Chinom:
Mandatory ? ! Hell no. Some women will look at you in a strange if you even say ' Thank you' after each meal. Some African women are even embarrassed to hear it from their husband. In all my years growing up at home, I've never heard my dad say thank you After meals. On the contrary, he will bark that the plates should be removed. However, my mom cooks the food, but does not serve it. The maid serves it.

I am sure most Igbo wives can relate to this. Many Igbo men still live like Okonkwo in " Things fall apart". Very few say thank you to their wives after serving them food. Many wives feel uncomfortable to even hear that 'thank you' that they don't really know how to respond.

I don't think many African men say thank you to their wives for cooking for them. It is not expected. You can always thank your wife in many other ways.

Adufetohposh:
OP plz answer this man...


I hate it when someone attach unnecessary importance to flimsy things. I wonder why ur wife will be demanding for Thank you after cooking for u, Are u not her husband? Some people sure love to take credit for all acts of kindness, while some won't even want u to thank them @ all, just be a good man in all ways that's what counts.


I pray u dnt lose ur job oh, this wife of urs will tell u to worship the ground she threads on.

braine:
Its actually ungrateful of you not to atleast thank her. You think its easy to cook? I'm sure you're not used to that too. You should thank her for every single thing she does for you, to show a sign of appreciation! Plus, she may be your wife but that doesn't make her your slave.

bankai2015:
the most useless comment i don ever read, our mother of those days were dey cook like mad, them get cancer? very demonic thinking you have

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and serve me. She says that she deserves a greeting from me.

I said okay, just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be keep up greeting her each time she gives me food.

It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me, although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she reminds me of this greeting of a thing gets me angry, as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we've had issues because of it.

So daddies and mummies in the house, do you greet your wife after she has given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun?

Please let me remind you that this is not the issue of been a breadwinner or not. I beg you to forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian.

Thanks in advance.

Wedon:


Please what's the big deal

When someone serves you a meal, you should say 'thank you' . . . Be it your wife at home, waiter in a restaurant or even your cook. It's common courtesy for God's sakes.

And yes, my husband thanks me. Not necessarily out of 'respect' but out of courtesy.

braine:
Its actually ungrateful of you not to atleast thank her. You think its easy to cook? I'm sure you're not used to that too. You should thank her for every single thing she does for you, to show a sign of appreciation! Plus, she may be your wife but that doesn't make her your slave.

braine:
Its actually ungrateful of you not to atleast thank her. You think its easy to cook? I'm sure you're not used to that too. You should thank her for every single thing she does for you, to show a sign of appreciation! Plus, she may be your wife but that doesn't make her your slave.

Starieangel:
It shudnt b a demand.....my husband naturally says thank you....I feel it shudnt b a force....bt husbands shud try saying it.....aPpreciation goes a long way ooo......seems little bt it means a lot to us...well I no carry am for head lyk gala seller sha!entitled to my opinion sha!

evea:





it shows u don't study or mk research. I have done a lot of research on it as a Doctor and please think +ve. women faces hazard in health and body. OK, give it a try 10times and b in the kitchen and let ur wife don't say thanks. come back and tell us how you feel.

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and serve me. She says that she deserves a greeting from me.

I said okay, just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be keep up greeting her each time she gives me food.

It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me, although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she reminds me of this greeting of a thing gets me angry, as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we've had issues because of it.

So daddies and mummies in the house, do you greet your wife after she has given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun?

Please let me remind you that this is not the issue of been a breadwinner or not. I beg you to forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian.

Apreciation spices up relationship. Make it a habit to say thank you to her. Its a way of appreciating her effort and letting her know that you love her and you are proud to have her as your wife. But she ought not to make it look like you MUST do it. If she wants to correct you, it should be with love.

Thanks in advance.

JoeCutie:
You may have gathered enough likes and shares which you so desire, but I'm sorry to burst your bubble this way.

It's NOT mandatory to greet your wife after meal. Let's get something straight here... Courtesy demands that you greet whoever is on the table with you after each meal including your wife; but then it should be reciprocal. There are things we do without making stories out of them.

Okay, if you should (or must) greet your wife because she cooked, what about you that provided the food cooked? Oh, you don't think the man deserves even more greetings from the wife? I know why... Because it's his "duty" to provide for the family, right? Bullshit! I've heard that before. Don't you think it's also the "duty" of the wife to cook? My brother, it's one of the primary duties of a wife to give food to her husband in so far as the man provides the money.

Whatever happened to the very simple, courteous, lovely and romantic gesture, "thank you, honey" from the both parties? These are simple romantic things a married couple should do without making a case out of it. They are called "the little things that matter".

Slave or no slave, the wife has the responsibility of cooking for her husband and children.

rabimlomo:


I think men apply double standard most of the time. If the woman is the breadwinner of the family and doesn't do all the house chores, including cooking, it is these same you that will claim she is proud untop of her money.


I by no means support this wife attitude of demanding to be thanked. I think it is weird actually. However, I do not believe it is the absolute right of the wife to cook and do other house chores. If she does however, she "should" be appreciated. And yes, I think it is highly essential for both parties to appreciate each others effort, irrespective of who is the breadwinner.

We live in a patriarchal society. Men are too full of themselves. I mean, I can't imaging some people even suggesting that marital intimacy is a favour the men do for their wives . I hope things change soon.

JoeCutie:
So... Have you said anything different from what I said?

I was very loud and clear with my point: the man should appreciate his wife as much as the wife appreciates him. It's no big deal at all.

JoeCutie:
You may have gathered enough likes and shares which you so desire, but I'm sorry to burst your bubble this way.

It's NOT mandatory to greet your wife after meal. Let's get something straight here... Courtesy demands that you greet whoever is on the table with you after each meal including your wife; but then it should be reciprocal. There are things we do without making stories out of them.

Okay, if you should (or must) greet your wife because she cooked, what about you that provided the food cooked? Oh, you don't think the man deserves even more greetings from the wife? I know why... Because it's his "duty" to provide for the family, right? Bullshit! I've heard that before. Don't you think it's also the "duty" of the wife to cook? My brother, it's one of the primary duties of a wife to give food to her husband in so far as the man provides the money.

Whatever happened to the very simple, courteous, lovely and romantic gesture, "thank you, honey" from the both parties? These are simple romantic things a married couple should do without making a case out of it. They are called "the little things that matter".

Slave or no slave, the wife has the responsibility of cooking for her husband and children.

ewizard1:
When some people dashes out "Thank yous" because someone accepted their Facebook friend request...

Na to tell your own wife go come hard?

Abeg talk that thing jooor...

Bluffly:

Wifes should also try saying it for everything the husband does.

Medinat20:
Pls help me out too my fiance insists I kneel dwn and greet him everyday.. good morning good afternoon and good night..each day I do dat am his queen and d owner of his heart,anytime I dont remember he will start telling me d story of hw hes about to pay my bride price and asking me if ds is hw I will bhave wen we r married immediately I will kneel dwn apologise and correct myself..truout dat day he wunt even bother talking to me,if I ask him a que he will just b saying hmm or he nods his head..is it bcus hes in d army or its me bcus av not being married before..he knws am submissive but this issue always cause most of our misunderstandings.

bukatyne:

My hands in the air
Tell people thank you for accepting me Tell people thank you for sending me requests.
It is on NL I heard it is wrong

ewizard1:

Ha, But you're a Lady.

Ones who do it most are Men to Ladies.

Starieangel:
of course dats normal......well for me sha!

babyosisi:
I say thank you to my husband after a good ikwokirikwo
Are there other people that do this