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Marriage can be very blissful,with all the romance and all.But it can also be very heartbreaking (ask alot of married women and men).Now,more than ever when divorce and serial infidelity is a norm,you have to think,think,think and think again before you decide to tie the knot.Before you take the step to get married,you need to ask yourself this very simple,yet serious,questions,among others; Am i really ready? Is this person my friend? Does this person make me happy? Is this person capable of being a life partner? Is this person ambitious? (Insert important questions to you). The 4 very wrong excuse to get married are; Money,Love,Sex and Age.These reasons put people into prisons.

Some people get married for money,some for love,some because of good sex and some because they feel they are running out of time.But the truth is this,these are very wrong reasons.Money depletes,many marriages have witnessed this firsthand.Love withers,sadly.Even libido drops.Marriage is way more than you see in the media.Even more than people tell you...waaaaaaay more.Some people who marry for money have had it dawned on them that money really isn't everything.Some people who married for love also have seen that love isn't the best reason for marriage.You have to treat marriage the way you treat business investments.You should put yourself first,yeah,be very selfish.When investing,you don't put only one factor into consideration,rather you put all factors into consideration.Do that in marriage also.Put ALOT of factors into consideration and make sure the factors will be in favor of your marriage,else,don't proceed.

Here are some pointers to help guide you

1. Are you ready-Some people marry based on various flimsy reasons,but the very first question you should ask yourself before you get married is,AM I READY? You certainly can answer that,if you don't indulge in self-deceit.

2. Do you love the person-In as much as love isn't the single best reason to get married,it is very important,don't rule it out.

3. Do you consider the person a friend-Friendship is another very imperative factors in marriage.As i said earlier,love withers,but where there is friendship,there would still be a marriage.

3. Does the person strike you as ready-It is not enough for you to be ready,to love the person or consider the person as a friend,the person has to be ready.Marriage is a very bold and intense step,you have to be psychologically and emotionally ready to go into it,else,you would be stepping into your own unhappiness.

4. Are we sexually compatible-Sex is a veeeeery important aspect of marriage,read some posts on here and you would get the message.It is so important that it should be one of the very important thing you consider before getting into marriage.Are you both sexually compatible? If it you believe in marriage before sex,then you should as yourself if your partner is going to be willing to educate his/herself as regards sex.Will he/she be willing to try new things as you would? There are marriages where the only thing wrong is sex,and it sometimes crumbles the whole system called marriage.

5. Is this person a decision maker or a push over-This is sometimes overlooked,until when you're in the marriage,you would then realize it is one very important attribute.Your man should be able to take sound decisions for the family,and as a man,you woman should be able to take sound decisions for your family in your absence.

6. Is this person ambitious-Ambition tells you whether this person would be supportive when the time comes or not.If your partner is ambitious,you know you have someone to fall to when you hit a rough patch.But if not,your worries increases more than it would have.

7. (Insert your important attributes here)


Finally,don't get cornered into marriage,don't get sweet mouthed into marriage,don't get bought into marriage,don't get f.u.cked into marriage,use your head,except you plan to jump in and jump out,or live in a self-imposed sadness.Marriage is the sweetest thing,but it can get very nasty.God's intention for marriage does not include divorce,that is why they say "till death do you part".The difference between a man who rushes home after work and the one that stays late at work or diverts to a bar,is their decision making process that led to the marriages.The difference between a woman who discourages admirers and the one who encourages them is in their decision making process that led to marriage.Be wise!

This is my two-cents on this matter.

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This all applies to marriages with femals, Juat marry a man, thats the sweetest thing that can happen...

Jeddy100:
This all applies to marriages with femals, Juat marry a man, thats the sweetest thing that can happen...

Think again sir.It applies to marriage to both the male and female folk.