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Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by K9blunt(f): 12:34pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Am dark skinned and was born that way, I grew up with the mindset that when I have the chance I will bleach and become light skinned , why? because my mom bleached, my sister bleached and some of my friends are bleaching and they said its because to be light skinned will get you attention. I noticed it anyway, I will be in a social event my fair skinned friend will get more attention while I may get one or none. my mom even suggested I tone a but so my face can be a little lighter. some years ago I bleached and got the attention but I stopped because it made me feel inadequate. but now I tell myself being what am not because other people will like me or not is only denying myself of my happiness, I believe no one will appreciate you until you do. and I can bet you if not 100% am 99% happy with my self. so fellow ebony ladies how do you cope with your being dark skinned and how do you deal with people telling you to go lighter and finally how do you deal with the fair skinned getting more attention than you? PS...... guys no lie o, you're guilty of clicking thousands of likes on light skinned NL gals compared to dark skin ones of 90 or less. 4 Likes |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by Nobody: 12:35pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
I will always uphold this statement~ "Black is beautiful" Op, first of all, your question is erroneous.... When you ask someone "How do you cope with something", then it means that your are directly implying that it's a disadvantage or a flaw in whatever context you use it. Being dark skinned is not a disadvantage... To your question, I think the problem starts from the dark-skinned ladies themselves. They feel their skin color doesn't make them look attractive and they start looking for alternative means to make themselves look more "attractive" Secondly the media plays a huge role in this, especially the entertainment media which places emphasis on fair skinned ladies and demotes the dark skin to nothing but ugly, thereby creating the general impression that the fair skin looks more attractive than the dark skin. Your self carriage goes a long way in programming the mental perception others have about you. If you are proud of your color, other people will have no choice but to undergo that mental shift in the perception of you. Ebony is beautiful, I don't just know why people can't see it.... I will always respect beautiful women like Genevieve, Agbani Darego and Lupita Nyongo, who have embraced and maintained their dark skin and have given no cognizance whatsoever to bleaching..... 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by 42n8dzydoo(m): 12:37pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Black is beautiful! 1 Like |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by EMEKA1MILLION(m): 12:38pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Beauty is more of character.... Bleaching your skin won't bleach ur bad character. Embrace who you are cos the person that really likes you will not be because ofyour bleached skin.. Living a fake life attracts fake people to you, (yes; bleaching is living a fake life) if u are dark remain dark, if u are light skinned remain that way. Attraction varies with individuals. The repercussion of bleaching your skin comes at old age, this companies won't tell you that until you discover the hard way... Don't follow the crowd 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by elantraceey(f): 12:39pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
It depends on the kind of people around you, i for one have never felt intimated because of my dark skin instead i appreciated it and it everyone around me (that black beauty) and i've never being an attention seeker, if you don't like me the way i am then move on. 3 Likes |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by dharay99: 12:41pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
I'm waitin 4dia comments... |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by ghost1718(m): 12:42pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
so them say black is beautiful and i agree anytime i see my twin sis.......... Black 1 Like |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by Rapmoney(m): 12:42pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
I love black gurls! That dark skin gives me the thrills . Am a sucker for black girls!!! 5 Likes |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by jejemanito: 12:43pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
What the hell is wrong with being dark?? 1 Like |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by K9blunt(f): 12:44pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
missclasssy:madam stop booking space or I go trace you. |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by Rapmoney(m): 12:45pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
elantraceey:Hehehehe |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by K9blunt(f): 12:45pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
jejemanito:nothing, just an observation. |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by jashar(f): 12:46pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
'Black skin'- I dislike that term. Cuz no one is truly black but dark skinned. Any way, na lie joorrrr...... If not, no dark skin lady for don marry. OP, your problem/challenge is low self esteem. Do you know that it's the way you perceive your self that others see you? See yourself as beautiful and people would acknowledge your beauty. Don't try to copy others, you're unique in your individuality. Have good physical hygiene, dress in clothes that fit you and have a pleasant attitude. BTW, bleaching is dangerous to ya health. 2 Likes |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by Alexdroh(m): 12:46pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
elantraceey: I luv the way u are ..am not movin on |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by mayormoney37: 12:47pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
She no even upload her pix make we confirm say she never bleached 1 Like |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by mayormoney37: 12:47pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
omo ale jati jati........ur papa bleached, ur mama bleached even ur sister self bleached......na were u cum from if u no bleach....... u fall from heaven ? |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by ipleddge: 12:47pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
So after this long story of yours,no picture to support Ur claim You need to appreciate your self,dark girls rock realy.look that huglee Lupita nyogo,she black,she no fine but she appreciate herself and many people now celebrate her 1 Like |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by Rapmoney(m): 12:49pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
I hate girls who bleach! Some look like ghosts! They give me malaria and fever sometimes 2 Likes |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by ipleddge: 12:49pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
elantraceey:You look so nice baby,and u very proud Abt that |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by K9blunt(f): 12:50pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
jashar:noted. thanks |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by Nobody: 12:51pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Seriously? I have dark skinned friends who are heads- turner any day,any time. Its all about carriage my dear,and they are thick bi..tches btw,hard to ignore. I like when a girl has attitude,u walk into a room and its like someone sucks out the air,all eyes on u and u just bask in the moment. Girl,love urself,ur skin. |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by K9blunt(f): 12:52pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
mayormoney37:Lol, roflmao Na my phone battery de hold me f not, you for cry today. anutolotolo. |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by Nobody: 12:56pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Rapmoney: Yea! Me too |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by jashar(f): 12:59pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
K9blunt: You're welcome. |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by alberto2k(m): 12:59pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Op i take God beg u... no go bleach abeg u Black is beautiful iswear 2 Likes |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by 2dice(m): 1:04pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Black is Magic Black is Lovely i can authoritatively say Adam is a BlackMan who wan help me argue am :/ 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by mayormoney37: 1:11pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
K9blunt:na God save u ooo if not we for see who go cry.......buzu |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by dollyptosh(m): 1:12pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
K9blunt:lol |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by K9blunt(f): 1:17pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
mayormoney37:you know that I know that you know we both know , it is you that will cry. mgbeke. |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by K9blunt(f): 1:19pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
alberto2k:e don te since I stop am, am now normal dark skinned. Thanks a lot 1 Like |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by Candyness(f): 1:20pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
K9blunt: Hiya, check out my profile. I am an accountant and a part time model. Black is beautiful |
Re: Black Ladies , How Do You Cope ? by K9blunt(f): 1:24pm On Mar 25, 2015 |
Candyness:Woa.... speechless. thanks a lot 2 Likes 1 Share |
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