Igbowife1:
Anambra. In his fathers house but parents deceased. I never met them.

ireneony:
your husband have a wife in Nigeria.
shikena! take it or leave it!

Igbowife1:
What proof should I be able to see if he has a wife in Nigeria too? Just because he doesn't call me much? What else? I've met all his family. I've stayed with them. He lived in Europe when we met for 10 years. He hadn't been living in Nigeria. How could he have another wife? I've met his son and his son lives with my husbands family because the boys mum is no good. The boy is 14. He is not with that mother. What should I ask him to find out?

Igbowife1:
What proof should I be able to see if he has a wife in Nigeria too? Just because he doesn't call me much? What else? I've met all his family. I've stayed with them. He lived in Europe when we met for 10 years. He hadn't been living in Nigeria. How could he have another wife? I've met his son and his son lives with my husbands family because the boys mum is no good. The boy is 14. He is not with that mother. What should I ask him to find out?

pasqal09:


Firstly, I don't believe this moniker is genuine but I'll just drop my own one kobo.
Normally, I'd conclude that your hubby deifntely has a nigerian wife here in the country but you insist that can't be possible since you know his family and background quite well.

Therefore, the only assumptions left is that he probably has a woman who isn't he wife that he hiding from you. Or he's probably too busy to call you that is his wife.
So take your pick.

ronald4lif:
You've every right to be suspicious of him. All comments above me explained everything that needed to be explained. We're Nigerians and we know ourselves very well. Your husband is seeing another woman, be it his other wife or just girlfriend.

Insist on going with him to Nigeria when next he want to visit. This way you could just get privy to some hidden information that could be very helpful in exposing his dark secret.

ireneony:
your husband have a wife in Nigeria.
shikena! take it or leave it!

Ipledge:
you wasting ur time my chairman

ronald4lif:
You've every right to be suspicious of him. All comments above me explained everything that needed to be explained. We're Nigerians and we know ourselves very well. Your husband is seeing another woman, be it his other wife or just girlfriend.

Insist on going with him to Nigeria when next he want to visit. This way you could just get privy to some hidden information that could be very helpful in exposing his dark secret.

Raiders:
people like you destroy marriages with wrong advice. You don't have the facts of the case and you already arrived to the conclusion that her husband is married or cheating on her.

ronald4lif:


Hmmm how. Like the OP is a dodgy character?

Ipledge:
am tired of this kind thread,I dont know when nairaland become complain site....If she won report her husband,she can go to his village

ronald4lif:


You could help her with a better advise, not just counter others opinion.

Igbowife1:
What proof should I be able to see if he has a wife in Nigeria too? Just because he doesn't call me much? What else? I've met all his family. I've stayed with them. He lived in Europe when we met for 10 years. He hadn't been living in Nigeria. How could he have another wife? I've met his son and his son lives with my husbands family because the boys mum is no good. The boy is 14. He is not with that mother. What should I ask him to find out?

Raiders:
I am not going to make any assumption till I get the facts. You should be careful the kind of advise you give here. Besides how do you know that the husband has a 2nd wife or girlfriend. There could be tons of reason why he could not call. I just hate it when people like you stereotype Nigerian men with foreign wives.

Igbowife1:
What proof should I be able to see if he has a wife in Nigeria too? Just because he doesn't call me much? What else? I've met all his family. I've stayed with them. He lived in Europe when we met for 10 years. He hadn't been living in Nigeria. How could he have another wife? I've met his son and his son lives with my husbands family because the boys mum is no good. The boy is 14. He is not with that mother. What should I ask him to find out?

ronald4lif:


How do you get the facts in a situation like this? Are we with the husband in Nigeria to get the fact and not make assumptions but fact?

When t[b]here's a question seeking public opinion people react to it based on the possibilities of the likely reason(s) or relate to it with the most common occurence. Is it uncommon for Nigerian diaspora to have a wife in Nigeria while married abroad?[/b].

Most of what the OP said, if true, is pointing to the fact that the man has something he's hiding away from her. This is not the first time he's acting in such mannerism when he travels. Who stays for a day and running to weeks without speaking to their wife for just 5mins? Is he the only busy person in Naija or the first person to set up a business. Please.

BluIvy:


Dear Missy, you know I used to think people in the family section of NL were cruel or cold when they deal hashly with people who come with such stories. But you now what after reading this i cannot hide my irritation as well.

First of all, if you thinking him not calling doesn't mean he has another wife as suggested why are you in this forum about such a minor issue? Why not wait for him to come back again and ask why he is not making time to call you after all the discussions you had?

Secondly, do you want Nigerians or other Igbos to lie to you and tell you there no phone in Igboland or what?

Do you go to forums about your small domestic issues as these all the time?

You say he would not be married as he has been in Europe for over ten years but you also mention he goes home often i guess that could be yearly or so, right? Just because you would not have a husband who sees you once a year you assume other women would also not agree to that?

If you trust your husband and his family this much why not go talk to them to call him and get him to call you?

Why come to a forum of strangers who cannot even call or locate your husband rather than his family?

You know what I think? Deep down you know something is not right but you need strangers to tell you otherwise.

I had a friend who did the samething least she was not married and didn't know the guys family, she would put up one excuse after another but she knew what was up.

My advise, go ask his family and be satisfied and when you are not satisfied then comeback for real advise on how to find information about your husband marital status elsewhere.

Raiders:
Just because its common for Nigeria men with foreign wife to cheat don't mean you should make the assumption that the man is cheating on his wife . Like I said before there could be a genuine reason for not calling his wife regularly. You should know that not all villages in Nigeria have regular network or electricity to charge his battery.
You live in the West and how would you feel if you travel to visit family in Nigeria and could not call your foreign wife regularly because of bad network or no electricity and then someone advice your wife the reason you cant call is because you are cheating back home or you got a new wife because most Nigerian men cheat on their foreign wife.
We should be careful the kind of advice we give here so we don't destroy peoples marriages

Raiders:
Just because its common for Nigeria men with foreign wife to cheat don't mean you should make the assumption that the man is cheating on his wife . Like I said before there could be a genuine reason for not calling his wife regularly. You should know that not all villages in Nigeria have regular network or electricity to charge his battery.
You live in the West and how would you feel if you travel to visit family in Nigeria and could not call your foreign wife regularly because of bad network or no electricity and then someone advice your wife the reason you cant call is because you are cheating back home or you got a new wife because most Nigerian men cheat on their foreign wife.
We should be careful the kind of advice we give here so we don't destroy peoples marriages

Raiders:
Just because its common for Nigeria men with foreign wife to cheat don't mean you should make the assumption that the man is cheating on his wife . Like I said before there could be a genuine reason for not calling his wife regularly. You should know that not all villages in Nigeria have regular network or electricity to charge his battery.
You live in the West and how would you feel if you travel to visit family in Nigeria and could not call your foreign wife regularly because of bad network or no electricity and then someone advice your wife the reason you cant call is because you are cheating back home or you got a new wife because most Nigerian men cheat on their foreign wife.
We should be careful the kind of advice we give here so we don't destroy peoples marriages

ronald4lif:


You have valid points I must admit. However, from what I can deduce you're literally more concern in not ruining the marriage than stating the most likely obvious.

For the avoidance of doubt, I have an absolute zero interest in ruining the OP marriage, and I'm sure it's same for those that commented before me. I was only being pragmatic.

I wish the OP the best and I do hope she get more resounding advise from other readers.