Could you explain further pls. I need to know what am gettin into.

[But the truth must be told; its either your going to forsake your beliefs and join him or he comes and join you which I doubt. The divide between catholism and pentecostalism in Nigeria goes deep./quote]

You exactly got and confirmed my point there. Your church is raising a lot of issue. The pentecostal church f.ucked us. Don't allow that or your man who is going to suffer. That's a fact.

But yours wld have been much easier cos she's catholic and she'd come to ur church after the wedding. But mine, am leaving to the catholic.

I just tire abeg.

She was pentecostal, I am catholic. The pentecostal church did not like that

Na wao, just like me.

But was the catholic church alright with u marrying a pentecostal

No problem. But pentecostal church has lot of regulations of where my family church allegiance should be, how to raise my kids. Basically I said F.UCK OFF.

She cried all the time as pentecostals were making it very difficult for her when she goes to church. That's another thing.

Explain please.

[ But pentecostal church has lot of regulations of where my family church allegiance should be, how to raise my kids. Basically I said F.UCK OFF./quote]

Basically they never wanted her to question authority, their aurthority that is, of the church leaders and they tried that game with me too.

hmmm, i'm sorry but i'm sooooooo lost!

what are you lost about

the church is now become something else more like a secret cult. so many regulations; the good thing is that my family is very liberal and encourages a lot of intellectual discourse. Check out this regulation that if you see a girl you will like to marry; you should tell either of the pastors before approaching the girl (You don't even know if she will say yes). The church agrued that it may be that she is engaged to another guy to which you may become a distraction (they assume that the girl is from the same church).

It sounded so unreal to me that i have made up my mind to marry from outside the church and to only perform court and traditional ceremonies. I know of a pentecostal church here in PH that allowed a member of theirs to marry a catholic who they claimed was born again in her church since she will be attending the man's church. Everyone was very amazed at the pastors decision cos it is like 1 in 5000. In Nigeria by the way it is the "in thing" to be labelled "born again" yet the nation is still the most corrupt in the world.

Yeah, that the word, born again. She wanted to know I must be born again and have all the answers and be sure. Who can do that.

I have no concept of born again. Either you are christian or you are not. I don't feel I have to show to everybody in her church that I am filled with the spirit and start shouting and jumping and doing these like that. If I want excitment I'll go to the circus. And I do not need anyone to do prophecies of where my relationship will go.

Hey Chrisd, I've gat a feelin you are being Bias and you really didnt love this girl otherwise you both would have been able to work things out. If you had this challenge and ran away. Then perhaps you guys werent meant to be.

And she wanted me to become a priest too. Hey, the church kicked her out from leading a home group just because she was seeing me. Yep, I am very biased.

Chrisd, wat church do u attend?

Anglican, why?

was just trying to find out how u could b a priest n still get married..but it's aiight now!

he's not catholic

The thing is I don't want to. And of course I had to be pentecostal, pentecostal kids, pentecostal home cell leader and very godly too. In other words, do as I say. YES SIR

I am catholic, but I live in the UK. That's the problem

you confuse me Chrisd, u just said u were Anglican, now u say u're Catholic. which are you?

@ Eddytells, were you talkin to me?

I am Italian, catholic. When I arrived in the UK two years ago I found myself in the midst of 500 christian denominations. Since the catholic church is not very prominant here I had a look at other churches. Most of the country is protestant. In the end an anglican church proposed I lead its youth group and am allowed to say what I want. My ideas on the youth program have been endorsed by the high anglican church. Does it make sense now.

I thot the Catholic church was dominant in Italy, most Italians i know are Catholic...i'm not too sure if i understand you, but it's aiight.

True, basically all roman catholic but not in LONDON. I am not in Italy anymore so I have to be used to the churches around here I suppose

so you're sayin there isn't any catholic church around you?

They are really a very small minority here. And won't get to do much compared to Italy. Small congregations and after services they all head home. So I chose an Anglican one which respects me but does also work for youths which I can lead. What you think?

No qualms with that, it sounds like you're into youth work n community service, dat's cool.

Yep, the anglican church lets me do that. Not much youth work in catholic churchs here.

Hi everyone, I want in on this discussion - I'm totally in love with a guy who is secretly going to the Catholic church. We are both elders in our pentecostal church. He is a Spirit-filled Christian man. We're considering marriage, but I'm worried about this. What do you think?