ive had a boyfriend for about a year now, i really care abt him. but theres this big problem. i dont think im attracted to him anymore. asin when im with him i dont think about having sex or kissing which is a little bit strange. a little bit because i dont think im a very sexual person. with my ex, hu was my first i never really cared for having sex but he alwys used to pressure and demand and iafter sometime i guess i got used to it. but we eventually broke up. i tried to experiment & find myself with 3 diff guys but it was still very boring.
the point now is that theres no attraction! maybe wen we first met but now i think its gone. right now we are down to abt once a month and weve started arguing abt it constantly. he blames me and says im stiff and boring and he has practically stopped making advances. i dont think i am at all! im a very vibrant person and im constntly thinking abt sex and the fantasies i want us to have are wild so wat the hell is wrong with me? i really wnat to have the kind of sex people talk about but now thats as far away for me as winning a million bucks. now all the newness of the relationship has gone and i think its harder to just start kicking up a sex life now when u should already have a sturdy one. i know hes not cheating cos weer alwys arguin abt it if he wasnt bothered then i would be scared. (nd hes trustworthy)

here are my problems:
im not very confident about my body, (i know im beautifull though but i cant be caught dead walking naked in front of eni guy)
im never interested in sex, it just doesnt occur to me to make a move! (even when i do its cos i feel im starving him and i should make an effort.) but i get turned on when watching some romantic movies or wen i see a cute guy, everytime i catch myself fantasizing abt sex!
i can never EVER climax with a guy(its unbelivable!), i think this is wat has made it so boring and uninteresting 4 me.

guys: wat can i do to improve the bedroom section?, is dere anything u do 4 gurls that drive them wild?
gurls: how can i be more comfortable in my own skin? any tips for the bedroom and gettin more intersted? how dyu phsche urselves?
wat can i do all around my relationship is hanging on a thread! HELP!
ANY ADVICE IS WELCOME NO MATTER HOW OUTRAGEOUS IT MAY SEEM IF IT HAS WORKED FOR U OR SOMONE U KNOW IM WILLING TO TRY.

sorry 4 d long tory!

I would like to help you outta this i dont mean helping you find out what turns you on or how to climax or tell you i can do better bla bla bla but to help you make sure your relationship works out.

What you suffer from is what i'll like to call intimidation and fear.You're not free and proud of your natural endowment this might be a result of your up-bringing and story or experiences of other people you heard and grew with.

To enjoy sex you'll have to overcome this fright and timidity and also learn what it is you like and how you would want him to touch, watch porn with him sometimes, go out to where you both will be cold and lonely like a walk in the dark or visit to the beach, when you fantasize tell him what you want and when you masterbate find out those spots that makes you cum and make you feel great.

Talk to him exactly about how you feel.You have to feel free and enjoy the while, dont disturb yourself on what he thinks about your boobs or ass or if you're acting weird or not if he loves you he should love everything about you and the weird way you might act when 'doing the do'.

You dont have to make this seem a big deal, work on yourself you dont run away from your problems but find a way to resolve them.Your Ex is gone and your present is better atleast he aint gone yet and still takes you for who you are.

Relax your mind,You're beautiful the way you are Trust me!

@ steve49ja

A+
THANK U VERY MUCH.

sweetie can i ask seriously, were you ever molested or abused as a child? or when growing up? if yes then you have to deal with it, its in your past.

Option 1-maybe you're not into men, maybe you're gay

Option 2- why are you nt comfortable in your own skin? are you oversized or something? sis, look whatever your size if you're big think Monique (phat girls) or if you're uber skinny think models. but most importantly[b] you have to have to [/b] love you b4 someone else can. look at you in the mirror what parts of your body do yo u love the most? touch yourself ( and i'm serious about it), what turns you on?
find out and do it
Option 3 you have too high expectation about what sex is supposed to be like and so when it comes to reality you don't wanna fall short.

i don't really think the problem is the relationship cos you said in your previous relatonship you had sex just because your boyf wanted you to.

you say when you see a cute guy you're turned on, i'm sure you thot of your bf as cute b4 dating him right? if not then you shd date someone else.

but discover your self girl