Bsc:
Go and call back ur wife, reconcile with her if u love her...what if she didn't tell u she was raped ? On what base would u have judge her now? She forgived her rapist but cnt forgive her husband!!!! Huh , anoda issue will come up again in the family......u talk again...u forgived ur rapist but cnt forgive our maid!!! Is she the only wife today that was raped? Some were even prostitute, honestly I dnt like...no wonder some woman wnt say the truth about their past.. Dnt want to hear this again...d girl am dating was raped @ 12 in lagos... Full stop

babyfaceafrica:
men....why must it always the guy that should reconcidde and beg?..you beg her to love you, you beg her to sleep with you,if she slaps you you beg er that its your fault,marriage is symbiotic not one way.. you can't be serious!!!!!

AtheistD:


Because he cheated on her and got another lady pregnant. His actions are responsible for their separation. He should go and beg her.

Lanadelrey:
This story doesn't ring true. But if it is, the lady in question has the right to decide not to forgive her husband's infidelity and leave the marriage afterall marriage is the union of 2, even the bible in corinthians says divorce is wrong except for the sin of adultery. So before god and man she is allowed to decide if she can forgive this and as it seems she can't, she's allowed to move on with her life. And to the person who said she should be lucky a man married her after being a victim of rape, you're absolutely vile and disgusting for that statement. This woman has been through a traumatic experience already and knowing this country she didn't get any counseling or psychological rehabilitation after the incident and from what you say she didn't get justice either, she worked through this entirely on her own strength and willpower and knowing the stigmatization in Nigeria she must have endured her fair share of mockery but she decided to be strong and she got married in hopes of a happy life full of love with her real life Prince Charming, since this man can't be that for her, she should leave and go find happiness alone or with someone else. The man is an absolute douchebag and the only spell he's under is that of his utter selfishness. You find a broken person trying to heal, make them love and trust you, then break them even further. Humans are poison!!!

suggyspic:
They meet 9yrs ago through a friend while he was developing his property. Initially he wanted a fling with her but as the relationship progressed, he saw the gentle and unique person in her. she confided in him how she was raped by 3 boys in the community and how her family could not follow up the case at the station because they were poor. The police was demanding so much from her poor parents to prosecute the boys. The families of the boys threatened to deal with her family if they are jailed. Her family been strangers had no choice but to close the case at the station. she forgive the boys and left it to God to judge.

Nonso listened as glory amidst tear was narrating her past. He promise not to ever hurt her, while the relationship lasted. One thing lead to the other and eventually Nonso married glory in 2009 when she was 3months pregnant. The marriage was the talk of the town as the community (were she was raped) never believed she would ever get married. Nonso and glory lived within the same community.

Five years in the marriage she could not get pregnant again after she lost her initial pregnancy. Nonso became a laughing stock from his friends who knows her story and advise him not to marry her. He tried all he could medically for her to get pregnant but non was forth coming. The lab result reveal he had low sperm count while his wife had some infection and hormonal imbalance. Nonso did not believe the lab test. He went out and cheated on his wife. The lady (outside) got pregnant and told Nonso. Nonso did not believe her, but told her to abort the baby if it was true. The lady informed Nonso's sister, who advise her to keep the baby that she would take care of her and the baby.

She gave birth in January this year. (beautiful baby girl) and Nonso learnt about it in March. Nonso could not believe the conspiracy, he accuse his sister of deliberately trying to brake his home, he vowed not to have anything to do with the lady and his child. Nonso's wife heard about it (God knows who told her), she confronted Nonso who did not deny or accept but told her the hold truth. Rather than stand by her husband, she dropped her wedding ring and parked out of the house.

I have deliberately changed names to cover identity. Please advise.
Is nonso under a spell?
would you advise the lady to abort the girl considering the yrs of searching for a child?
Now that the child is born, is nonso action still logical?
if you are the wife, would you end your marriage?
is there a way out? No insult Please, the deed has been done.

kaima1984:
if am d wife, I wunt leave my home for any reason,wat Nonso did ws annoying n betraying BT d deed has been done and forgiveness will b d right thing t do instead of leaving home

SAMBARRY:
5minsmadness sometimes you exude so much intelligence other times you display so much foolishness that I don't know where to place you.wa kan sha soro shaka sha. O ga o

fyneboi79:
She didn't forgive her rapists,she only let them go because her family could not obtain justice. As for her husband,he should continue to seek her forgiveness.

FrancisTony:


I smell LIES and fabricated story.

If it's true, then, that woman is so foolish.

suggyspic:
They meet 9yrs ago through a friend while he was developing his property. Initially he wanted a fling with her but as the relationship progressed, he saw the gentle and unique person in her. she confided in him how she was raped by 3 boys in the community and how her family could not follow up the case at the station because they were poor. The police was demanding so much from her poor parents to prosecute the boys. The families of the boys threatened to deal with her family if they are jailed. Her family been strangers had no choice but to close the case at the station. she forgive the boys and left it to God to judge.

Nonso listened as glory amidst tear was narrating her past. He promise not to ever hurt her, while the relationship lasted. One thing lead to the other and eventually Nonso married glory in 2009 when she was 3months pregnant. The marriage was the talk of the town as the community (were she was raped) never believed she would ever get married. Nonso and glory lived within the same community.

Five years in the marriage she could not get pregnant again after she lost her initial pregnancy. Nonso became a laughing stock from his friends who knows her story and advise him not to marry her. He tried all he could medically for her to get pregnant but non was forth coming. The lab result reveal he had low sperm count while his wife had some infection and hormonal imbalance. Nonso did not believe the lab test. He went out and cheated on his wife. The lady (outside) got pregnant and told Nonso. Nonso did not believe her, but told her to abort the baby if it was true. The lady informed Nonso's sister, who advise her to keep the baby that she would take care of her and the baby.

She gave birth in January this year. (beautiful baby girl) and Nonso learnt about it in March. Nonso could not believe the conspiracy, he accuse his sister of deliberately trying to brake his home, he vowed not to have anything to do with the lady and his child. Nonso's wife heard about it (God knows who told her), she confronted Nonso who did not deny or accept but told her the hold truth. Rather than stand by her husband, she dropped her wedding ring and parked out of the house.

I have deliberately changed names to cover identity. Please advise.
Is nonso under a spell?
would you advise the lady to abort the girl considering the yrs of searching for a child?
Now that the child is born, is nonso action still logical?
if you are the wife, would you end your marriage?
is there a way out? No insult Please, the deed has been done.


if the deed has been done which we know cant be undone what are u now saying?

cococandy:
so because of that she owes him her life and happiness?
Whether he married her or not, she's still a human being with dignity that should be respected.

Not saying he's done something totally unforgivable. The fact that he doesn't want to have anything to do again with the outside lady and is really sorry it got to that, maybe a reason why she could consider forgiving.

But don't bring her past which was no fault of hers into the equation. She was raped and so what? She turned to a low grade human being who should feel lucky a man married her?
What is wrong with you?

5minsmadness:




I was surprised to come and see the number of people quoting my post and praising me for "encouraging" the wife to pack out!

A man who took a woman back to the home of her disgrace (if indeed the rape story was true) and married her there with pomp and pageantry is a man of honour in my book!
So he slipped when the issue of infertility reared it's ugly head, he is not a god, he is not perfect. It was not enough reason for madam to pack out, and like u said IT IS HER LOSS!

The paragraph of her packing of was meant to be dripping sarcasm! I was amazed most people didn't catch that but then again I'm tired of explaining every post on nairaland. Those who have wisdom will decipher while others can remain in thier folly!


I disagree with you on one point though.



Nonso 's child is an illegal immigrant! He may have gotten his green card but that doesn't mean he didn't enter the country illegally Since he is the son of both the father and the mother he has no right to enter the communion between nonso and his wife. That would be classless, insensitive and wrong. Some women will poison the child since u want to force him on her. Haba, would u agree for your sister to be treated same way in her own home? No! The law can wrangle whatever they want but the boy remains with the mother unless nonso's wife accepts him into the union between nonso and her, period!

I have so many mentions but decided to answer this one. Other folks can draw thier analogy from her pls.

bukatyne:


A disgrace?

Hmm!

airzzee:



You also do not know the circumstance that brought about the sleeping and pregnancy. Do you think only ladies are raped these days? He might have been seduced, drugged or something...

5minsmadness:


See Palavar!

Nonso has low spérm count, yet he Impregnated a woman outside on first attempt.

Madam was raped by three boys. Two of exes have told me similar stories. Both turned out to be false

ERCROSS:


broh.. Pls, how did u come to discover that the bolded was a lie from ur ex...
Coz v been noticing this is d best lie they can cum up with to draw sympathy from guys