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Once a maid reaches puberty, every discerning woman should know that it is time for her to go. It is simple as that. Self-control or not, male organ has brought a large number of great men and heroes down. What makes a woman think her husband will be an exception?
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INTROVERT:
All parties are to blame but the biggest blame is always on the man.

I don't understand u.

freecocoa:
Konji is not responsible for it, Konji made the man Hot, we all know but deciding to sleep with the maid is a decision the man made alone.

Like seriously, u mean he should seek ur advice b4 sleeping with the maid ? She cares for him too dear and she be human being ooo

Adesiji77:
It depends on the circumstances....

While a wife would be too careless to bring in a "full-figured" maid (I can't think of any other word atm) into her matrimonial home despite knowing that she has a randy husband, you must not lay the blame on the woman should there be an incident of infidelity.

The woman should not create a vacuum that will lead the man into temptation.

Ultimately, a man must take control of his "vessel" and take responsibility for his actions.

. Lol...atimes even if d maid is as ugly as hell, men still Bleep them

tartarus:
What the hell?? So if I cheat on my wife she is to be blamed?? What nonsense! Many Nigerian men have a terrible way of thinking. How would I leave my wife and then go and Zap my maid?? Why can't nigerian men have self control?? *spits*

Many of you saying why can't she do all the chores by herself, how many of you men can juggle house chores, babysitting and work?? Why can't u put yourself in her shoes?. So if I cheat on my wife I'll tell her I did it cos she couldn't do the chores herself?

Why women leave men like tartarus to marry those horrible men is what I don't understand. Well done sir.

Kemizee:


Absolutely hilarious this..Failure on the part of the woman?
Failure because she is unable to tame a dog of a husband who is a disgrace to her and zip up??Sleeping wid an housemaid is so small time.It is an aberration,a terrible crime.No right thinking man who has discipline shud ever contemplate it.It's losing ur authority.Your dignity over a plate of porridge(Housegal's fanny in this case).No matter hw tempting or seductive,the housegal appears,the man shud stamp his decency as a tag all d time.The man is to blame.I dnt see it any other way and am a man by d way

There is hope. Well done.

Toks2008:


People talk about maids as if they are not humans too.

Some made are more sexy looking than Kim k and just because they are less priviledged does not stop oga from seing those curves.

My advice is for wives to hire minors who do not have conspicous sexual features.

Really, hire minors just because her husband lacks self control?

Aminat508:
This long standing anomaly of men sleeping with house helps even in most times ending up the woman leaving her matrimonial for the maid....who gets blame?
does the wife takes a greater blame by leaving the house maid to run everything in the house...even attending to the man's needs

while she plays madam sitting doing nothing nd forgetting her wifely duties

The man is very innocent. Blame the wife and the maid!!!

bee444:
No one is to blame! But don't you ever leave a housemaid alone with your husband. Men are as faithful as their options. Regardless of faith or strong will, a man will always be a man. Please don't bring the idea of " I trust my man". Trust is when it does not relate to women. Men are very adventurous, and curiosity they say kill the whatever.

Nature can't be defiled. The most powerful are struck down by the power of the punany. As faithful and God-fearing as I am, I couldn't take my eyes off my wife's sisters when they came visiting. As soon as I made the move on one of them, she reciprocated. God came down that day to save me... I was about entering that promise land, then a knock on the door.

eww

Are you serious? Kai you must be joking!

INTROVERT:






1. It's well known men bleep ever thing in skirt whether she carry front and back or no carry. Even girls that are old enough to be their daughters or younger sisters.

2. Take a chill pill. Did u marry a slave. Most of you marry just because u want a cook cleanker and bleep partner. All men know how to do is go out to work, drink afterwards and come home and ask for food. Be considerate at least because every working woman tries to balance work and family duties which is just not easy. If I cook food can't my hubby come and assist me to wash plates while we chat. He will just be in the parlour watching film and after all that work he will still want to climb. Mtscheww don't make me vex.


3. Killing current is relative. We know it's you men that suffer from quick expulsion most and also can't get it to stand when its needed the most.

@bolded,

So wotz d big deal abt quick expulsion?

You call it quick expulsion, I call it sudden climax !

cococandy:
Can it? I figured we are in the business of blaming others when someone cheats.
#iamjustmessingwithyou

cococandy:
Can it? I figured we are in the business of blaming others when someone cheats.
#iamjustmessingwithyou

I thought you were being sarcastic

mekadinho:
WHEN UR HUS-B IS ATTRACTED TO UR MAID, U SHOULD KNW, THAT'S IF U R WISE, COS D NO1 SIGN IS ALWAYS THERE, AND DAT IS, EITHER HE APPRECIATE ANYTIN {EVEN SILLY TINS} SHE DOES, OR HE DOESNT TK U SERIOUS WHEN U COMPLAIN TO HIM ABT D MAID, YES, DATS D NO1 SIGN... TREAT D FVCK UP WHEN MATTER STILL DEY GROUND.
WHEN UR MAID DRESSES MORE SEXY DAN U DO, WHY BLAME D MAN WHEN HE CHOSES B 2 A, I HATE WOMEN WHO TIE WRAPPER EEH... WOMEN TOO DEY FALL HAND, WRAPPER MAKES ONE LOOK OLD NAA... WHEN A WOMAN DEY TIE WRAPPER AND D HOUSE MAID DEY WEAR SPAGHETTI N BOMB SHORT, NO B D MAID U GO......

@bolded

But na d wrapper make sense pass o...ur wife or housemaid, na to use 1 finger comot am & there u av 'Eve' in front of u!

Guy, datz heaven!

INTROVERT:



It's just in you men's blood to put your thing in any thing that wears skirt.

Men most times initiate such adulterous relationships and even when its the maid that does the man still has the power to refuse and sack the byatchh.

Even if your wife for any reason can't satisfy you it's still your duty to understand her and teach her and work with not chasing your maid in the kitchen

it is not in my blood to say no to free toto

Many men are too useless.
There is nothing you lot are good at, even taking responsibility for your actions is a problem. ....except the guys that agreed that its the mans fault.
Those ones are awesome.

omooba969:


@bolded,

U r very funny seriously! It's nw become d man's duty to take on d role of a teacher & work wit his wife on hw best to satisfy him...lolz

Hw will d guy start sef, is it by watching porn movies wit his wife or lecturing on doggy, 69, scissors, wheelbarrow, touch-ur-toe, horse-riding, mouth action, freezing-up or body-painting?

Baby girl, a dull&lazy wife is inevitably up for a surprise !

So its not even the mans responsibility to teach his wife how to satisfy him?
Lmao.
Men are something else.

freecocoa:
So if I can afford a maid, I shouldn't, just so my hubby don't cheat? What sort of reasoning is this?

Don't be perplexed.

It's obvious some people's way of seeing things is very erm... I'll wait until I find a suitable euphemism for it.

deejay2x67:
I thought you were being sarcastic

sarcastic ke?

For wetin na?
Everything is someone else's fault jare.

sweatlana:
Woman sleeping with the gate man, who is to blame?

Some posts are just absolutely useless!

the husband

Oga calm down.
If your wife cheats on you too she gets to blame you for it.

That way, none of you is at fault. Lol.

Pls don't take some deluded opinions you read on nairaland seriously. Where do you think the 21 million insane people in Nigeria come to express their opinions?

tartarus:
What the hell?? So if I cheat on my wife she is to be blamed?? What nonsense! Many Nigerian men have a terrible way of thinking. How would I leave my wife and then go and Zap my maid?? Why can't nigerian men have self control?? *spits*

Many of you saying why can't she do all the chores by herself, how many of you men can juggle house chores, babysitting and work?? Why can't u put yourself in her shoes?. So if I cheat on my wife I'll tell her I did it cos she couldn't do the chores herself?

Devil. Who else?

Aminat508:
This long standing anomaly of men sleeping with house helps even in most times ending up the woman leaving her matrimonial for the maid....who gets blame?
does the wife takes a greater blame by leaving the house maid to run everything in the house...even attending to the man's needs

while she plays madam sitting doing nothing nd forgetting her wifely duties

number one to blam is wife for living all her works for the girl, number two to blam is man for lack of wisdom(this obeying jesus teachings) three the girl why did she open for the master to have sex with her? so all sin,.

babygirlfl:


Why women leave men like tartarus to marry those horrible men is what I don't understand. Well done sir.

there aren't many of them like that to go round. Those of them like that are bullied to show some 'alpha' traits.

Maybe by poking anything with hole that comes their way. Who knows

Guys Guys! this question for you all,CAN YOU MARRY A LADY THAT CANNOT COOK? if she doesn't know can she learn?

Aminat508:
This long standing anomaly of men sleeping with house helps even in most times ending up the woman leaving her matrimonial for the maid....who gets blame?
does the wife takes a greater blame by leaving the house maid to run everything in the house...even attending to the man's needs

while she plays madam sitting doing nothing nd forgetting her wifely duties

Aminat, I assume based on ur post u don't want our honest responses since you have already formed an opinion on the issue. In other words, u're not being objective since u blame the wife already.

I blame the husband. There are marital vows to be respected, you are committed to ur wife, reneging on any promise made is betrayal. At any rate, wife n husby must av made the decision to hire a maid so...or will d husby be like: 'I didn't imagine she'd be this irresistible'? No excuse, adultery is adultery.

I also blame the maid for taking what does not belong to her, that is stealing. If Madam like, let her turn her husband to playstation or candy crush that's her wahala. OP, if ur roomy for hostel dey careless wit her fone, u see am, kolobi d fone com begin use am, no be stealing be dat? Ehn ehn! Na serious gbegen for u be dat.

As for the wife, I am not wearing her shoes so I don't know why she needed a maid in the first instance.

babygirlfl:


Really, hire minors just because her husband lacks self control?

You might thinks it's funny but that's the mentality behind child labor in the name of housegirlism that's rampant in Nigeria.

Some women believe they are protecting their marriage by not hiring mature ladies who could 'seduce' their husbands.
So they go for children.

The blame should be on d man, there is no reason no matter what to come so low to sleeping with the house maid...even if ur wife isn't performing her duties and u want to cheat at least it will make more "sense" sleeping with some outside rather than house maid.

As a man if u must cheat at least do it in away that ur "dignity" and "reputation" still remains.

Lmao

Papyamanda:
Guys Guys! this question for you all,CAN YOU MARRY A LADY THAT CANNOT COOK? if she doesn't know can she learn?

the first two.

Damn.

Aminat508:
This long standing anomaly of men sleeping with house helps even in most times ending up the woman leaving her matrimonial for the maid....who gets blame?
does the wife takes a greater blame by leaving the house maid to run everything in the house...even attending to the man's needs

while she plays madam sitting doing nothing nd forgetting her wifely duties

You see your life? Who told you that women with maids just sit and do nothing?

Oloruko, the man should be blame most. I be in personal responsibility. Even if the wife is leaves the house for maid to run everything does that gives the man the right to sleep with maid? Forces outside of one shouldn't always determine what we do. So if the woman leaves home for her younger sister or her own mother, the husband will sleep with her abi?

Aminat508:
This long standing anomaly of men sleeping with house helps even in most times ending up the woman leaving her matrimonial for the maid....who gets blame?
does the wife takes a greater blame by leaving the house maid to run everything in the house...even attending to the man's needs

while she plays madam sitting doing nothing nd forgetting her wifely duties

I recently stumbled over an article with the following caption, and somehow, item numbers 6, 7 and 10 provide answers to "research question" on hand:


"30 RULES FOR GODLY WOMEN"


6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.(Gen 2v24)

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility. (Eph 5v33)

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter if time before another woman takes over theat duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long(even the anointed ones) (SS 7v12)


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