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Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by veraponpo(m): 5:07pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Dyt: You talked as if you are from another country. In Nigeria of today, marriage is more difficult for a single mum than for a spinster. It is a reality that we cannot run away from. It is a thing to have men around you but it is another thing for them to be ready for marriage. I understand your points , however, OP's points are real too , very real. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by AmaechiLinus(m): 5:07pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
well, i don't know what to say shall. Ma sit dan dey read coments |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by lockupman(m): 5:07pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Its only a man with self-esteem issues that would beg to marry a second-hand babe. As what na? Abeg speak for yourself and the beggarly guys who beg to marry you. And before you brag, check very well, 90 percent of those men just want to fiork and you know men can go any length and promise anything to see and enter 'Aso rock'. . Dyt: 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Jusome: 5:09pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
supose the young girl...aborted the baby and appear single....how wil u know...the fact she save the baby shows she values life....once you love the woman wht big deal does it make to marry her....mariage is all about Gods blessing there are 1million single dat has had sex and abortion and stil clame single and decent marrying............there is aways two side of a coin at list d fact she has a baby shows she.can give birth than marry a baren woman who has removed her womb during process of abortion 3 Likes |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by mikeapollo: 5:10pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Fairgodwin: There are various reasons and factors. But sometimes, the ladies find it difficult because they don't see things from the man's angle. Many ladies give priority to their child more than the man. Many men want to marry single mums, but the problem is most of the men would want the lady to move in alone(without the child), then the child can join and start living with them later after the couple have settled down well or after the lady would have given the man a child. But most ladies would not agree to such. They want their child to be with them everywhere and at all times. Yet, a man would need space to put things right. My advice to single mums: try and reason with the man and don't use your child against him or blackmail him. Every man needs some space and freedom to enjoy his ''new' wife. He may also not be financially and mentally ready for the child (but not necessarily because he hates or does not like him) A particular single I know lost the opportunity to marry a guy because she refused to allow her child join them after she might have had a kid for the man....she insisted that the child must be with her. It is even more complicated when the child is a boy and the father is alive! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Truckpusher(m): 5:10pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
egbedore:Whatever happened to her that first time is still chasing her everywhere. Every man carry your cross. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by veraponpo(m): 5:10pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Wedon: Are you a woman or man? |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by allanphash7(m): 5:11pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Who knows if dat is where my happiness is? franciskaine: |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by netmillionaires(m): 5:11pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
The truth is that some single mothers go still dey do shakara for people forgetting that there are lots of girls all over the place. In my case, my ex-girlfriend bleeped up big time. because I dey do after marriage sex kinda thing. She dey reason say dis guy no go get show after marriage. She will go about bleeping a guy when am not in town until she got pregnant. I don too love d girl die. I wan die when I find out. The guy abandon her and find his way and she plead with me to forgive and forget which I did. After some years we rekindle the love afair but this time I decided to bleep her. The 1st time I did, she just dey wonder where I learn the stuff because na kill I wan kill am dat day... When things get back to normal she started flirting with guys again and finally asked me to leave that she have another guy now. I cried my heart out. After 2 years in d wild she realized that most men just want to bleep a MILF, they are not willing to marry them. Now she is using style to come back; talking about y I don't call, why she like hanging out with me, why I should take her out etc. Who will expect me to still accepted her back... Been bitten by same girl twice no be here o. Fool me once, shame on u! Fool me twice, shame on me! 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by bettercreature(m): 5:13pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
cKaiser:Sense! 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Nobody: 5:13pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
In summary: 1. Worn-out bodies after birth in many cases. For example, they lose much sensation on their nipples after bre.ast-feeding; bre.asts fall out of shape and become saggy; down there opens up real wide after a child's head tears through (from being as tight as a ring to becoming as open as a bangle...feel me?; stretch marks go yakpa! etc. 2. It's usually too difficult to take her child(ren) as your own and love them the way she would want. Frictions usually arise because her child(ren) find it hard to also love the new so-called father. Consequently, the woman usually finds herself having to take sides between child(ren) and new 3. Why on God's green earth would any reasonable dude wanna take on the extra baggage when there are too many single, standing- bre.asted, tighter pvssy (maybe even virgins!), and virtuous ladies out there? 4. Single mothers, IMHO, abeg shift jhoor... If you no take second-hand husbands like you, na una sabi! 4 Likes |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by xynerise: 5:14pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Single mothers find it hard to marry because they are yet to discover their flaws and amend them Single mothers also find it hard to get married because there is this believe that they are second hand(General stereotype) which makes a fresh Bobo to think twice before embarking on an economy class flight. Single mothers are sometimes desperate and this put fears in the mind of the young Bobo who just want to have fun Most single mothers have low self-esteem 4 Likes |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by felixawe(m): 5:14pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
LIFE NO EASY O . TO CARTER FOR ONESELF HARD TALK OF ANOTHER WOMAN WITH PIKIN. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Fairgodwin(m): 5:15pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
mikeapollo: I guess you should read my post again: I said even in some cases when the lady agrees not to bring the child into her new home, most guys still turn them down. That was why I used the words, hypocrisy or insensitivity. But I get your point, though. Thanks. |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by xynerise: 5:15pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
jamillion:You will still end up settling with one with a worn-out vjay unless you don't want to have kids |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Misogynist2014(m): 5:17pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
egbedore:Because I as a man have freedom of choice 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Nobody: 5:18pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Hmmm... Every human has a freedom of choice. It isn't restricted to just men, ok? |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by DoubleRichies(m): 5:19pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Because is carelessness. A girl can tell a man am not a virgin and the man will still love her. But for me I see it as carelessness. |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by simple4generall(m): 5:22pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Simply bcoz wen God created woman he didn't create extra liability behind her. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by netmillionaires(m): 5:22pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
mikeapollo:u are so on point. Every man believe in me and my wife alone immediately after marriage. When a man marries he will start thinking about having private time with his wife. U will hardly have a private time with a single mother when U marry one except the few hours u will have at night when it is time to sleep. I am speaking from experience. Woman need to understand that men need attention too. When I dated one it was like hell. If she is not reading she is with the child. U will visiting her and will hardly get attended to except for BYE when U are leaving... The most annoying thing is when she finally get space and chose to use it to attend to other men while U watch. Haba... 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by jaybee3(m): 5:22pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
lockupman:You are asking her to speak for herself and in the same boat generalising with loose stats Do you think the term single parent is restricted to only women? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Nobody: 5:24pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
allanphash7:why pray for the least when in actuality you can get the best? An example suffixes here. Back in my days in the university, there's this babe I love so much and so she does. A churchious lady she's of which I respected her person, a strong critic of premarital sex and whatnot. Some few months after leaving school we discovered that she was pregnant for one irresponsible fella like dat, and today she's a single mother. In sum, am saying that you can still get decent ladies out there to marry and stop praying for one single mother you can't explain how she came about her baby. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by socialmediaman: 5:25pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
egbedore: We're a traditional society and our men generally do not like fathering another man's child, especially when the biological father is still alive, except the man in question is coming into the marriage with his own kids. Technically, if you adopt another man's child when you have none, he or she becomes your first child, and for many men, this is not quite what they want because many issues surround it, for instance, instead of the woman making the man her next of kin, she makes the son instead. The man also has this feeling that the biological father or his people may come for their child someday after not having been in the child's life. This question of having another man in your marriage cannot also be avoided because the biological father may have to be in your family's life one way or another, an sometimes your action towards the child may be misunderstood, like disciplining the child may be misinterpreted as wickedness but this may not happen if the child was yours. The summary is that it's a question of choice and in our society, many people are yet to embrace getting married to single moms especially if they haven't had their own kids themselves. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Misogynist2014(m): 5:25pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Justfollowit:I commented based on post. Yes, every man has freedom of choice, provided it is legal, that's why my choice, no matter how irrational shouldn't be subjected to scrutiny. To me, it is easier for a nylon to come out of a blast furnace than to settle for fairly used. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by johnydon22(m): 5:25pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Even if she already has up to 3kids, i can still marry her if i fall in love with her. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Nobody: 5:26pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Misogynist2014: Amen, I pray you.... |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by ubon85(m): 5:27pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
marrying a single moda ...1st ur parents no go undastnd. 2nd frnds |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by godoluwa(m): 5:28pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
johnydon22:hmmm. lmao 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by allanphash7(m): 5:29pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
I understand u bro but u know everyone with different flaws Tnx bro franciskaine: |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by Godmother(f): 5:30pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
jaybee3: Fixed |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by redcliff: 5:30pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Dyt: Irs people like you who dont have an iota of idea or experience would open their mouths and say anything they want. Anyway, its within your data plan. You cant exceed it. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It A Challenge For Single Mum's To Get Married? by obowunmi(m): 5:31pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Unfortunately, no man wants to take care of another man's kids. 3 Likes |
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