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Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by capricun: 5:59pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Lady, he doesn't love you. And I doubt if he ever would. Move on with your life, you're just 25 for heaven's sake 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Dyt(f): 6:03pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
egbaguy: Pay me |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by udz: 6:04pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
@OP, my dear... all i see in the marriage is bad news. U might be weak now, as time goes on if he doesnt change U might be even harder than him. alot of bad blood in ther future for tha marriage and kids. its not worth it, U need love.... he doesnt love U. get ursolf together, there are things I wud want to discuss with u off this thread. u can mail me thezorani(at) gmail dot com remain blessed |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by egbaguy: 6:06pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Dyt:tot u are 'adigun'....u no nice oooo. |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by bebe2(f): 7:53pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
very sad, but i cud seat here are write a 3000 word essay on why she shudnt marry him, but i know, she will go ahead and marry this guy. some marraiges are not meant to be peaceful. and the said man is on NL, let him come and defend himself 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by edwife(f): 8:02pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
bebe2: Exactly,i felt so drained just reading this... 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Stillfire: 8:17pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
This guy hasn't hurt you enough that is why you are still there. When you reach your limit, no one will tell you to pick race. The trend today for women like you is to make that leap into marriage and divorce later, since divorce is not as taboo as it used to be but there is still emphasis on having a wedding day not marriage to fulfill all righteousness that society demands . You are on that path. Good luck. 4 Likes |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Ewuro4: 9:05pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
What is the title again? Help me or something This Social media thingy is really having negative impact on people's real lives , so NLers will make your decisions for you Mon lo miotide |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by prissyluv(f): 9:14pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
You are not making the right decision at all. What good is left in this man that will give you an inch of happiness? My dear,you dont force people to love you,the more you love such people,the more they resent you. He is not seeing you at all,I doubt if he knows you exist. If he does only as a roadblock ooo. He doesnt love you means he doesnt love you,there is no translation for it. Pls nne,I know it will be hard for you but you have to leave this man asap. May God grant you the strength and grace to do so. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by OmoAlata1(f): 9:36pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
you need to get yourself a self esteem and think highly of yourself. That man has no respect for you at all. And you have a son for God sake, what kind of example are you setting for him when his father is treating you like a piece of shiit. Do you want your son to be like mini daddy to other women? He also had sex with you 3 wks after CS . what if your incision had ripped and you started bleeding internally? Forget about that guy, and work on your self worth and self esteem and start falling in love with yourself. How can you say you love him when you don't even love yourself? When you learn to love yourself and have high regard and standard for yourself, then the correct man will come your way. If you stay in self pity and have no love for you and not in love with yourself, even if you leave him, men like him will still manage to find you. As a woman to a woman, please learn from your mistake, get away from him and start working on your self esteem and self worth, please love and fall in love with yourself. PS., if you must have sex with him, please please use condom, you do not need anymore pregnancy in your life at this moment. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Nobody: 9:38pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Emeraldey: I have no clue what you would have us say The man has told you in every possible way that he doesn't love you why are you still sticking around? Are you marrying him or his mother What type of nonsense is this? His mother wants you alright but the man doesn't want you,can't you see that clearly ? Having a baby is not the end of the world so my dear,pick up the pieces of your broken heart and move on, whatever pain you experience today will be one hundred fold worse if you marry him,I promise you that. If you are losing your sanity now,you will surely enter market stark naked after marriage The ball is in your court A woman and a mother smart enough to get a master's degree shouldn't allow herself to be played in this fashion Wake up! 5 Likes |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Nobody: 9:50pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Emeraldey: Where is your own mother Where are your aunties? Why are you gravitating to his own family Who is your own support system? He is finding his way back because he knows he can,you are an enabler here. Lovu gba kwa oku A man is treating you like garbage and you are talking about love If your love could make him love you,shouldn't that have happened years ago? You are only 25 for crying out loud You have already wasted three full years with this man Imagine that I can't even call him names because he has shown you who he is from day one but you chose to stay because he is touching your waist Why are you still staying ? Is he the only man in your town? Let me tell you this bluntly You don't pray for situations like this,you are living in sin and praying and expecting God to hear you? The only prayer you need is how to break the ungodly soul ties you put yourself into and then close your legs firmly You berra go and check yourself for HIV and other things before we talk another thing 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Nobody: 10:00pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
bukatyne: Maybe she doesn't realize that there are 7 million men within a fifty mile radius of her that could do exactly what he does in bed and even better with more gbim gbim apparatus. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by EfemenaXY: 11:03pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
No offence, but I find it extremely irritating to be mentioned / called upon to give advice on threads such as this. Seriously. Emeraldey: 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Ewuro4: 11:35pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
I wish my benefit is transferable .... You need like 200 sessions of intense shrinking. As in Who's this dude sef , he's on NL you said, Abi I'm on a wrong thread ni? |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by capricun: 12:35am On Apr 17, 2015 |
lagunna1: Oniro oshi |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by cococandy(f): 1:29am On Apr 17, 2015 |
I Couldn't read thru half the story. |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Dheartless: 1:30am On Apr 17, 2015 |
if only I know where you stay! I would really want to see you, I will give you a wwe smack down slap that will give you the ability to see your cheeks without looking into a mirror. why do you want to live in bondage my sister? since I can't see you to slap. I sincerely beg you to move away from him and get a happy life. thank you. but if you know you are a chronic nag, again I beg you, please repent, otherwise the next happy partner will turn into another monster. |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by dinachi(m): 1:57am On Apr 17, 2015 |
@ Poster, you caused the problem totally. A guy has shown you even before you got pregnant that he does not love you. Yet you got pregnant! He made it clear that he does not want the baby at the moment but you took your own decision to have the baby all by yourself. My dear, the guy feels trapped in a loveless relationship. |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Emeraldey: 2:43am On Apr 17, 2015 |
Thanks a lot everyone for ur constructive criticism and advice, I really appreciate everyone. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Emeraldey: 2:44am On Apr 17, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Its understandable. Am so sorry. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Emeraldey: 2:47am On Apr 17, 2015 |
babyosisi:Thanks a bunch for this, may God Almighty help me to break free from the soulties. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Nobody: 4:46am On Apr 17, 2015 |
Emeraldey: I hope this thread and the responses you've gotten so far make you so angry and so disgusted with yourself and your choices that you vow not to let anyone treat you like a worthless piece of meat any longer For three years you have dished out sex thinking it amounts to love You even end up with a baby,it didn't work And you think marriage will make it better? No matter how much and how well you chop this man,it will not make any difference. You might as well stop and get yourself some respect Every second you spend with this man is a second lost in meeting your own special man Do you realize you could actually be the butt of the jokes around his friends? Imagine that Imagine him telling people how cheap and useless and pestering you are And when you call he might actually put you on speaker so his friends can hear you make a fool of yourself and have a good laugh Is that the story you want following you? I grew up with boys so I know these things I want to get you so mad that next time his blokoss starts itching him and none of the other girls are available and he comes,you have the courage to say enough is enough Don't you love yourself enough to do this for you? Don't tell me you are living with this man or that his family is sustaining you Where is your own family in all this I ask again Nne sex is not food,trust me You can do without it a while You won't die 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Dapo4u(m): 5:39am On Apr 17, 2015 |
NO, you are NOT making the right decision. It does appear to me that you are either not physically attractive or not taking good care of your look (please, no pun intended)? If you were, I guess you should have been in another relationship and perhaps, you also would have moved on. Got pregnant for him. He asked you to abort it and move on, you did not move on. He is cheating on you despite satisfying him with sex, even three weeks after CS! He disrespects you in front of everyone. He has NEVER loved you. He used you as his rebound for SEX. You can't fend for yourself, your parents take care of you. Sister, round off your MSc programme and look for a decent job to be able to take care of yourself and baby. Look up unto God and the person who truly loves and adores you will come around. Emeraldey: 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Nobody: 5:40am On Apr 17, 2015 |
Nothing I say here is going to change anything. I'm very sure you will still marry him. Know that marriage where everything seems right, is still not a bed of roses, not to talk of. . . Goodluck hun. You will be needing loads of it. This family section can be so depressing. Gosh! |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by obo389(m): 6:37am On Apr 17, 2015 |
seriously, it just baffles me to knw hw full grown ladies just like messing up themselves on relationship issues all cos d dude in question gives them d best Bleep treatment they can ever best imagine and they end up by saying "I love him and I don't want to leave him". |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by dahmie2013: 7:24am On Apr 17, 2015 |
OP, do u have a job or better still do u earn money on ur own? Or u have 2 depend on him 4 everything u need? Also, I understand ur mums fears, but hey, we're talking abt ur life here, its not ur mum dat is going thru dese, u know where d shoe is pinching u. Dis guy will soon start beating u blue black. He obviously doesn't care, so he can't take d child 4rm u, go if want 2, xcept is sumthing else keeping u. |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by temi4fash(m): 7:44am On Apr 17, 2015 |
Emeraldey: which means ur parents can afford to take care u. am sure u better to them alive than dead. pls use ur head ur life and sanity is as stake. my two kobo. |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Nobody: 8:48am On Apr 17, 2015 |
capricun: Oga mi patapata |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Bibol(f): 9:03am On Apr 17, 2015 |
I wouldn't have commented if not for my friend Phema whose comment dragged me here Lady, you have to wake up. Marriage is not a total bed of roses so if you think your baby daddy is going to change after the wedding, then guess what, you are so wrong. Its going to get worse, sorry I sound like a prophet of doom but that is the sad truth. Package yourself well, pick up the pieces of what is left of your dignity and finish your masters. Make yourself right and the right man who will love and adore you will come. Sex is not love, in fact I have tried to see hope for your union to this guy but I can't see any. His mum won't be there with you when you start facing challenges in your marriage. E go pain me small if you come back here one year from now and tell us how the guy disfigured your face. |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by freecocoa(f): 9:12am On Apr 17, 2015 |
Na wa o. Pak come and advice this lady please. This type of stories make me weak. |
Re: Please Help Me. Am I Making A Right Decision??! by Vikky014(f): 9:50am On Apr 17, 2015 |
Emeraldey:the truth is that you dnt love urslf. u hv to strt loving urslf pls,hw can u allow a mere mortal to treat you like shitdnt u think u deserve better if u marry dt man u may end up killing urslf wt rat poison since u hate urslf. |
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