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Tell Us- Must She Really Needs To Tell You She Love You B4 The Game On by fajani(m): 1:43pm On Apr 20, 2015 |
Back when we were dating, I told my wife I loved her before she was ready to say it back. I was totally okay with this and here's the reason why: I have always been the "safe guy" who waited for my previous girlfriends to fall for me before I even considered falling for them. I was very guarded in my emotions...too guarded. Previous girlfriends have always expressed more than I could reciprocate. Subsequently, I was never emotionally challenged or vulnerable. Love came too easy. I never fought for it. In fact, this had been a significant contributor for my failure in progressing in previous relationships - a failure to fully commit my emotions to my partner. In my 30's, I began to fear that I was too far set in my ways. When I met my wife, I knew I had fallen for this woman. I struggled internally about when to express this love. The old part of me wanted to wait as I usually did for some guarantee that she would reciprocate. But something about her made me impatient, crazy and excited. To quote a movie "When you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to start right now!" I came to the realization that I needed to break out of my safe zone. It was more important that I say those three words than to hear them said back. I needed to confirm to myself that I was wiling to change for this woman, that I was willing to fight for this woman. I knew with certainty that she wasn't ready to reciprocate when i told her I loved her. She deeply thanked me and instantly I was in uncharted territory. But even in the face of her uncertainty, I was even more certain that I had found my soulmate - someone that I was willing to change for, someone that I was ready to be 100% vulnerable for...because that's what love is, isn't it? The ability to intertwine your life with another - and there's nothing more unsafe about it yet nothing more comforting when realized. P.S. she has since said she loves me...and everyday afterwards. 1 Like |
Re: Tell Us- Must She Really Needs To Tell You She Love You B4 The Game On by FLAWLES(f): 1:50pm On Apr 20, 2015 |
-_- |
Re: Tell Us- Must She Really Needs To Tell You She Love You B4 The Game On by fajani(m): 2:02pm On Apr 20, 2015 |
FLAWLES:............. say something...... |
Re: Tell Us- Must She Really Needs To Tell You She Love You B4 The Game On by MRBrownJ: 2:06pm On Apr 20, 2015 |
@OP although you dont need to hear it from her, but there has to be concrete signs that she cares a great deal about you..... if she can "show" love, its even better. |
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