factor that brings about crashes in marriage and other evil scenario.....check it.

Justfollowit:


You and women ehn

You must be very miserable

I wish you knew me then

nkemdi89:
A friend of mine marriage barely survived five months because of failure from the husband to replace her Iphone 5 that got stolen on their wedding day.

Vickybee:

1. Men are Sexists and Chauvinistic in nature
Most men are sexists and chauvinistic in nature therefore making them selfish and loathe independent women. They make denigrating remarks about women and you don't expect a serious, logical and virtuous woman to remain with such a rètarded being.
Women in other hand, are peace loving and cool but their anti-feminism husband keeps antagonising them and they don't have an option but divorce him.





Thunder fire each and every guy that quoted me on this thread.
Y'all didn't see that the first point raised by dude above me is anti-feminism/woman but choose to attack me for airing mine.

Bunch of hypocrites.

Vickybee:

1. Men are Sexists and Chauvinistic in nature
Most men are sexists and chauvinistic in nature therefore making them selfish and loathe independent women. They make denigrating remarks about women and you don't expect a serious, logical and virtuous woman to remain with such a rètarded being.
Women in other hand, are peace loving and cool but their anti-feminism husband keeps antagonising them and they don't have an option but divorce him.





Thunder fire each and every guy that quoted me on this thread.
Y'all didn't see that the first point raised by dude above me is anti-feminism/woman but choose to attack me for airing mine.

Bunch of hypocrites.

onegig:

You would do well to point out which part of the post is antiwomen.

So feminism is the new singsong in town that you girls just bandy around without an inkling of what it even means.

I guess that feminism also taught you to be uncouth and use gutter languages when passìng your message across?

bukatyne:


@Your first line,

Let's not go there

Read the whole thread and see who most of posters blame.

Social media: Most partners have not learnt to use
social media properly. You see an average married woman posting revealing pictures online just to crave the attention of the male folks. You would see comments like: "your as.s is big, that bo.obs is sumptuous" and all sort of rubbish that her admirers would be posting. No sane man would see this and
still admire you except you are his mistress.
Moderation is key and people need to watch it.

Wendy80:
onegig
I completely agree with ur points especially N01. Imagine where a married woman on Nairaland post a picture just to show how big her Azz is justo get likes and enjoys guys drooling over it. And she takes 'Ur Azz is big, ur Azz is d bomb, I wanto feel that Azz etc' as compliment. What happen to 'Ur comments are intelligent.
SMH for some married women

Misogynist2014:
Can two walk together unless they agree? I think it is more about communication and appreciation. Maybe if women reference (are humble and obedient) to men that do the dirty jobs at home, maybe chores that look unmanly can even be a source of fun to the man, fun which he will live to relish for ages.

Zikkie:


Intelligent!

KanwuliaJara:
Is that why MANY NL couples have disappeared BEHIND THE SCENES?

Nothing to munch on again. .
How are u? It's been awhile.

lrguru:
personally I was shocked to see such comin from a lady, it shows lack of home training and illiteracy. How can a sane person use such word on a forum like this knowin fully well there are intellectuals here and cos of her rare privilege of havin access to the internet makes her feel she has the right to open her guts anyhow. I only pray her situation improves, cos any man who marries the one is headed for destruction in 365 days

onegig:


And what's wrong with this.?



I am not "most posters", I am only responsible for my own thoughts and I was well balanced and pointed the errors of both male and female cos I believe It takes two to tango.

cbrass:


Yes joh... Have made Some cash And Still making Some cash through The internet So It's a Good thing To Use It. I Just Want To think most couples Didn't Just prepare for This thing Or probably because They lack tolerance for each other

bukatyne:


I did not say you were not balanced neither am I holding you responsible for the thoughts of others. I know How annoying. it can be.

I said most posters are not balanced and If you want to tackle her, do same for others too.

She is not the only one balancing the opposite gender solely.

Vickybee:

1. Men are Sexists and Chauvinistic in nature
Most men are sexists and chauvinistic in nature therefore making them selfish and loathe independent women. They make denigrating remarks about women and you don't expect a serious, logical and virtuous woman to remain with such a rètarded being.
Women in other hand, are peace loving and cool but their anti-feminism husband keeps antagonising them and they don't have an option but divorce him.





Thunder fire each and every guy that quoted me on this thread.
Y'all didn't see that the first point raised by dude above me is anti-feminism/woman but choose to attack me for airing mine.

Bunch of hypocrites.

onegig:


Bukatyne. We all know what Nairaland is. You always know those "posts" would come. I learn to ignore them and don't go on poiting fingers at everyone as long as you don't direct your BS at me.

Why i responded to only her was because she directly alleged that I was chauvinistic and I had to ask her to point exactly where or how I did that.


Not responsible for others railroading her and calling her out on the same ish .

If she's ready to make wrong assertions then she should learn to fight her "wars" with the attendant trolls.

Vickybee:

1. Men are Sexists and Chauvinistic in nature
Most men are sexists and chauvinistic in nature therefore making them selfish and loathe independent women. They make denigrating remarks about women and you don't expect a serious, logical and virtuous woman to remain with such a rètarded being.
Women in other hand, are peace loving and cool but their anti-feminism husband keeps antagonising them and they don't have an option but divorce him.





[s]Thunder fire each and every guy that quoted me on this thread[/s]. Back to Sender
Y'all didn't see that the first point raised by dude above me is anti-feminism/woman but choose to attack me for airing mine.

Bunch of hypocrites.

Justfollowit:


Why do you think what a man does in his own home defines whether he is a man or not?

Misogynist2014:
What do you think defines him?

drlawizle:


Its simply because people are not real with themselves during courtship.....and also because women are abusing their empowerment.