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Confused 18+ by misspicy(f): 12:05pm On Jun 10, 2015
a 24 year-old lady who has been dating
a guy for about 4 years now.
He dis-virgined me when I was 22 years old,
which means we dated for aproximately 2
years without sex.
My pastor revealed to my mum that he is
my future husband and that we are destined
to marry each other. He was detailed, telling
her his names, state of origin and even
described his physical appearance
accurately. All this was to convince me that
his revelation had to be genuine.
About the guy, he is a caring, loving,
handsome and a God-fearing guy. He loves
me and I know it, he treats me like a queen
and has introduced me to all his family
members including extended ones home and
abroad. And they all claim that it is the first
time that he will be doing this.
But recently, he started acting funny. He
gets several calls and text messages from
several girls. Some girl sent me an invite on
WhatsApp. One time, she updated her
profile with photos of her and my
boyfriend, kissing. I acted like I was cool
with the girl, not letting her know how I
actually felt. She probably thought that I am
an ex girlfriend of his.
I saved those pictures and showed them to
my boyfriend. He begged me and promised
that he’ll let the girl go. We settled our
differences and things were fine again
between us.
Earlier this morning, he came around. He
had forgotten to clear his conversation with
the girl. I went through his chat and
discovered that they had fought but
reconciled. My boyfriend sent her some
‘missing you’ and apology messages when
she found out that I was his girlfriend. I
confronted him again but this time around,
he threatened me with a breakup.
I locked my door and hid the key because
he vowed to breakup with me if he found
his way out.
About me: I am a model, tall, slim, dark-
skinned and beautiful. I won the most
beautiful girl award for my department. I
am any guy’s choice.
The question is: should I continue to beg my
boyfriend just because it has been revealed
by my pastor that he is destined to be my
husband in future? I know God can’t lie but
I can’t continue to beg just to hold a man.
Or should I open the door and let him out
of my life? Will I have a better option? We
understand each other so well, we fight less
and play more. I love him so much but I
can’t keep begging him my entire life. What
do you think?



disclaimer:all content of dis post is not mine and not my experience...just want to to wat u guys tink she shuld do incase....
Re: Confused 18+ by elantraceey(f): 12:09pm On Jun 10, 2015
Forget what anyone says and dump him before he does that, No guy should ha e such control over you in a relationship, Love is shared not begged for . When he comes back to his senses he'll come back . God's plan for us is not of evil but of good so he won't give you a man that will cause you pain .
Re: Confused 18+ by ronald4lif(m): 12:10pm On Jun 10, 2015
The question is: should I continue to beg my boyfriend just because it has been revealed by my pastor that he is destined to be my husband in future? I know God can’t lie but I can’t continue to beg just to hold a man.
Or should I open the door and let him out
of my life? Will I have a better option? We
understand each other so well, we fight less
and play more. I love him so much but I
can’t keep begging him my entire life. What
do you think?

Your pastor is now God

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Re: Confused 18+ by JeffreyJamez(m): 12:15pm On Jun 10, 2015
.. first the guy with a cheating babe in 6/3years ...now this?!
... who is releasing you people nA?!! undecided
Re: Confused 18+ by Emodeee: 12:20pm On Jun 10, 2015
misspicy:
a 24 year-old lady who has been dating
a guy for about 4 years now.
He dis-virgined me when I was 22 years old,
which means we dated for aproximately 2
years without sex.
My pastor revealed to my mum that he is
my future husband and that we are destined
to marry each other. He was detailed, telling
her his names, state of origin and even
described his physical appearance
accurately. All this was to convince me that
his revelation had to be genuine.
About the guy, he is a caring, loving,
handsome and a God-fearing guy. He loves
me and I know it, he treats me like a queen
and has introduced me to all his family
members including extended ones home and
abroad. And they all claim that it is the first
time that he will be doing this.
But recently, he started acting funny. He
gets several calls and text messages from
several girls. Some girl sent me an invite on
WhatsApp. One time, she updated her
profile with photos of her and my
boyfriend, kissing. I acted like I was cool
with the girl, not letting her know how I
actually felt. She probably thought that I am
an ex girlfriend of his.
I saved those pictures and showed them to
my boyfriend. He begged me and promised
that he’ll let the girl go. We settled our
differences and things were fine again
between us.
Earlier this morning, he came around. He
had forgotten to clear his conversation with
the girl. I went through his chat and
discovered that they had fought but
reconciled. My boyfriend sent her some
‘missing you’ and apology messages when
she found out that I was his girlfriend. I
confronted him again but this time around,
he threatened me with a breakup.
I locked my door and hid the key because
he vowed to breakup with me if he found
his way out.
About me: I am a model, tall, slim, dark-
skinned and beautiful. I won the most
beautiful girl award for my department. I
am any guy’s choice.
The question is: should I continue to beg my
boyfriend just because it has been revealed
by my pastor that he is destined to be my
husband in future? I know God can’t lie but
I can’t continue to beg just to hold a man.
Or should I open the door and let him out
of my life? Will I have a better option? We
understand each other so well, we fight less
and play more. I love him so much but I
can’t keep begging him my entire life. What
do you think?



disclaimer:all content of dis post is not mine and not my experience...just want to to wat u guys tink she shuld do incase....


The contents are yours, dats all.
Re: Confused 18+ by kolatobs(m): 12:21pm On Jun 10, 2015
pastors are not God
Re: Confused 18+ by VickJames(m): 12:21pm On Jun 10, 2015
Relationships are not spiritual. Break up immediately.

If the prophesy is true, he'll find his way back changed and ready to settle down.
Re: Confused 18+ by yorubaboiy: 12:22pm On Jun 10, 2015
GOD cant lie bt man can..... u gas to move on



























with me wink
Re: Confused 18+ by Brytawon(m): 12:25pm On Jun 10, 2015
This is a rare case stupidity.
You beg a man to stay in your life? There are more than 2billion men in the world for her to find the man to treat her right. Let me tell you sometime; no woman can ever change a man after marriage. Did God give you a womanizer as a husband? Remember He said, 'The plans I have for you are of good and not evil; to give you an expected end'.

My opinion duo!
Re: Confused 18+ by Gold45(f): 12:27pm On Jun 10, 2015
misspicy:
a 24 year-old lady who has been dating
a guy for about 4 years now....................................
disclaimer:all content of dis post is not mine and not my experience...just want to to wat u guys tink she shuld do incase....

This is a very tricky issue.
That he has been revealed as your husband does not mean he is no longer a man.

My advice:
1. Pray to God to return his heart if he is really yours, This is where all your fight and agidi should be. If he is yours and you lose him, hmmm you may not find another. It may even be that he is not the actual one but resembles the one.
2. Let him go (remember you are praying) if he is yours, he will come back.
3. Respect yourself, don't lose your dignity or take rubbish insults or do things you will not do on a normal day just because you wish to keep him. What type of relationship do you want to have with someone you are begging to love you? If you are destined to lose him, sex or slaving for him will not keep him, and after many years when u must have gotten over him, you may not be able to see him and walk with full confidence.

#knowyourworth
Re: Confused 18+ by Davivah: 12:29pm On Jun 10, 2015
let him go... if he's urs, he will come back as a changed person
Re: Confused 18+ by Emodeee: 12:30pm On Jun 10, 2015
@op, U r a model, U r slim, tall, beautiful and recently u won d award for the most beautiful girl in ur department. with all these qualities that u mentioned, I'm in luv with u. I'm single, let us mingle.


Here is ma number 07069690214419.
Re: Confused 18+ by Edwardhead(m): 12:33pm On Jun 10, 2015
[size=20pt]I cant just be telling you to stay in that stupid relationship when I'm stil Single[/size]

Break up with him,
Dont be a dumb girl!

Your pastor bla bla... What if the guy dies, will your pastor still be saying all those bla bla bla...?
Re: Confused 18+ by GeneralQuamdeen: 2:38pm On Jun 10, 2015
If truly your pastor can forcast... He should come and forecast a Bet9ja game withe me...
Re: Confused 18+ by henribj(m): 10:51pm On Jun 11, 2015
uhm misspicy , do you know your bible well? God told Abraham his wife would have a child right? how long did it take for her before she finally conceived? How long did the Israelite's wander before they finally got to the promised land?
What am trying to say is these, because your pastor says God has revealed the guy to be your future husband does not mean it will come to pass right away, who knows, maybe you both are destined to break up and go your separate ways and then later in life you both will reunite, the ways of God and his plans and purposes are truly a mystery.
so that's that.... NEXT ??

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