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Re: Ladies Talk To Me by cococandy(f): 5:13pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
True mizcyn: |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by freecocoa(f): 5:14pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
I keep hearing "is he not a man, he must cheat" it's annoying that people just expect the woman to bear it, like that's how it ought to be. Sometimes I think Blazay's method is the best,. Seriously though, I won't let my happiness depend on anyone, if I ever have to stay with a cheating man for whatever reason, I definitely must have a hot stud somewhere, and even staying, depends on how committed he is, to my not finding out about it. I can never accept disrespect from any man.(context) 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 5:21pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Zi: This is funny to me after being sooo obedient to God a man cheats and you become a cheat yourself to "show" him in the process becoming disobedient to God after being so obedient while single. Who told you he wants you to live for him? What if living for him makes him miserable? Live for yourself. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by KissesandWine(f): 5:21pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
If a man knows that he is unable to rid himself of his cheating habits, he should stay single and void of marital commitments and responsibilities. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Zi: 5:31pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
andromida: *Edited Sorry I quoted you. Just read your post over and decided its not worth haggling with you. Takia. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 5:49pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Zi: Don't be sorry didn't mean any bad. I just had to ask. |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by dinachi(m): 5:49pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Clowns! He cheats, you cheat, what is the difference between you two? Both of you are cheats! And don't start trying to give me any reason. I am sure he also had his reasons for cheating. I will not damage my personality to get even. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 5:50pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: This is so profound Wow |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by bukatyne(f): 5:52pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
dinachi: @Bold: Excellent Let that integrity also extend to you not cheating in the first place 9 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by 5minsmadness: 5:56pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
This is gonna be good! |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by bukatyne(f): 5:57pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Babymama1: That is why I hate those stay for your kids advice with passion... Let them live their lives please Which MIL who has a loving husband come and torment her DIL? The one who has a job or something doing nko? There are some DILs beg to visit them... They do not even have the time. I have an in-law who after retiring was retained as a consultant. Had a nice relationship with hubby b/4 he died. She doesn't even have time for all those rederede. Imagine a woman whose husband cheated, battered and ignored having a son who cherishes his wife... Na die be that except the woman is a special breed Or the one who took her son as her husband? You now what to snatch him Strange they rarely disturb their SILs.... They want their daughters to be happy. It is well 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by edwife(f): 5:58pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
To each his/her own. I will not be caught cheating on a man because he is cheating.God forbid!I will rather leave than choose this route. “The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury." One more from kanulia:When you begin a journey of revenge, start by digging two graves: one for your enemy, and one for yourself. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 5:58pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
dinachi: Talk of the devil and he appears with a forked tongue Di di welcome 10 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by KissesandWine(f): 5:59pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
dinachi: How about no one cheats at all? Problem Solved! 9 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by dinachi(m): 6:00pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
bukatyne:You still don't get it do you? The point is I am not gonna let a cheating or abusive or bad spouse affect and or alter my own personality. If that happens then it simply means that you have always been a cheater all your life but was just waiting for justification! It is like saying you will rob people because you were once a victim of armed robbery. 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by bukatyne(f): 6:03pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
dinachi: You have seen bukatyne and that will obviously colour your perception. I agree with you 100% (bolded that portion and said excellent) and said your integrity should ensure you do not cheat. I agree with you hombre... Maybe this once 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 6:03pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: I had not made that connection till now I always would think impossible MILs who won't back off are just nasty women or women who love their sons so much and are only watching out for his welfare and inadvertently going about it the wrong way,this is the first time I am making the connection that many of these women were probably neglected by their own husbands and stayed for their children,built their lives around their sons and now cannot stand seeing another woman being treated the way she would have liked to be treated. This is an epiphany 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Zi: 6:04pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Babymama1: Thanks dear. I understand the need to go into marriage with the right mindset. But some stories from married people are damn too annoying! See what Abuja prostitutes look like: https://www.nairaland.com/2357744/abuja-prostitutes-protest-enough-enough Do they look any classy, or intelligent? Can't you see how fat and unkempt they are? And here is a woman that her parents gave their best for, sponsored her education abroad, a foolish cheat sits on it that she will not work! To what end if not for financial dominance She tries to keep fit, reads helpful books, tries to be a good wife and mother, and her husband still cheated on her! I simply don't understand except the lady told us a single story. 7 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by BABE3: 6:05pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Babymama1: I think I liked that post after I read it. It's a big message. Making other people our source of happiness is dangerous and very selfish. - Dangerous because humans are very unpredictable. A woman that revolves her life around her husband is playing is big fire. If and when he dissapoints her, she's forced to find her happiness in the nearest place; her kids; her only source of joy. - This is where the selfish point comes in. The poor kids are now to live up to standards her husband failed to live up to. She become excessively attached to her kids, hiding her clingyness under the name of "love". Women like that make up a good % of bad MILs. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by bukatyne(f): 6:05pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Babymama1: Lols! I just like to view stuffs from all angles and the end result. |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 6:07pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Zi: Go to marriage seminars in every church the population of women to men there will be 5:1 Married and single We are the ones reading books The ones attending the seminars How will that work when the marriage involves two She is learning all that while he is making appointments with ashawo 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by bukatyne(f): 6:09pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
BABE3: It is more of the sons and by extensions their DILs who suffer it. That woman would want the best husband for her daughter... the husband who does what her husbands never did for her. That's why I am always weary when I hear MIL - DIL stories I detest stay for your kids advice a lot. It ruins the kids .... on all fronts. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 6:09pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: Ladies Talk To Me by cococandy(f): 6:12pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Is that not the argument that made some people want to eat me and bukatyne raw some time ago. Lol. Babymama1: 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 6:15pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
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Re: Ladies Talk To Me by KissesandWine(f): 6:17pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Nonso23: How is it the other way round? |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by bukatyne(f): 6:18pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
cococandy: We don tey for this game 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Stillfire: 6:18pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Babymama1: Lol. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by cococandy(f): 6:21pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
bukatyne:and as you can see it is still too complex for some slow pokes to understand how enduring a bad marriage in the name of staying for their kids and hoping their kids will be their source of comfort after decades of patching life in the miserable union can make some women clingy towards their kids and in turn be a stumbling block for those kids to move on in adulthood and have their own independent families devoid of unnecessary interference. Keep simplifying it until the slowest pokes get it Goodluck to you. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Stillfire: 6:21pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
bukatyne: Don't forget how they also channel the wickedness and aggression to the housemaids, gatemen etc. Nigerian women are the biggest culprits in being inhumane to housemaids. You wonder where the anger is coming from. |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 6:22pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Zi: 6:23pm On Jun 04, 2015 |
Someone said, "if he cheats, you cheat, then both of you are cheats". Lol. Lemme not bother my head with side comments, if you wanna talk to me, quote me. For now, the lady in question is fast finding out that nobody really cares about her good-wife-ship, no trophy, no freedom, no regard, no respect, not even husband or MIL respects wife's position in the family. Button line: being good doesn't always pay. We are both cheats, I FULLY accept. Its a rough world dear. 2 Likes |
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