Infaithfulness in Relationships

Nairalanders! Let's come down to these allegations of unfaithfulness. Who is more unfaithful and causes heartbreak in a relationship? The man or the woman?

men

Ofcourse most of the time..is Men...may God help them

MEN

Both!

I think it's even.

I say this because women are unfaithful but don't really admit it.

Women have the tendency to get emotionally connected to another man which is also unfaithfulness

@vexxy
I disagree. As long as there isnt any affair between her and the other man, she isnt unfaithful.
Its not a sin to be tempted but a sin to yield to it. Lots of married men too get attached to  d other woman but the responsible ones fight it consciously. We r humans.
As long as there isnt an affair between them ..Its not infidelity yet.
Anybody can get carried away . But the essence /beauty of relationships comes when u both makes conscious efforts to stick together regardless of these "temptations".

So you don't think it's cheating if you're wife has an emotional affair with someone else?  It only counts if you're physical?

When she's hurt she no longer talks to you, she calls to talk to him
When she's happy, she no longer talks to you, she talks to him
She's become connected with him and it's not cheating?

Thats already an affair. It doesnt have to be sexual. I thot u meant ...just trippin for sum1 else.
Maybe i didnt get u well. But i feel if she's trippin for someone else. Its not infidelity. She's human but when she acts on it like the scenario u just painted ..then she's cheating.

Women are more bothered by the idea that their man is "truly in love" with the other woman - the emotional connection. That's why some cheating men have been able to get forgiveness by claiming "she means nothing to me, it's you I really want".

Men are more concerned about the actual sex. They only care about the emotional aspect because they know that, generally, when a man enters a woman's head, it's easy for him to enter her ---ts too!

As for the idea that a woman who is dating should not fall ("trip" for anyone else, I think that's very wrong. if you want her all to yourself, marry her. A relationship that has not led to marriage can be broken anytime if a more suitable partner is found.

seun: As for the idea that a woman who is dating should not fall ("trip" for anyone else, that's utter nonsense. if you want her all to yourself, marry her. A relationship that has not led to marriage can be broken anytime if a more suitable partner is found.

True. Unfortnately there are a lot of broken marriages as well due to the fact that one or the other believes they have found a more suitable partner.

I think men are unfaithful, because men feel that they are superior and so
they can do whatever they like, men will be messing up here and there
but if na women u go hear say the man dont give ham red card. So men
are unfaithful.

in nigeria its the men and that is very sad

Here in Africa, I believe men have more tendencies to be unfaithful, because in Africa, men are seen as laws unto themselves and our society does not really frown at them when they are discovered with Mistresses and all what nots.
On the other hand, when women are found to be cheationg on their spouses, it is seen as an ABOMINATION!
African women tend to go for the Emotional attachements with other men, which is also the same thing as cheating, but more often, when women are dissatisfied with their marriages, they tend to suffer it alone in silence and wallow in their unhappiness for the sake of the children and also because of the stigma that comes with an unfaithful wife.
In the Western world, women are more Liberated and independent so they tend to do as they would please like the men do.

Well to me, they can both be more unfaithful. It is just a pity that men's own come out most often because they cannot hide it and for women, we are more secretive than men.

MEN are worst than women in this case. It has become an almost natural phenomenon for Nigerian Men to keep an extral marital affairs. It all bore down to our attitude and perception of what marriage is. Some people looked at their wives as a tool to keeping the house safe against all odds,some men looked at them as a companion. It all depend on which camp you choose to belong to .

worst as this phenonmenon has become, our parents and probably those saddled with the responsibility to bringing us up do not help matter. They beat their wives, abuse them and assault them in presence of the children. we therefore, grow up having the picture of woman as a tool to use as robot. She cook and wash the man clothes. his family member will come around and all her effort to impress them will yield no result. He subject her to all manner of insult even in presence of her children.

Islamically, it wrong for a man to raise his hand against his wife, it is more so when she wash for u and face all ill treatment. The wonam is to be treated like angel and accorded serious respect.

Unfaithfulness is as a result of our perception about marriage. when we looked at mariiage as an institution to be reverly respected and binded to, the better for us and this will reduce the scourge of unfaithfulness.

Upbringing has alot of role to play in this case. Parent MUST learn to be faithful while the children are watching.

in my own view, woman are still more faithful,coz one they fall in love that's all

Can believe this? Does it mean that 99% of men are unfaithful? Now if it so, what %age of women are faithful? They make men do it. No woman can say she is faithful to her spouse wether married or not. When they are not doing it, they are thinking of doing it.

Sorry, but that's my view. Don't crucify me. ;d ;d ;d I also know it is 50:50

No we wont............. there's freedom of expression in nairaland but abeg, nor shout

Thanx sis, but have you been unfaithful once?

"Ofcourse most of the time..is Men...may God help them"
Queen dear, have you ever been unfaithful once, just once?

mckaycee:

Thanx sis, but have you been unfaithful once?

Ha! why now?

Fabian and unfaithful resemble?

As for me it is women who are unfaithful,because in case were by two are dating and along the line maybe something happen and the man can no longer meet up to the woman demand what happen next she we quit and find someone else;so women are unfaithful.

The simple truth here is none is more unfaithful. Unfaithfulness among the two genders is equal. Men do it at the same rate as women do, both here in Africa and in the western world.

it the women cos they get so easily interested in nice things when they have problem with there men...but the men brakes heart alots..women dont have the liver to do that instead they keep away.....

Hum,

I think that men usually tend to stray when there is a lack of respect for them, no peace in the home, and /or the wife/girlfriend becomes unattractive to them or intimacy is with held.

I think that women tend to stray when their emotional needs are not being met.

At any time in any relationship these things can arrise. That is why I think the number is pretty even. If not 50-50 then maybe 60-40 men leading.

I think that the man has more probability of being unfaithful. the woman too can fall a victim too. Besides most times, an unfaithful man cheats on his woman by having an affair with another unfaithful woman. It takes more than morals to be faithful...

Good point PPG

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..............Besides most times, an unfaithful man cheats on his woman by having an affair with another unfaithful woman....

The woman doesnt have to be unfaithful to date an unfaithful man. Most times she is unaware of the man's unfaithfulness.

Not these days again Layi. Majority of them knows what they are going into and they don't care because they believe there is maturity, understanding and financial capability in it.

Layi, I really understand your point. But let me ask you, as a man, have you been unfaithful to your girlfriend (because I know you have one)?

Na wah for you oh! i know Layi has not been unfaithful to his girlfriend, cos he told me so, he'd rather let her go if he has any issues he thinks would lead to unfaithfulness.
How about you mckaycee, have you been unfaithful?

Motee:

Not these days again Layi. Majority of them knows what they are going into and they don't care because they believe there is maturity, understanding and financial capability in it.

....and does that make the lady unfaithful?
I still insist that most of the unfaithful men cheat wit single ladies not engaged/married ladies.