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Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by UjSizzle(f): 9:17pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Babymama1:Lol But isn't that just attraction? It can be a prelude to love, but it isn't love. And yup I believe our preferences attracts us to suitable mates (natural selection? ) and when we're satisfied with our choice we can get on with the business of giving our heart. |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:18pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
UjSizzle: The love you speak of is agape, right? |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by BABE3: 9:18pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
standd: Tenk you o. My Friday turn-up is hereby going to be epic! |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:20pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
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Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by snakebeat: 9:20pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Babymama1:The word 'love' is ambiguous. So many virtues are embedded in that word. When the grand word 'love' begins to dissipate, then these virtues begins to surface. Love also has its shortcomings.... 2 Likes |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:20pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
BABE3: lol I have just #57 in that account though. Sorry 2 Likes |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:21pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
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Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:23pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
UjSizzle: Lol Like oshio and his babe |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:25pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
standd: When you have kids entering college you will understand.money rocks. 1 Like |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by UjSizzle(f): 9:26pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
standd:Agape, yes. And the other romantic one (what's it called again?) because I won't be with someone I didn't love with my soul. That's why it's hard for me to accept that a woman should choose a good man and eventually she'll "grow" to love him. Yeah there are people who testify to that, but that shii ain't my thing. |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:28pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
UjSizzle: Eros. How do you know these things@the bolded |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:32pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Babymama1: hmmmn, I agree. 2 Likes |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:34pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Another thought i would like you all to weigh in What do people mean when they say I don't love him or her anymore What are they really saying? 1 Like |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by snakebeat: 9:41pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
standd:Why not in naira, dollar or pound? Why gambia currency? Be dat as it may, u have tried. But I hope d naira equivalent of this 2mil bututs is not 20naira? Class begins 2mao. |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by bellong: 9:44pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
It is no compulsion to marry who you love but it is of great importance to love who you marry. Love is not an emotional feelings or butterfly cring when you see the person. It is a decision to be just, fair, caring faithful to your marital vow to whoever you marry. Love can sustain a marriage by my definition of it. However, the emotional love is only a mirage that can hold any union for long. It will fade one day and the lovebirds would become sworn enemies. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by limamintruth: 9:45pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Babymama1: Yes. I strongly believe that true love should be the bedrock of every marriage foundation. 2 Likes |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by raumdeuter: 9:49pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Babymama1: It means Those characteristics I used to admire in him, he either doesn't have them again or (most likely) I have realized those characteristics arent really very important in the grand scheme of things. E.g You love someone because he/she is fine, later you marry or move in together and discover he or she is lazy to the bones, and self centered Even though he/she still has those physical features, I have come to realize there are more important things in life than the initial features I liked in him Or a girl who loved the village wrestler because he was the strongest man in the village, Later in life upon expose realizes that physical strenght doesnt really count in life unless you want to be a manual labourer 2 Likes |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by cococandy(f): 9:50pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Babymama1:yea I know and that love is constantly there for anyone who's willing to embrace it by repenting and coming to him but sinners who refuse to repent will be cast in hell 'unless' they Is the repentance not a condition? It sounds like a condition to me. See me theologizing TV where are you? You're needed here Biko. |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by UjSizzle(f): 9:52pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
standd:You just do. I can't think of any suitable explanation. |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by bukatyne(f): 9:57pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
standd: Dangote that is divorced the third time? 1 Like |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 9:58pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
bukatyne: 'Dangote' is just an example used in place of wealthy men just as 'Baba kafayat' is for poor men |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by BABE3: 10:00pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
cococandy: a big condition, coco. This is to show anyone that unconditional love is impossible. God himself is not capable of loving unconditionally how much more the minions he created. If his love was unconditional, everyone will go to heaven, since we're all created by him. However, we have to accept and worship him and his son before we can be worthy of his love/heaven. Condemning your kids to eternal hell is not love, talkless of conditional or unconditional. |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 10:01pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
UjSizzle: I know what you mean, when you find this person, you may likely end up as best friends |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by ihedinobi2: 10:02pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
I think the movies confused us all about what love is. For some reason it has been made out to be a rush of endorphins. When you see someone and you are drawn to them, especially that kind of attraction that typically works out in kissing and getting friendly physically, then you're in love. Otherwise you're not. I personally think that's a fraud. It's part reason men don't bother as much with marriage now as they once did. Too many women to feel that way about. Convenience? I think that's mercenary. But then some really good things start out in the worst ways sometimes, so.... What I believe about marriage is that it's about two people who either share or are willing to share a common ultimate goal in life. The whole endorphin rush actually is consequential in nature. I know for certain that it happens that people go from totally unattracted to sexually inseparable simply because some kinds of bonds are formed. So if two people are willing to consider having each other's back through life I'm certain that everything else will follow. That commitment to sharing destiny is what love is. It is the stuff that boils over into all manner of beautiful things. 2 Likes |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 10:04pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Babymama1: The effect of the love-hormone has worn off, now I can see clearly. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by bukatyne(f): 10:06pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
standd: Ok |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 10:09pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Ok, Ihedinobi2 is here Great 1 Like |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 10:13pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
snakebeat: Gimme your phone number and the last 4 digits of your ATM Card number, so I can transfer your 2million Bututs through GT-transfer..fast |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by cococandy(f): 10:13pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
@babe3 yea. But that said, You may agree with me that conditional love is not a negative thing like some people might want to see it. Without conditions, love would be subject to abuse. It would be taken for granted by those who are receiving it. I'd say those are the ways in which we are like God.(for those who believe in him) He hates wickedness, and so unless you're ready to not be wicked, you're not eligible to be in his kingdom. Same as for me a human. I love you yes. But if you're going to abuse me and stuff like that, you're not eligible to be in my life. My love is still there and when you're ready to drop that behavior that keeps getting in the way, we will be together. But until then, bye. |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by ihedinobi2: 10:19pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
standd:Were you looking for me, standd? |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by Nobody: 10:21pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
ihedinobi2:Not really, but I know 'love' is your forte too |
Re: Must Marriage Be About Love? by BABE3: 10:23pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
cococandy: I agree, it's not negative. 1 Like |
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