People have in their mind set as Love being the most important reason of settling down.
But don't you think marriage goes beyond love?
My friend has been battling with this marriage stuff, he has been looking for a Lady he could truly luv,to settle down with. For more than 5 years now but all to no avail. And age is not on his side,he needs advice!!!
Wot are the major things dat cud be considered for one to go into marriage when the true luv is not found yet? ...

Huh!!

Since he cant find a Girl in 5yrs he should hunt for Ladies.

Acekidc4:
Huh!!

Any advice bro?

iceberylin:
Since he cant find a Girl in 5yrs he should hunt for Ladies.

Error from me (gal) .he wants a lady he could luv...but he usually av just likeness for dem, he finds it difficult to find the one he cud truly luv

rexericx:
People have in their mind set as Love being the most important reason of settling down.
But don't you think marriage goes beyond love?
My friend has been battling with this marriage stuff, he has been looking for a gal he could truly luv,to settle down with. For more than 5 years now but all to no avail. And age is not on his side,he needs advice!!!
Wot are the major things dat cud be considered for one to go into marriage when the true luv is not found yet? ...

People dey marry goat now na. Must he marry girl?

Wot are the major things dat cud be considered for one to go into marriage when the true luv is not found yet?

now, this to a moderate extent is of interest to me; shouldn't love be the fücking core foundation amongst others; be the fücking key issue here; “marriage" or just fücking “others" minus fücking “true love" (which could be another fücking subject of debate “True Love" )

just fücking wonder what them fücking “others" would be

njuwo:
People dey marry goat now na. Must he marry girl?

Lol u are funny

fuckshit:
now, this to a moderate extent is of interest to me; shouldn't love be the fücking core foundation amongst others; be the fücking key issue here; “marriage" or just fücking “others" minus fücking “true love" (which could be another fücking subject of debate “True Love" )

just fücking wonder what them fücking “others" would be

Others minus true luv or it sud just be based on true luv

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Just stay single, may be its not in your destiny to marry, nobody runs away from destiny

Ezedon:
Just stay single, may be its not in your destiny to marry, nobody runs away from destiny

Infact the guy is so used to himself, dat he spend much of his time all by himself wishing some day he wud find true luv, cos he does nt want to b going around breaking innocent ladies hearts. But age is d problem. Time, and he is scared of Divorce .

rexericx:


Infact the guy is so used to himself, dat he spend much of his time all by himself wishing some day he wud find true luv, cos he does nt want to b going around breaking innocent ladies hearts. But age is d problem. Time, and he is scared of Divorce .

No time is late, true love dont fall from heaven, one need to build up love by himself, he should start taking the right step

Ezedon:
No time is late, true love dont fall from heaven, one need to build up love by himself, he should start taking the right step

Thank u thank u, but responsibility on his shoulder. He is d first son. N d only son,parents n people are looking up to him , frustration is setting in already,phew!

Ezedon:
he should start taking the right step

Wot are d rite steps he needs to start taking?

Doh he had a lady he dated for 4 good years, but after d lady got tru wit her nysc n started working, she started showing different colors n she was becoming "Unavailable", until she found the courage to tell him dat she as an Anambra lady wud not be allowed to marry an Ondo man (yoruba)..her mother said no.all of a sudden she realized dat 'Genenotype' wise dey are not compatible! and dat marked d end of d relationship. Ever since den he has been doing all he can to find tru luv.
5yrs now still waiting

rexericx:


Others minus true luv or it sud just be based on true luv

from my fücking angle; true love & “others"; to a certain extent “others" helps true love grow; to me this is the fücking crux of the issue growing in love; which is what certain relationships fücking lack today; leaving that stage of “falling inlove" to fücking “growing in love" together.

by others, I am not just referring to money alone here; motive is one; Our fücking motives can influence how we fücking feel about our intimate relationship,

Trust; how fücking trusting we are of our partner & even what we hope to gain from each other

Understanding; this can fücking help foster long-lasting & mutually satisfying relationships; meaning that understanding what fücking drives ones relationship can fücking help one to understand thier partner & how to fücking respond to each other.

for me I feel these are some of the shїt in “others" that fücking helps true love grow; but this has to be a fücking two way thing; for those who fücking want to be in a serious honest relationship, with the fücking hope of probably leading to marriage

Tell him to marry his best friend.

fuckshit:
from my fücking angle; true love & “others"; to a certain extent “others" helps true love grow; to me this is the fücking crux of the issue growing in love; which is what certain relationships fücking lack today; leaving that stage of “falling inlove" to fücking “growing in love" together.

by others, I am not just referring to money alone here; motive is one; Our fücking motives can influence how we fücking feel about our intimate relationship,

Trust; how fücking trusting we are of our partner & even what we hope to gain from each other

Understanding; this can fücking help foster long-lasting & mutually satisfying relationships; meaning that understanding what fücking drives ones relationship can fücking help one to understand thier partner & how to fücking respond to each other.

for me I feel these are some of the shїt in “others" that fücking helps true love grow; but this has to be a fücking two way thing; for those who fücking want to be in a serious honest relationship, with the fücking hope of probably leading to marriage

Wow- u are rite,dis is making sense

MzNelly:
Tell him to marry his best friend.

Dis is another good point, one sud marry his best friend.
My friend usually say sud i marry my best woman or a rite woman
Lik- a BestMan or Right man?

A marriage without love? Man I don't believe in that. Because of love, you will tolerate the other person, because of love you will come to understand the other person. Because of love you will learn to live with the other person. Because of love you last through the years even after the spark is gone and the passion has faded.

rokiatu:
A marriage without live? Man I don't believe in that. Because of love, you will tolerate the other person, because of love you will come to understand the other person. Because of love you will learn to live with the other person. Because of love you last through the years even after the spark is gone and the passion has faded.

Do u mean luv sud b d foundation. Of marriage, but is likeness not enuf, wen u can't seem to find tru luv

rexericx:


Do u mean luv sud b d foundation. Of marriage, but is likeness not enuf, wen u can't seem to find tru luv

love should be part of the reasons.

You cant have a marriage without love .. If there is no love it will never work .. Whether its love for the oerson , his family some its even money

But love is the foundation.. Then u have trust , loyality, honesty, communication .......

rokiatu:
love should be part of the reasons.

But can't luv be grown as d relationship grows,or marriage, sud one find luv first before going into marriage?
But wot sud b d core reason for one to go into it

Lala247:
You cant have a marriage without love .. If there is no love it will never work .. Whether its love for the oerson , his family some its even money

But love is the foundation.. Then u have trust , loyality, honesty, communication .......

If u mention luv dis way,den d luv has become conditional. Tot luv is meant to b unconditional wen it comes to loving. ,cos if it's conditional, d tins dat made it conditional cud fade away, n d marriage cud crumble easily

rexericx:

But can't luv be grown as d relationship grows,or marriage, sud one find luv first before going into marriage?
But wot sud b d core reason for one to go into it

I believe in love marriage so am just saying what I believe in.

rokiatu:
I believe in love marriage so am just saying what I believe in.

Everyone wants marriage dats build on luv but it seems it's rear to find dis days, if one can't find it, wot sud b other reasons one can consider.
Luv can b do beautiful wen its found

rexericx:


Everyone wants marriage dats build on luv but it seems it's rear to find dis days, if one can't find it, wot sud b other reasons one can consider.
Luv can b do beautiful wen its found

I wouldn't advice you to marry without love sorry. I believe someone else may advice you thou. Good luck.

rexericx:


If u mention luv dis way,den d luv has become conditional. Tot luv is meant to b unconditional wen it comes to loving. ,cos if it's conditional, d tins dat made it conditional cud fade away, n d marriage cud crumble easily

The bottom line is there is no marriage without love .. If they marry for other reason it will never work .
*sips red wind*

rokiatu:
A marriage without love? Man I don't believe in that. Because of love, you will tolerate the other person, because of love you will come to understand the other person. Because of love you will learn to live with the other person. Because of love you last through the years even after the spark is gone and the passion has faded.

bcaus of love u will send me an email containing ur whatsaap number,BBM pin, instagram username,facebuk username,twitter username,skype username and even 2go username. because of love u gv me all ur contact unless u dnt love me.

rokiatu:
I wouldn't advice you to marry without love sorry. I believe someone else may advice you thou. Good luck.

Hmmm,dere is a lot of sense in ur comments, luv is d bedrock,rite?