Nonso23:

What is love ?

standd:


Teach me, I want to learn.

UjSizzle:

Deal with others as you would with yourself.
Deal with others as Christ with us.

Love is forgiveness and second chances.
Love is rebuke in the face of wrong.
Love is sharing laughter and pain.
Love is vulnerability and strength.
Love is sacrifice.
Love is the most powerful charm there is.

Love is many things and love grows. We haven't fully mastered it as human but we're learning. And when we learn to become less self-conscious and stop placing strict expectations on one another we just might reach perfection.

UjSizzle:

Deal with others as you would with yourself.
Deal with others as Christ with us.

Love is forgiveness and second chances.
Love is rebuke in the face of wrong.
Love is sharing laughter and pain.
Love is vulnerability and strength.
Love is sacrifice.
Love is the most powerful charm there is.

Love is many things and love grows. We haven't fully mastered it as human but we're learning. And when we learn to become less self-conscious and stop placing strict expectations on one another we just might reach perfection.

Babymama1:


I loved and still love my husband and that I consider very necessary for marriage and the primary ingredient..I got married at 23. when I analyze it now as a mature adult I know like ramdeuter said that there were certainly other ingredients to that thing I called love.
My number one quality in a man is his intelligence.
While someone may be in awe for a tall buff man, I would for a man with mucho intelligence.
So for me love will not exist without super smarts.
Perhaps for some that love wouldn't exist without him having money, for me a good career choice and potential of making a comfortable living was good enough.
Could I have loved a man who was very smart and chose to work as a high school teacher?i don't know.

snakebeat:

How much will u pay?

standd:


Our opinions differ and love doesn't sustain anyone. Only deep-rooted convictions and the ability to separate what's necessary from what's not, will suffice. Every human have their limits, as long as they have not reached breaking point, people will try to uphold what brings them comfort and joy.
IMO, it is love that finally erodes with time, especially for those who mistake lust and affections for love.

standd:
@OP, some will marry for reasons far from love, and along the way, they grow in love. And some will claim to be in love, when we all know that the feeling of 'love' is just a short infusion of hormones that will erode with time. The things that sustain long-term marriages and relationships are more solid and deeply rooted than this hormone-induced love...
So, if I LUST a man enough, and we both make enough money to keep body and soul together, plus we respect ourselves, have mutual interest, stay loyal and trustworthy through the years, then I will gladly marry him...
Love to me, is just like religion BIG BIG English to confuse the people

My opinion oh.

standd:


What did I just say? Love is all these BIG BIG English abi

UjSizzle:

Of course love isn't food. But love breeds hope and is motivation.
Perhaps our differing opinion stem from what pedestal we place love? Love isn't the leaf that needs sunlight. Love is the root through which everything else is fed.
Your convictions stem from it.
Your mutual respect is all love.
This trust you speak about? Love too.
Eliminate love and see if you feel the same way about a person. Better still think about someone you truly despise and see if your feelings remain the same.

Just because we do not recognise it for what it is doesn't nullify its existence.

standd:


50litres of petrol?

standd:


Love is/was possible. Just that global warming, selfishness and pollution have destroyed the cerebral zones that are meant to feel and give true love

UjSizzle:

Yes o Love is everything. And love is nothing in particular. It's like this big[b] invisible bubble in which we float [/b]

That's like asking what/who is God ni. Who has a perfect answer to that huh? But I bet when we figure one out we'll know the other too.

Babymama1:

What is love in our human terms?

standd:


But I don't like bubbles, or floating or these fake feelings that leaves you high and dry when fate slaps you with her mighty hands

Justfollowit:


You are keeping it real

snakebeat:

But I need raw cash....

standd:


You can feel love for everyone, I know. Humans are capable of love.
My searchlight is on love, in relationships/marriages, in NIGERIA .
I can argue from now till the end of time, Love (The true meaning of Love) in relationships and marriages is practically non-existent. It is giving what you have to get what you want.

UjSizzle:

What did Nigerians do to you this woman?
I'm sure whatever issues you have with this topic holds true for the rest of the world.

I already said before that we want to get into these relationships for personal reasons first. Then if we're lucky to find someone who shares our reasons too, we marry them.

BABE3:
"Romantic Love", monogamy and religion are man-made concepts to make us feel more complete and happy. Results of civilization.

Humans are animals. We are selfish, liars, greedy and bla bla. A baby isn't born knowing what love or religion is. We teach babies how to love, and who to worship.

So, love is what you make it to be. Love is super volatile. It's not unconditional. It's just a floating concept in our heads, shaped by Disney movies, romantic movies and books, other people's love stories and so on.


What is real is sacrifice. Tolerance is real. Understanding is real. Empathy is real. Those are the ingredients needed for any successful relationship of any kind, not "love".



Romantic love, sèx and lust are all synonymous.

standd:


This is Ujsizzle's forte

standd:


LOL dear, I don't watch telenovelas, all those kinda love flicks that makes one puke..lol plus being a realist is hard mehn.

Babymama1:
If I were in the market today for a husband I know that my definition of love will have money at the top and lots of it too
Even if he has no blokoss I don't care, as long as he has lots of cash that I can lay my hands on
I will love him to pieces.

standd:


The question should be what have I done to Nigeria...lol
See, the people I see around me these days don't act like they know what love is oh, really.
Good to know you believe so much in love though

cococandy:
Even god's love is not unconditional.
If you don't play according to his rules, you know what's up according to the scriptures.

So live can't really be 100percent unconditional.
There's are characteristics you love and you will tend to fall in love with someone who possesses them. That's the condition right there.
If that person weren't that way, you wouldn't love them.