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Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by dollarlander: 9:18pm On May 10, 2015 |
jayedu108: God bless you my dear. You will not perish, you will make heaven. The children of these evil world will not cut short your life. Thanks. |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by bukatyne(f): 9:19pm On May 10, 2015 |
dollarlander: The bolded not necessary I am sure If you communicate your fears to your wife with these points she will understand your POV and have similar vision. Goodluck. |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Dyt(f): 9:22pm On May 10, 2015 |
Mrs0J: He's saying thank you Thank you Thank you And the proverb means Those living in a glass house shouldn't throw stones Hmmmmmm |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Nobody: 9:23pm On May 10, 2015 |
Spot on Op |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Nobody: 9:27pm On May 10, 2015 |
Dyt: Thanks dearie 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by dollarlander: 9:36pm On May 10, 2015 |
IamforGod: 1. There is danger in your wife not knowing how much you earn. It means you are two separate people living together, only come together for conjugation release the white or creamy fluid, depends on the type that erupts from you, into her and go your separate ways. And when people see you outside you behave as if you are one. You think you are deceiving people you are deceiving yourselves because time will soon tell. 2. I pay my tithe, I give my parents their salary, use some to change wardrobes for the four when necessary and save the rest to buy lands. I want us to buy more properties that's my concern here. We are not living in an economic stable country. 3. Bros I'm working harder. I don't sleep most of the night solving problems on my computer to ensure things are okay. I bought a laptop that has 8 hers battery life with light up keyboard so that I can cut down on generator fuel. Bros, 100k too much o for now because a time will come I may not be able to work long hours it is the one I invested today that i will fall back on later. By then if I can't provide will she understand why? 3 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by dollarlander: 9:46pm On May 10, 2015 |
Mrs0J: Madam OJ, I thought you are a Yoruba woman when I read Yoruba in one of your post. The interpreter is okay. Thank you very much. This thread has put joy in my mind because ideas keep flowing from people with good will. But there are some young wives here that have not faced reality of life. They behave and talk like SHELL people wives. They dress to kill to show hubby get money, travel all over the europe for shopping, not knowing to them hubby is taking loans to meet up with the wifey needs. When oil company has the husband to go and relax at home, the money they pay the hubby minus the loans may amount to nothing and BP will rise, few months later mortuary, obituary. People save, save, saveeee 3 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by dollarlander: 9:52pm On May 10, 2015 |
bukatyne: I can understand why the bolded is not necessary tobyiu because you are a telemundo person, that's why @oloyede yabbed you the other time. 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Nobody: 9:56pm On May 10, 2015 |
dollarlander: Lol am yoruba by marriage, still learning the language. My brother as a woman, i love good things ( shoes, clothes, etc) but not at the detriment of my family's future. You reason like ur bro( my hubby), so please make iyawo to understand, heart to heart long night talk will solve the problem. 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by jany(f): 10:22pm On May 10, 2015 |
Oga wetin telemundo do u? I personally dont watch it but u keep mentioning it. I think ur main beef with ur wife is that she does not have a job. Before i comment or make suggestions y not say where u live so pple can know where to start from. What type of school your kids go to so we can measure the standard of living they are used to. U mentioned in one of your posts that you pay your parents their salary every month. Biko how much and what job are they doing for you? Do you also pay your wifes parents too or she takes from the 100k? or you dont think her own parents also deserve salary?. Why not decide how much u will give her for personal upkeep and give her that for like 2 months while you buy everything the home needs so u will have an idea of how much is actually spent then you start your discussion from there. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Dheartless: 11:29pm On May 10, 2015 |
^^^^ complete rubbish 3 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by lovinam: 11:46pm On May 10, 2015 |
Hmmmmmmm. I don't think 100k is too much. Its just ok, I will have an issue with your wife if she doesn't save from the 100k. Sit her down and ask her to break down the expenses. That's what I did some years back and still do it too. Ask her to write down every single purchase she makes daily. I mean right down to mathches or toothpick. It will help you know if she is a reckless spender or not. It will also help her cut down on her frivolous spending CHM11: |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by San2ski(m): 11:49pm On May 10, 2015 |
Mrs0J: Mrs OJ, d'yu hv a younger unmarried sister? You seem to come from a good breed. 3 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Hotstepper(f): 12:48am On May 11, 2015 |
When my hubby thought I spend a lot on feeding, I started writing down every single thing I buy even if na 5 naira and at the end of the month, I will present it to him. Infact, there was a time he went to the market to buy stuff and came back.and told.me na wah oo, everything is so expensive and feeding went from 30k to 50k cuz sometimes i.will put 1 fish instead of 2. At a point he started saying ' I won't suffer to make money and suffer to eat it' lol. Even at that, he has bought lands and will soon start building yet he's training his siblings nd taking care of his mum. I.dont think any woman won't want good thing for her family like owning their own house etc. I still think you have to discuss with your wife. Mind you, I cook soup everyday cuz no light where we are etc. We also have education fund for our kids for uni with put money every month. I don't get any allowance nd it's from the feeding that I use to do my hair but then we don't live in expensive and big city 3 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Nobody: 5:14am On May 11, 2015 |
San2ski: Thanks..... No, don't have an unmarried sis. |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Nobody: 5:26am On May 11, 2015 |
Hotstepper: My sis the struggle is real, you arr doing a good Job. We don't bring kids into this world to make them suffer, rather to secure their bright future. I always console myself that whatever i don't have now, i will have it later. That's why i don't keep flashy friends. 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by dollarlander: 6:10am On May 11, 2015 |
jany: |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by oloyede252(m): 6:26am On May 11, 2015 |
bukatyne: u too Next time find yourself a job before coming online cos that seems to be affecting you. Jobless woMAN 1 Like |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by San2ski(m): 7:29am On May 11, 2015 |
Haaaaww! Ladies have drawn their swords Op see what you caused. Now some of is who earn 40k per month are in real trouble |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by 2goodbobo(m): 11:10am On May 11, 2015 |
OP, you should even give her more than 100k considering all she does in taking care of the home front while you are out there working. House wife deserves more respect from their partners cos is not easy. I am a married man and if i was in your shoes, i will give her even more. stop moaning and groaning. If you cant bear it, get her a job and stop being stingy. 100k for a whole month in this harsh economic weather we are living him? Haba bros you should even add extra allowance for her sef. 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by mekzyjoe(m): 12:58pm On May 11, 2015 |
its strange readin som of dese comments here, i dont even earn upto to 200(150-200) so wahala day for me b dat na ...abeg bro..cut down on ur spendind n talk to ur wife abeg 2 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Nobody: 9:06am On May 14, 2015 |
jany: I think matter will be solved once wifey gets a job. I'm also in between jobs right now but hubby and I don't have money squabbles because he buys everything in the home himself, main groceries, toiletries, water, drinks, fuel for gen, baby food, kid's clothes, diapers ,dstv, domestic staff salary, etc So he knows exactly how much it costs to run a home. I only collect money for individual soups and stews when I want to cook, market is a walking distance so i send the help to get the things on my list, and then money for my hair. I no get time to argue with man for money b4 it will generate insult. So far this system is working for us. I guess it helps that I am shelving my own personal expenses till I get a new job. I was used to a relatively lavish lifestyle b4 I got married and became a stay at home mum but I'm taking this period as temporary sacrifice till I get a job and use my money to cater to my "frivolous" needs. |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by dollarlander: 11:44am On May 14, 2015 |
Mrs0J: @Dyt MrsOJ and @Dyt, I want to thank these characters that were involved in supplying real life stories of theirs and others that contributed wisely. Someone said Nairaland is not the place to get solution to my question, but I want to tell that person that he/she was wrong. I think Nairaland is the best place to get solution to issues like these because you avoid telling your stories to people, family, friends or Pastors that know you and can use your case to spite you in your presence or absence. I don't know MrsOJ and she doesn't know me. She may even be my neighbour but the e-partition between us makes it easy to share my mind with you guys. So, after all you peoples ideas, bashings and wise suggestions I sat down with my wife and I realised that I need to do more, it is not easy. In my mind I decided to add extra 40k to her monthly allowance but I told her 20 which she greatly appreciated and was very happy about it. There are problems that are easily solvable if due diligence and round table solution are applied. I was able to understand what I did not see that were happening. And I also see that, since I have been getting pay rise to be able to reach 500k salary, which is still continous, my wife also deserves pay rise. So people, thank you very much for your input God bless you. And the person that is collecting below 200k, you will be promoted to 1million naira per month. All of you will experience economic turn around that will change your stories for good. It is already happening, those who stole Nigeria money are already returning them and courts that will accellerate probation of corrupt politicians and government officials are being setup by the President elect to collect substancial stolen funds. Ah!!! Patience Jonathan da'ran(she is in trouble). Thank you guys God bless. Thread continues please, don't close it let others come here to learn and drop their first class experience. 7 Likes |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Hotstepper(f): 12:44pm On May 14, 2015 |
Thank God it ended in praise. It is always good for couples to communicate because it solves a lot of problems. Good job and may God continue to bless you financially dollarlander: |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by focus7: 1:20pm On May 14, 2015 |
Op, I am married man. By my estimation, to give considerable comfort to your family you will be spending 150k per month. At the income of 500k per month, your wife is not asking for too much, whatever income a man earn should reflect in the welfare of his family, I am not advocating for a woman to be wasteful but sir, if you goes to the market, you praise this our women for their effort. 1 Like |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by nachie20(f): 1:32pm On May 14, 2015 |
@OP: You've done well. May God bless your home and give you the wisdom to wisely invest whatever you put aside for investment. |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Nobody: 2:59pm On May 14, 2015 |
dollarlander: Am so happy it ended well and Madam got an increase(I tap into her anointing). Wishing your home peace, harmony, understanding, love, long life and promotion. |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by zed7: 3:02pm On May 14, 2015 |
Women of course will reason with their hearts and not their heads. We need to guide them. I can see them saying the 100k sef too small. To be honest, nothing is too much to spend on ur family but one must be reasonable. That you earn much today doesn't guarantee u will earn same tomorrow. Always try to live a lifestyle u can maintain so that even if things go wrong, one can adjust without getting frustrated. U don't eat all u have in one day. 500k is a lot of mny for the average Nigerian worker. I would advice u spend like someone who earns 250k. Save the rest and invest in tomorrow. We have seen many well paid people struggle after losing a job. A lot even borrow to sustain the former lifestyle. A real man is one who can provide the basic necessary comfort at all times and not one that can provide luxury for a while and then be a shadow of himself tomorrow. Meanwhile, madam should also work too. When u guys finally become really successful, u can spend 100k a day on food sef if u like. 1 Like |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by Afam4eva(m): 6:13am On May 28, 2015 |
Hotstepper:Is this in Canada? |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by tforever(m): 10:13am On May 28, 2015 |
dollarlander:if you ask me I suggest she finds something to do for herself too so that supporting the family can come from both sides. It's better that way. |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by dollarlander: 11:23am On May 28, 2015 |
tforever: Thank you!!! |
Re: How Much Should I Give Her For Monthly Upkeep by thelish(f): 6:53am On May 29, 2015 |
Floodgater:God will increase ur wisdom 1 Like |
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