Ngokafor:



....Mr dear i dont get your first sentence...so because i see my husband everyday,i should gum my lips and say nothing if he gives me money,gifts or surprises me with breakfast-in-bed?


...thats not nice at all,but i get your drift about the op not being brought up that way,so i guess his wife should understand.

jaybee3:

Being her husband doesn't mean he shouldn't say thank you every now and again.
Demanding for it is outrightly wrong though

Adufetohposh:
Bros calm down we are saying the same thing.

As a woman I love my man to compliment me, yes it feels good to know that my man appreciates my effort. But it's wrong to tell him to always thank me for doing my duty.


I should even pat him on d Back for eating and enjoying it, some men dnt even eat their woman's food. But that's a story for another day

njokusboy:



Failure, a wife cooking for her husband is no favour.... she is just being a wife...

Op, tell ur wife thank you after eating her delicious meal, not because, she has done you a favour, but because you appreciate her... it's courtesy...
Nd she shouldn't insist on it as though it's a right, does she thank you when you give her money for the food?
If she's the one that brings money nko, you'd not only have to thank her, you'd also need to kiss her feet

Dera25:

Thanks a lot bt am not saying that it is not right bt making it mandatory is wht I dnt like. Remember in my passage I said I do greet sometimes just dt I dnt usually remember it

Adufetohposh:
OP plz answer this man...


I hate it when someone attach unnecessary importance to flimsy things. I wonder why ur wife will be demanding for Thank you after cooking for u, Are u not her husband? Some people sure love to take credit for all acts of kindness, while some won't even want u to thank them @ all, just be a good man in all ways that's what counts.


I pray u dnt lose ur job oh, this wife of urs will tell u to worship the ground she threads on.

Stillfire:


Maybe favor might not be the perfect word to use here, but I was coming from an angle that wanted to know which culture tells you not to say thank you after a meal because the poster highlighted culture as his reasons.
Is it Igbo culture, Hausa culture or Tiv culture?
Some things we summarily attribute to culture is actually one's family upbringing.
There is no way someone gives me something and I won't automatically say thank you. I believe that's a thing of upbringing not culture.

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and served me that she deserved a greeting from me. I said okay just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be maintaining to greet her each time she give me food. It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she remind me this greeting of a thing get me angry as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we had issues because of it. So dadies and mumies in the house do you greet your wife after she have given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun? Please remind you that this is not the issue of been a bread winner or not. I beg forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian. Thanks in advance

Adufetohposh:
Bros calm down we are saying the same thing.

As a woman I love my man to compliment me, yes it feels good to know that my man appreciates my effort. But it's wrong to tell him to always thank me for doing my duty.


I should even pat him on d Back for eating and enjoying it, some men dnt even eat their woman's food. But that's a story for another day

AkinBanky:
I love your smile beautiful.

njokusboy:


Lol
I love ur signature

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and served me that she deserved a greeting from me. I said okay just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be maintaining to greet her each time she give me food. It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she remind me this greeting of a thing get me angry as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we had issues because of it. So dadies and mumies in the house do you greet your wife after she have given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun? Please remind you that this is not the issue of been a bread winner or not. I beg forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian. Thanks in advance

Babyblues:
Its just simple manners,and a way to acknowledge her
I grew up watching everyone say a big thank you to whoever prepared and served the meal,from daddy to kids.

Its not a big deal to me,however if she grew up with this.as a huge part of her life its easy to understand that she may feel unappreciated for all the effort she put into cooking and serving.

I wonder if you'll die if you say thanks darling for the wonderful food.It would also encourage the kids to say thank you as well..there's no harm in it and it's not asking for too much in my opinion.

If she's insisting,it means a huge deal to her..You can choose to indulge her or keep quarrelling.

Say thanks and with time her ears won't be seeking it out because she already knows you appreciate her without plenty words.Blow her a kiss and she will be satisfied.Rub your tummy and give her a thumbs up and you will see her smile.

Simple things

Dera25:

Bros I hail o please I mean that I was not brought up with it o. I do say thank you to anyone that do a favour to me but remembering to say it each time I ate my wife's food sometimes skipped my mind, I mean we are too used to ourselves to be observing such protocols. Am not trying to justify my action but at least such things should not be mandatory for husband and wife

lolaredvelvet:
Im surprised at some of these comments. So its now a "favour" for a woman to cook for her husband? I guess its also a "favour" that he paid her bride price, put her in HIS home rent-free, gives her money for food stuffs and other things, makes love to her, contributes to taking care of their kids (if they have any). Well, Mrs Entitled needs to also start thanking him for every big and little thing he does for her too!

She insists on the greeting. Lol. If you dont "greet" her nko? What will she do about it...pack out and go back to her parents house where she'll be greeted well for carrying out the chores?

Feminism, ego and unnecessary entitlement is slowly killing family life

braine:
Its actually ungrateful of you not to atleast thank her. You think its easy to cook? I'm sure you're not used to that too. You should thank her for every single thing she does for you, to show a sign of appreciation! Plus, she may be your wife but that doesn't make her your slave.

urchbarbie:
Ure missing d point. As for me, am not married, but when I make meals at home and no one says tank u after eating it makes me feel like am not appreciated. To me its just manners. Maybe she is trying to instill it in her husband

Like your house boy or something . We are talking about a husband here for goodness sake

Chillisauce:
Go and learn basic courtesy.

You say thanks for any favor received, whether you paid for it or not.
Thank you to the fuel station attendant
thank you to that waitress
thank you to the car washer man etc.


Learn to say thank you.

write2obi:

Like your house boy or something . We are talking about a husband here for goodness sake

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urchbarbie:
House boy? How do u mean? Is he d lord and master? We learn everyday. Even children teach thier parents stuffs