what makes a man an ideal boyfriend and a perfect husband could be two entirely different things and after the excitement of the wedding has died
down, these differences could come to you as a rude surprise. So if you are considering walking down the aisle with your partner, here are a
few clues to tell you if a man is good husband material.


1. He does things that show he cares:
A caring, affectionate man is extremely important in a journey that is as unpredictable and long-term as
marriage. Look at his actions instead
of words for evidence that he cares –
for instance when you are out walking
in the evening and it gets chilly, does
he get up to bring a blanket or jacket
or seem oblivious to your shivering.
Also someone who is truly husband
material would watch out for you like
ensuring that you arrive safely on an
out-of-town trip or drop you home
after a late night outing instead of just
advising you to be careful. Most ladies mistake a caring man to be a man who lavish them with material things, most of this guy will oneday boost to you about how much they have spend on you and why you should worship them like your God.

2. He listens to you
Like really listen instead of putting on
that dazed look and occasionally
managing to come up with an “uh-
uh…yeah...that’s right” to show that
he is still alive. He will come back from work, take his bath , take his dinner , have sex with you and after that he goes straight to Nairaland, facebook or BBM, whatever you are saying after that is like a water being poured on a rock. At the other of the spectrum are guys who jump at the chance of lecturing or criticizing their partners the moment the latter try to share something with them. Such guys forget that women talk not
merely to seek advice or exchange
information but to share their thoughts and feelings – it’s how they connect with their partners and this is an extremely important requirement if you are looking at something substantial as marriage.

3. He shares his plans of his future with you:
Notice if a guy shares thoughts of his
future with you; he may not be explicitly talking of a future that includes you, but if he likes to discuss his hopes and wishes about life, work, putting down roots and so on, chances are that he is at a point in his life where he feels ready to marry. Moreso this is a good indication that he's also dreaming about you when it comes to marriage since guys do not
really discuss their future with women with whom they are not serious about.

4. He is financially secure:
Among the top signs that a man is not
marriage-worthy is when they live off
others – whether family members,
friends or partners. Having his own
place and car are signs that a guy is a
responsible adult and are not only
capable of taking care of himself but
also of providing for a family, which is
ultimately what women have been
hard-wired to look for in a potential
mate since the primitive times.

5. He is comfortable around your family:
If a guy is husband material, he will
make himself a part of your life and that of your family too. For instance when you invite him to a family function, he will readily agree whereas a guy not interested in marriage is more likely to hesitate and ask if he must go. Marriage has been traditionally seen as the joining
of two families, so a potential husband should respect that and exhibit a natural desire to spend time with the family he hopes to be a part of.

6. He has a work-life balance:
Not all successful men can make good husbands though – a guy may be rising up the corporate ladder with remarkable speed but in turn he may be less inclined to give time to his partner and family. Guys with potential for being great husbands are on the other hand driven and productive, but they value a balance
between work and life; their hard work is often motivated by the drive to build a foundation for, and ultimately help to provide for, a family.

7. He is emotionally available
Perhaps what differentiates a casual
fling from a meaningful relationship
is that in the latter, partners are there
for each other through thick and thin.
Men who are not emotionally available are not much use to you when you are trying to juggle work, home and a family and need the help of a partner. In this context a person who offers practical and emotional support is much more valuable as a life partner than someone who
agrees to be there only when it suits
him.

8. He respects you
Granted sexual chemistry is important in a fulfilling relationship, but marriage requires something deeper like mutual respect. If the guy is worthy of being a life partner, he will be ready to see you and respect you as an individual with a mind and not just a means of making out. It has been a long and hard struggle for women to be accepted as equals,
both in society as well as in personal
relationships and this self-respect is
not something that you should be
willing to give up in a hurry, especially
in a relationship as binding as
marriage.

9. You have common interests:
While sexual attraction is a powerful
force in bringing two people together,
keeping them that way requires something much more mundane. It is
necessary that your guy shares
certain interests – hobbies, similar
choice in music and food or even
intellectual pursuits – with you. These
will ensure that in your marriage you
have something to do and talk about
together other than those related only
to chores and kids.

10. He is honest
OK, maybe not as honest as to tell
you what he really think of you in that
red dress. Rather what this means is
that a guy should refrain from lies and half-truths in your relationship. If for instance, you have caught this person more than once telling you that he is doing overtime when in fact he was out with his beer-mates, this could be a red flag. Trust is the foundation on which every relationship is built and if he is not
honest with you, maybe he is not ready for something as significant as
marriage.

NOTE-
Haven't said all the above , there is one bitter true I need to let you know, it's pretty difficult to apply the above listed facts on a boyfriend who is yet to sleep with you. This is because when working on getting in between a girl's legs, a guy can be a good actor. He can laugh when you laugh, cry when you cry, listen to your boring stories and might even happily wash your undies, but once he has succeed in getting inside , that's when he starts exhibiting his real self. So if he had slept with you in one or two occasions and still exhibit the above traits, you got a husband material for yourself , hold him tide because his kind is rare in Nigeria.

my husband material go reach to sow agbada for all nigerians and about 20,000 yards go still remain....
Am single though but not searching yet....

Am I the first to comment??
Nice points Op

Nw I beg to take my leave




The gal above me stole my space

But her post actually got me laughing lyk an idiot

If u follow all dis points, u wil have to wait for Jesus bfor u get married

Ehn husband material ko husband clothe ni....

But anyways.. Nice points Op...

*Thumbs-up



EricRichie

Decentdamsel:
Am I the first to comment?? Nice points Op
Nw I beg to take my leave

Pele, almost the FTC but you missed it. Try again letter.

No u aint switie....