1. His height. Don’t cross someone off your
list of potential future mates just because
he’s not tall enough. There’s nothing wrong
with not being attracted to someone (you
can’t force chemistry), but don’t ignore an
obvious connection just because he’s not
physically the kind of person you normally
date or have pictured yourself with.
2. His body type. So he’s not as buff as the
last guy you dated. But the last guy you
dated was a jerk who didn’t care about you.
Looks don’t last anyway. Dad bods FTW.
3. Whether or not he drinks. Instead of
freaking out because he doesn’t like to
party or enjoys a few drinks here and there,
give them a chance. Even if you’re staunchly
for or against some habits, you should get
to know the person first.
4. If he still lives at home. Tons of
Millennials still live at home, so don’t sweat
it if a potential love interest is trying to save
on bills or pay off college debt. If this is why
he’s living at home, that’s probably a good
sign — he’s fiscally responsible, which
bodes well for his (and potentially your)
future.
5. His age. If you like the person you’re
with, it shouldn’t matter that he was too
young to remember the ’90s or too old to to
have watched the same Nickelodeon
cartoons as you. What’s important is that
you share the same values and are obsessed
with each other now. Or, as Owen Wilson
says in Wedding Crashers, see him as the
counterpoint to your soul.
6. Your gut reaction to his appearance.
Whether you are typically drawn to the
clean-cut type who gets his shirts
professionally laundered or just love a dude
with piercings and tattoos, don’t let
someone who looks different from your
“type” influence your perception of his
boyfriend potential.
7. What your friends think. It’s never bad to
have your friends and family meet and offer
their opinions on your potential life partner,
but unless they’re getting serious ax-
murderer vibes or perceive a major problem,
don’t take it to heart if you disagree. If they
think he’s potentially physically or
emotionally abusive, you should be listening.
If they think he’s kind of loud or annoying
or “not talkative enough,” you shouldn’t
worry.
8. What he does for a living. Unless his job
is something actively horrible, like
designated puppy kicker, don’t let it frighten
you off. He also might not fit the stereotype
of others in his profession. Not all finance
guys are total douchebags, after all.
9. How many people he’s slept with. He
might be way more or less experienced than
you. Don’t let his relationship history make
you feel weird about the fact that he’s slept
with more or fewer people than you.
10. How many serious relationships he’s
had. He might be a serial relationship person
or never have seriously committed to
anyone before. We all know from Fifty
Shades of Grey and After that men can
change. So at least give him a chance.
11. How much his interests align with
yours. Sure, it’d be great if you’re both
mega-athletes who bike 18-mile trails on
the weekends, or cinephiles always going to
the movies, but someone with way different
interests can open you up to new
experiences. And that can be romantic and
fun and wonderful.
12. His sense of style. Whether he spends
his whole pay check on Saville Row suits or
wears the same old cargo shorts every
weekend, it doesn’t matter. (If things get
really serious, you can always throw away
the cargo shorts when he isn’t looking.)
13. If he’s well-travelled. People can be
smart and wonderful and not have had the
opportunity to explore other parts of the
world. See it as an opportunity: You can
explore together.
14. If his previous partner was really hot (or
not). It says nothing about his tastes or
how shallow he is or how he feels about
you. You’re not competing with his exes —
they’re gone because he likes you and not
them.
15. How much money he makes. Not all rich
people are snotty and terrible, and plenty of
people on the lower end of the income
spectrum can make you happy. Life’s true
riches come from the heart … or something.
I don’t know, just don’t be shallow.

Then wetin for matta?

Love is no longer blind Ooo

wetin come matter nau

women might still take it in.. but never tell them how bouyant your partner's pocket doesn't matter.

#1,#2,#3, #5, #8, #14 and (sadly) #15 are all about preferences, and therefore a person has all the right (and should) disregard someone they do not feel a connection with, due to these facts.

#4, depends on how old the person is, and his desires in life...... a man who still lives at his parents home and is over 30 is not independent and, should probably get his priorities right and focus on getting his independence before thinking of dating (although there is nothing wrong with him dating at this stage, to each their own).

#6, as you wrote, your "gut" feeling should be enough to let you get closer or step away from that person. what people certainly shouldnt do is go with about anybody just "because".

#7, although a second opinion isnt wrong, you certainly should NOT automatically dismiss them. good friends only want the best for you, and know you best anyway.

#9, #10, dating/sexual history is all down to each and everyone. there is nothing wrong with a person wanting ONLY to be with a virgin (or someone who has never dated seriously before), nothing at all with that.

#11, this is only down to whether that person is OPEN MINDED or not. there needs to be something that you both can engage together, if there isnt any then you guys would be on 2 different world and could never branch and do things together.

#12, if looking at that person makes you cringe then there is NO REASON to try to get closer to them, unless you also hope to change their dress sense (wrong). throwing his clothes wont help anyway since he will simply buy the same stuff again.

Size or physique, family/tribe, complexion and education background.

Dem ladies should just plop for every guy then